Help Us Find a New Home
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Last year, I came here and begged for your help to replace my wife’s car. And you did the impossible. You made it happen. You single-handedly bought a new car for my family. And I can’t thank you enough for it.
Today, I’m forced to again ask for your help, but in a slightly different way. Frankly, I feel like a jerk for doing this. I feel greedy and selfish, but I’m desperate to the point of suffering panic attacks nearly every day.
I need your help in finding a new home for my family and me.
This coming November, our lease is up and we can’t renew it. For the last several years, we’ve been blessed to be renting a condo at a discounted price.
With that discount (and the condo) going away, we’ve taken a hard look at our monthly income and compared them to the buying or renting new potential homes. We can’t make it work without help.
Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not expecting you to help us outright buy us a home (though I definitely wouldn’t refuse it). I’m asking for help building a buffer or giving a little extra.
What We’re Facing
With the status of Laura's job and my job, we’re having a hard time finding ways to get enough money to pull this whole thing off. I don’t have many other options, especially as I’m still in recovery from what happened last year in with my 6-month medical leave and Laura is spending most of her days either working or wrangling two children.
In fact, our girls are among our biggest concerns. Caitlyn will be going into the 3rd grade and Tali will be going into Kindergarten. We need them to be able to go to good schools. We need to be especially careful with Caitlyn, as she was just diagnosed with autism and ADHD. She also has a specialized academic plan to help her catch up at school. All of this means we need to be careful about choosing our new home. And of course, it needs to be in a safe area.
The Reality of the Situation
If you can’t do anything, please understand that it’s fine. I’m posting this with only a desperate hope, not any expectations. Many of you are in similar situations, underpaid and struggling to make ends meet. I get it and it’s okay. So many already gave to us last year in tremendous amounts to help us with the car.
The only reason I’m doing this again is because of your kindness. Because I found out just what people could do when you were willing to bare your heart and tell the truth.
I hate doing this, not because it makes me look weak. My blog posts about my war with mental health should show you I have no fear of appearing weak. No, I hate doing this because I feel greedy. I asked so much from you a year ago and you did things I never would have thought possible.
How to Help
If you're willing to help us—and no pressure, really—I've set up two options for donations.
1. One-time donations help build on the small saving account we have stored away for a downpayment, first/last month’s rent, security deposits and the like. This can be done in the following ways:
- GoFundMe (of course).
- Ko-Fi
- [email modificata] (Please select friends/family otherwise PayPal takes a cut)
2. Monthly donations for the express purpose of helping us pay rent and other new bills. I’m handling this entirely through Patreon.
Thank You
As I’m sure most of you know, finding a home is one of the most stressful and complicated things people have to do. When you add the concerns of your family and keeping a job to provide for them, it’s even more stressful. The last thing we want to do is uproot our girls any more than absolutely necessary. Southern California is a difficult place to live, but for a lot of reasons, it’s where we need to be.
No matter who you are, no matter if you can help or not, thank you. Thank you for at least reading through this. I do appreciate you taking that time out. It’s a pretty big deal.
I hope you can help us make this leap, one way or another.
Today, I’m forced to again ask for your help, but in a slightly different way. Frankly, I feel like a jerk for doing this. I feel greedy and selfish, but I’m desperate to the point of suffering panic attacks nearly every day.
I need your help in finding a new home for my family and me.
This coming November, our lease is up and we can’t renew it. For the last several years, we’ve been blessed to be renting a condo at a discounted price.
With that discount (and the condo) going away, we’ve taken a hard look at our monthly income and compared them to the buying or renting new potential homes. We can’t make it work without help.
Don’t misunderstand me. I’m not expecting you to help us outright buy us a home (though I definitely wouldn’t refuse it). I’m asking for help building a buffer or giving a little extra.
What We’re Facing
With the status of Laura's job and my job, we’re having a hard time finding ways to get enough money to pull this whole thing off. I don’t have many other options, especially as I’m still in recovery from what happened last year in with my 6-month medical leave and Laura is spending most of her days either working or wrangling two children.
In fact, our girls are among our biggest concerns. Caitlyn will be going into the 3rd grade and Tali will be going into Kindergarten. We need them to be able to go to good schools. We need to be especially careful with Caitlyn, as she was just diagnosed with autism and ADHD. She also has a specialized academic plan to help her catch up at school. All of this means we need to be careful about choosing our new home. And of course, it needs to be in a safe area.
The Reality of the Situation
If you can’t do anything, please understand that it’s fine. I’m posting this with only a desperate hope, not any expectations. Many of you are in similar situations, underpaid and struggling to make ends meet. I get it and it’s okay. So many already gave to us last year in tremendous amounts to help us with the car.
The only reason I’m doing this again is because of your kindness. Because I found out just what people could do when you were willing to bare your heart and tell the truth.
I hate doing this, not because it makes me look weak. My blog posts about my war with mental health should show you I have no fear of appearing weak. No, I hate doing this because I feel greedy. I asked so much from you a year ago and you did things I never would have thought possible.
How to Help
If you're willing to help us—and no pressure, really—I've set up two options for donations.
1. One-time donations help build on the small saving account we have stored away for a downpayment, first/last month’s rent, security deposits and the like. This can be done in the following ways:
- GoFundMe (of course).
- Ko-Fi
- [email modificata] (Please select friends/family otherwise PayPal takes a cut)
2. Monthly donations for the express purpose of helping us pay rent and other new bills. I’m handling this entirely through Patreon.
Thank You
As I’m sure most of you know, finding a home is one of the most stressful and complicated things people have to do. When you add the concerns of your family and keeping a job to provide for them, it’s even more stressful. The last thing we want to do is uproot our girls any more than absolutely necessary. Southern California is a difficult place to live, but for a lot of reasons, it’s where we need to be.
No matter who you are, no matter if you can help or not, thank you. Thank you for at least reading through this. I do appreciate you taking that time out. It’s a pretty big deal.
I hope you can help us make this leap, one way or another.
Organizzatore
Ryan Stansifer
Organizzatore
Mission Viejo, CA
