When You Throw Pride Out & Need Help

My birthday is on Monday, February 11th. This is my birthday wish ✨

When Facebook asked for my birthday, which fundraiser, I knew I needed to do this. It's humbling to ask for help....and scary. I feel very vulnerable. However when it comes to my little boy, I've learned to throw my pride out the window.

For those of you who have been thru this, I know you'll understand, regardless of which side you were on.  For those of you who haven't, I pray you have an open mind...and that everyone who reads this will have an open heart.

We need your help. ANY amount is HUGE for us right now...as it all adds up. ❤

I'm fighting what feels like a Goliath... for my 3 year old little boy, from the man who broke my bones on multiple occasions and terrorized me.  Extracting yourself from an abusive relationship is a difficult task. And often, abusive men go for full custody to continue to punish.  This is the case with Marty, my ex husband. He asked for 100% custody only 2 weeks after our divorce finalized. He had only seen our son a handful of times, the year prior.  We live 700 miles apart. I live in Idaho near all 3 of my older children. Wyatt's dad is in Southern Utah, near his parents. His minor children, from his first marriage live in Alabama with their mother.

In a couple of days I'll be 17 months sober, which I'm proud of. I am a domestic violence survivor. Drinking is how I chose to cope with the abuse and then the PTSD. The abuse wasn't just a little shoving, a broken phone or some thrown items (although all of that happened). My ex husband broke my bones on multiple occasions, including an assault where he fractured my hip in 3 places. He was convicted for that assault as well as others.  There were many arrests, multiple convictions, a dozen 911 calls, as well as a time he was banned from my local hospital, in 2016, for the shape I was in and what he had done. He is a habitual offender of domestic violence as well as a blackout alcoholic (hopefully in recovery).  My fear is during a relapse the damage that I sustained, Wyatt won't survive. I was able to call 911 during my assault and when they arrived, my ex husband was still on top of me.....Wyatt won't be able to make that call, that saved my life.

There are specific statutes in Idaho regarding children and domestic violence....With Supreme Court rulings and cases to back circumstances like mine.  I only recently became aware of this, when I randomly (#divineintervention) met an attorney specializing in this area. My case, on the spectrum of domestic violence, is extreme. The abuse that occurred will set a standard for women here in Idaho and is likely headed to the Supreme Court.

I'm working hard in business to get us on solid ground but the court process is an expensive one. I was not prepared for a long drawn out custody dispute, that is being funded by his family....and they are banking on the fact I will run out of funds.  I am doing this on my own. My parents are deceased and my friends have helped when and where they could.

Some didn't even know this was going on and some only know me thru this forum and many may not even read this far. If you have....and you have the ability to help (whatsoever) I'd be incredibly grateful. The $2, $10, $20 or more actually does make a difference.  I read a post yesterday on Instagram that said. "If you are in a position to help someone, help them. God just may be answering that persons prayer through you."

If you prefer to make a donation directly to my attorney's office via cc or check, they are prepared to do that. Ramirez-Smith & Tvinnereim (208) [Telefonnummer bearbeitet]. ANY amount helps!

And thank you for taking the time to read this....I truly appreciate all the love and support so many have shown me!