The Persaud Family's Hope Fund
At the present time Amanda, her husband Rich, and her daughter Ariana, still have many challenges ahead of them. Amanda is in stable condition but Ariana and Rich are in critical condition and have many more surgeries and medical procedures they will need in order to recover from the injuries they endured in this horrific accident. The funds we raise in this campaign will go to the Persaud family to cover the numerous medical bills they will have as well as funeral expenses for their young daughters.
Please consider donating to this dear family who have already endured so much. In the blink of an eye all of their lives were forever changed. They will need all the support they can get as they recover and grieve the loss of Leila and Maylee. No donation is too small and all donations are greatly appreciated. Any money we raise will be a blessing to this family as they try to piece their lives back together.
Richard is doing leaps and bounds better than he was right after the accident. If you remember, he suffered a TBI, crushed ankle, crushed arm, fractured hip, and several facial fractures. I am pleased to announce that he has come so far, from being in a stretcher, to a wheelchair, to using a walker, and now a cane (and sometimes a knee walker when walking long distances). His ankle is still managing to give him a lot of grief, as walking becomes unbearable at times. He is actually awaiting another surgery on it, hoping to reduce the amount of pain he has by fusing the ankle to prevent movement. if this ankle fusion does not work, he is contemplating amputation. I hope that this next surgery will be the last. He's had so many, I believe we've lost count, but it's definitely more than 12... He still has foot drop on his other leg, which also requires a brace. His arm has been hurting lately as well, as he cannot straighten it all the way. and he has no palm up/down capabilities. I will say, however, the he pushes himself to do better everyday and I can't be more proud of him!
Ariana is back in school and is on track to graduate this upcoming May! she has managed to return to school during the most difficult time in a teen's life. A time when she is figuring out who she is, thinking about how to reach her dreams, and trying to fit in. And if any of you remember high school, you'll remember it was hard enough, without the extra medical and emotional complications that she endured. And she did all this with the most beautiful smile on her face!!!! (Well, it isn't always smiles, as you can imagine) There are days where she gets so fed up with being in a wheelchair, or dealing with the other medical routines and changes she's had to manage, and she just breaks down... I cannot tell you, as her mother, who wants to FIX everything for her, how helpless I feel when I see her struggle. She'll never know this, however, because I turn into the 'mean' mom, who doesnt 'seem' to care, because all I do is push her to keep going and to not give up. This kills me inside, but when I see how far she has come, I know that my pushing her is actually helping her be more independent. She still attends physical therapy twice a week, and will be completing a driving evaluation soon, so she can learn to drive a car... So exciting! She is still recieving counseling services and I will continue to encourage her to do so.
I am doing well. My injuries have healed, although my heart will forever be missing two important pieces of it. I pride myself with how far my husband and daughter have come. I try to be optimistic, mostly for my family, but I have to continue my strength, so that they continue theirs. And to be quite honest, their strength makes me want to do better for myself as well, so it seems to be a positive cycle. But dont get me wrong, I definitely have those days when I just dont want to do ANYTHING... I still cry, thinking it's not fair that our Maylee and Leila aren't able to grow up and experience life. I cried today, as a matter of fact, after finding some videos of our girls on an ipad that they used to play with...
I try to stay positive, not just for myself and my family, but for others as well. I've joined a couple of private groups on fb that are solely for parents who have lost children, and it's so sad to see new parents being added to the group every week. For me, it really shows how precious and fragile life is, how often and easy it can be taken away, and how many others are suffering like us. I try to stay strong for them as well. Nobody is alone on this earth, and we weren't meant to be. It is up to us to reach out and offer an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, and a heart to open up....
I want to thank all of you who have followed our story, kept us in your hearts and minds, prayed for us, supported us in ANY capacity, and reached out to us
Your love has been felt and is very much appreciated! Please know that we send our love and gratitude in return!
In loving memory of our sweet Maylee and Leila, we love you all!!!!
This family is still very much recovering from their accident one year ago. Amanda, Rich, and Ariana continue to have several doctors appointments each week for their physical recovery from the accident. Rich recently had another surgery and they have multiple therapies as well.
They are still physically healing from their injuries and are trying to work on their emotional recovery as well. They will forever feel the loss of Maylee and Leila and today will commemorate one year without them. As you can imagine it will be especially difficult. Please lift them up in your prayers today and in the coming weeks as this anniversary is ever present in their minds.
Any kind words you'd like to share with the family area always appreciated as well. Thank you for all your continued love and support of this dear family.
Without further ado, here is their 8 month update:
Hello everybody. We wanted to send out another update to let you know our progress thus far.
Ariana continues her physical therapy twice a week, and is getting stronger. She still has a long road ahead of her, but she's trying to be more independent with some of her daily routine tasks. She still has no feeling from her waist down, which is very disheartening, but she is trying to accept the possibility that this may be it. I'm praying daily that her nerves will heal and she'll have feeling and walk again one day. She's taking her 10th grade classes now, which she's trying to catch up to where she would have been if none of this had happened.
Richard is doing a LOT better than before, but still has a LONG way to go, like Ariana. He is awaiting ANOTHER surgery on his left arm, as he cannot straighten or bend it fully yet, and he cannot rotate it at all (palm up/down). The surgery should free it up enough so that he will be able to get that motion back with physical therapy. He's been walking in the pool, becoming more stable and balanced, which is very exciting to see. He recently started using his walker to do some "sit-to-stand" exercises and has even been able to take a few steps with it. I've forgotten how tall he is! Rich has been seeing so many providers for so many different things, it's difficult to keep up with, but so far, I'm managing, thank goodness! He recently found out that his thyroid is not working properly and has started a new medication to help with that. We're praying it's not permanent and not Hashimoto's... Whatever the outcome, we will deal with it accordingly. He still has foot drop on his left foot (cannot lift the foot or his toes), and is awaiting a new AFO for his shoe so that he can walk without tripping over his dragging foot. He was finally seen by a neurologist, who scheduled an MRI for this upcoming week to see how well his brain is healing/working. He also recently restarted his speech therapy to help with his memory.
I (Amanda) am doing well. I stopped physical therapy for a short while due to scheduling conflicts, but I recently restarted and will be learning to apply more force to my left leg so that if need be, I could run one day. At the moment, I can walk swiftly, but cannot run after a runaway wheelchair, if needed. Lol. I still get some swelling in my left foot, but the numbness is finally starting to subside. I plan on having the orthopedic surgeon take out the screws in my knee before the end of the year, because they are causing some pain with some of my exercises. That will put me back a little, but I plan on bouncing back fairly quickly! My right wrist is doing well. I get some pains at times, but they are bearable.
We have all started much-needed counseling, which seems to be going well, but again, it will be a long road/journey. I continue to have flashbacks of the accidents, unfortunately, but I am learning to distract myself at times. Sometimes I cannot, and I just have to go through the experience, which can be very hard.
We'd like to again thank each and every one of you who have supported us in ANY way, through prayer, friendship, a non-judgemental ear, donation, an act of kindness, and so many more ways! You are all blessings to this family, and we appreciate you! I cannot say how lucky we are to have so many of you "on our team, " so to speak! Your kindness leaves me speechless at times, and I want you all to know that you are loved in return. Our Maylee and Leila will never be forgotten or loved. I'm sure that they are happy that they left us in your hands and hearts. Thank you all again! We love you, need you, and appreciate you all! God bless you!
Good evening, everyone.
We hope that this email finds you all in good health and spirits. We'd like to first thank everyone for your continued prayers, donations, phone calls, and support. You have been a major part of our recovery! We wanted to send an update, as Saturday was the 6-month mark of the devastating event that changed our lives.
We have been very busy with doctors appointments, therapy sessions, and counseling. We're doing much better, but still have a long way to go, unfortunately. I'll start with the updates below:
Ariana - Ariana is getting a little stronger, but still has no feeling or movement from the waist down. She had a recent MRI of her left shoulder. She also had XRAYs of her lower back and buttox area, as she's been feeling a lot of cracking during her transfers. I have a follow up with her doctor this Tuesday, to find out the results of those tests and to discuss possible treatment(s). She may have a torn rotator cuff in her left shoulder, from being pulled out of the jeep at the time of the accident. We're hoping she won't need additional surgeries. She has recently started counseling to help her deal with the trauma, and process everything that's been going on, as she tends to hold things inside. She's currently taking her online (Hospital Homebound) classes and as soon as she finishes these last two, we're hoping she will advance to the next grade level. She has no current interest in returning to a regular school setting, but we're hoping she'll consider it in the future.
Richard - Richard is getting much better. He got the cast off of his right leg and has been cleared to start bearing 50% weight on it this past week. He is recieving physical therapy twice per week for his legs (once in the gym, and once in the pool). Hopefully he'll learn how to stand and walk again soon. He's very weak, as he has not used his muscles in 6 months, but we are hopeful that this will improve! He lost a lot of muscle-mass since the accident (some say about 48 lbs worth), and he's now complaining that he's gained it all back.... in his BELLY! He still has "foot drop" in his left foot, possibly from a damaged nerve from his hip replacement. Foot drop means that he cannot lift his foot at all, and needs to wear an AFO. He has been getting contractures in his left hip and his left ankle, from not being able to straighten his leg or lift his foot, so it becomes quite painful when he stretches, which he does daily. He is participating in occupational therapy once a week for his left arm, which looks like it will cause him the most grief, as he has no radial movement at all, and still cannot fully extend or bend his arm. His orthopaedic surgeon says that he may need another surgery on his left elbow, due to the amount of HO (heterotopic occification - extra bone growth), which is causing the immobilization. Also, they may need to move his ulnar nerve, as it is causing a lot of pain. He has 2 nerve studies coming up this month, which will help the doctor determine if and when surgery will be. He'd like to do it sooner, to get it over with, but the doctor says that his bones need to heal fully first, so it could be several months down the road. We have been waiting for a speech therapist to start at the therapy center, as the last one quit, but I've been told that he should be seen sometime this month. The speech therapist will be working wtih Rich's memory, due to the TBI (traumatic brain injury) he endured. On a good note, Rich is taking only about 20 pills per day now (down from the 40 previously), Woo Hoo!
Amanda - Amanda is getting much better physically. Her XRAYS show that her bones are healing together, finally, with new bone growth. She continues to participate in physical therapy once a week, to help strengthen her leg and ankle. She has had siginificant improvement, but still is not where she used to be. She still struggles with flashbacks of the accident, multiple times per day, which is hard for her to deal with. She was finally able to schedule something with a counselor this upcoming week, so, she's looking forward to start working on that. She's been also looking to join a support group.
We'd like to thank you all again, for your continued support and prayers. Words cannot express or humble gratitude for all of your love and graciousness.
Please remember to tell your loved ones that you love them, everyday.
Rich and Amanda Persaud
Hello everybody. Id like to first of all, thank every single one of you (whether you were/are able to donate or not) for all of your support, financial and/or spiritual. I really do not know what to say right now, but as i started looking at some of your names (recognizing many and not recognizing many) and your messages, i just broke down, feeling an overwhelming amount of love from you all. I'm so humbly grateful for your support, and one day, is like to thank each of you personally, or in some other nice and appreciative way. As a personal update, i can say that I pray daily, talk to my baby girls daily, and am disappointed when i don't dream of them. I've been begging God to allow me at LEAST that, just so i cam see them once a day, but it does not happen often. I have nor been able to grieve appropriately for the girls yet, as I have had so many distractions, dealing with my husband and older daughter's needs. There are some things that i still need to deal worth soon, regarding the babies, that I've been trying to avoid because i don't know if i can handle it, but i recently found out that I'm running or of time, and i need to force myself to make some decisions that is normally make with my other half. ... Please pray for my Ariana tomorrow, for a successful surgery and that those connections will begin to heal so that she may walk again. Also, please pray for my loving husband, that his traumatic Brain injury gets better, not only because I miss him, but I need him. .. And lastly, (i don't want to all for anything for myself, but i do know that i need continued strength), please pray for me, that I have enough strength, patience, and faith to be strong enough to be the rock for my family. With everything on paper, i sometimes have self doubt, as i find myself asking "how can i be strong for them AND me?" Its a bit overwhelming, to be honest, but in the meantime, I've been surrounded by family and friends who have been my motivators/distractions to keep me focused on my family. I have a lot of mixed emotions right now , but I do feel all of your prayers and love, and it helps, to say the LEAST... i believe in God, and i believe that everyone of you are a PIECE of him, gracing my family with a PIECE of his love, that is greater than no other. And for that, i thank and love you all! *i didn't intend on making this a really long post, and i apologize if i seemed to ramble on. I just wanted to give a quick update and to TRY to verbalize how much you all are appreciated during this difficult time. I'm sure later on, when i start processing things, my feelings will change, go up and down, but this, right now, it's me in the raw, without the feelings getting TOO much in the way, if you can understand what I mean. Good bless you all and thank you for your continued support.
I just had to tell my best friend Richard that his two little girls did not survive the car crash. And that his oldest daughter has broken her back and that his wife has plates and pins throughout her body. I know that some of you have experienced this type of tragedy firsthand. I want to say it clearly and with no shame. Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ the one true God we'll see them through all of this . I'm going to ask continually that everyone that reads this message will pray and share this post and donate as much money as we possibly can to my most precious friend and his family. Thank you to all who have donated and have prayed and have shared Persaud story. Please, please donate to this fund and share his story and we will show you the light and the life that comes from all your generosity and prayers.
the outpouring of support and prayers for Rich and his family have truly been inspiring! But we aren't done yet please keep the donations coming please share this over and over again...God bless everyone who has sent a donation and prayers and love their way
Thanks prima...love you! Prayers are my words.
I just want to thank everyone for all the prayers & donations for my daughter Amanda, son-in-law Rich, & granddaughter Ariana. It has been a very hard journey for them with more to come. And through the power of prayer we have already seen miracles happening. For this I (we) are truly grateful. Continue with the prayers! I wish I could thank each one of you personally but hoping this will suffice for now. Thank you all!
Any update on how they are doing?
We have shared this on our personal and business page . We are so thankful for all of the support for Rich and his family. May God bless you all and we wish the Persauds a speedy recovery. May your 2 angels watch over you all......God Bless