Jane Doe

Help a Mother and Graduating Senior Escape an Unsafe Living Environment I never imagined I would be writing something like this, but I have reached a point where I need help. I am a mother trying to safely leave an emotionally and at times physically abusive relationship with my daughter, who is graduating high school next week. I'll start out with saying narcissists show up in your life seeming like they are everything you have ever wanted. The abusive behavior started slowly and covertly. I noticed a few signs here and there, but I kept hoping things would improve. The situation at home has become increasingly unhealthy and unstable. I am trying to hold everything together for my daughter during one of the most important moments of her life while quietly planning a safe way for us to move forward. Before moving into this house everyone knows that I had always maintained my own home and supported myself independently. I have worked hard my entire adult life and never imagined I would be in a position where I needed to ask others for help. The abuse and instability inside the home eventually began affecting every part of my life. He started manipulating me and sabotaging me to control me, and even contributed to me losing my previous job and draining my savings. He would purpously keep me awake all night so I wasn't rested, unplug and hide the internet modem ( i work from home), be extra loud & disruptive, & would try to provoke agruments while I was working by calling my daughter names etc, and pushing buttons he knew would get me fired up, and has even broke a couple monitors that were part of my work equipment and threatens to break it again. I have since secured a new position that starts this Monday, but I am terrified that if I cannot get out of this environment quickly, the same thing could happen again before I even have the chance to get back on my feet. I will not receive my first paycheck until the second week of June. Right now, I have no financial cushion to safely leave or secure temporary housing, food, basic necessities, or gas for transportation, during this transition. I reached out to a domestic violence hotline for help. The only immediate option available was a shelter. While I am grateful shelters exist, I am trying to find a safer and more stable option for my daughter during her graduation week and while I begin rebuilding our lives. My mother is traveling to attend my daughter’s graduation, but she survives on SSI and housing assistance and is unable to financially help us. I purchased her ticket before losing my job because I did not want my daughter to miss having her grandmother there for this milestone. His patterns of abusive behavior have already started knowing that this event is around the corner and he is already complaining about the extra water that will be used with my mother here. My fear is that shit will hit the fan while she's here and during my daughter's graduation and my only option will be to go to a shelter with both my daughter and my mother. I am not asking for luxury or a handout. I am asking for a chance to safely transition out of a painful situation and give my daughter some peace and stability as she steps into adulthood. I would be happy to eventually pay every single person back. Funds raised will go toward: Safe temporary housing Transportation/gas Food and basic living expenses Dinner for her graduation Deposits or move-related expenses Helping us remain safe until my paychecks begin If you are unable to donate, even sharing this fundraiser could make a huge difference. Thank you for reading our story, for believing survivors, and for helping a mother protect her daughter and create a safer future. With gratitude, A mother and daughter in need of peace and a fresh start.