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<div>I’m a father who had to walk away from everything to keep my daughter safe. I’m doing everything I can to rebuild, but I need help getting back on my feet.
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<div>It feels embarrassing asking for help.
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<div>However, I'm wondering if I'm maybe just being hard on myself. Maybe people would want to help a man who left a mentally abusive relationship. Although it was my daughter's involvement that really pushed me out the door for good, I wish I had done it for myself a long time ago.
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<div>I had to leave a toxic and unstable relationship to protect my daughter. Because of that, I’m basically starting from nothing. I left with nothing in order to just get away.
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<div>I tried pushing through for years. I know that its incredibly rare for two people to fit snug right from the start. You have to get used to each other and learn how to react to one another. I understand relationships take work, patience, compromise, learning each other’s personalities. I held onto this relationship out of duty and loyalty, and for a long time I believed I could hold everything together if I stayed patient, understanding, and kept working at it.
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<div>But once I found out I had a daughter, and she came into my life at 7 years old, everything changed. I realized I couldn’t live in two worlds anymore. I had to choose the world where she was safe.
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<div>And that meant leaving the one I had been stuck in for 6 years.
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<div><strong>What my life looked like behind closed doors</strong>
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<div>I was in a relationship with someone who struggled heavily with emotional instability. I didn’t understand the full extent of it until much later. There are actually support groups for people who get trapped in these relationships. When you’re living in it day after day, you just adapt. You stop noticing how bad things really are.
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<div>I spent years walking on eggshells, trying to keep the peace, trying not to trigger another explosion. I got used to managing her moods, keeping her calm, fixing whatever she said was wrong, and doing everything I could to keep the household functioning. I isolated myself from my own family because she believed everyone was “against her” and trying to take me away. I knew it was messed up but I just kept trudging along.
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<div>Four years into this relationship, a girl from my past reached out and told me there was a chance I was the father of her child. We did a test and I am her dad. My daughter is now 9. Once she came into the picture, the situation I was living in became impossible to ignore.
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<div>My girlfriend’s behavior was getting more unstable, and she started taking small things my daughter said and twisting them into extreme, false stories that she reported to authorities. These accusations were serious and completely fabricated, and they started affecting my guardianship case, my reputation, and my daughter’s sense of safety. I kept telling her to stop, explaining calmly, arguing, etc. She just didn't get it.
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<div>I realized I couldn’t bring my daughter into this home. It was frustrating because I had worked so hard to give her a room and a space with me. But it wasn’t safe.
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<div><strong>How it started and how it fell apart</strong>
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<div>When we first met, I was just looking for a roommate. She had a young daughter, and things became a relationship fast. We moved into a home together. Her dad lived with us and he had a severe drinking problem who needed daily care. I stepped into the role and basically became a caretaker. I always try to be reliable and I help the people I care about so it was just something I had to do.
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<div>But it slowly became a home where I was the caretaker for everyone.
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<div>Her father eventually passed away in our home during COVID. During this time, I was still trying to hold the household together. I bought a vehicle we couldn’t afford because we needed one. I put it under her insurance because I wanted her to feel included. I carried the financial burden.
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<div>After her dad died, her drinking changed. Her behavior became more unpredictable. Arguments lasted hours. Her voice would get louder and louder. She’d get locked into these long emotional spirals where nothing she said made sense. Later, she started using weed constantly because it calmed her down and was the only time she seemed normal. The problem was, when there was no weed in the house, everything exploded again.
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<div>She eventually became dependent on me for everything, leaving the house, errands, daily life. I felt like I had to. I felt like it was my duty to always step up. Meanwhile, I was isolated from the world.
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<div>Every few days, whatever extra money I had went toward buying the next weed pen because without it, the house turned into chaos.
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<div><strong>The moment I knew I had to leave</strong>
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<div>Before I left, two things happened that made everything crystal clear.
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<div>One night, her daughter woke me up crying, saying her mom was in one of her episodes again. She’d been drinking since early evening. When I got up, I learned she was planning something reckless and dramatic involving people connected to my daughter, and she wanted her 14-year-old daughter to come along. She was telling her daughter, “This is what family does.”
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<div>I stopped it. She punished her daughter for “telling on her,” took her phone, made her do endless chores, and never let her earn anything back. Then she started encouraging her daughter to do things that were just completely inappropriate. That was too much... I could never expose my daughter to any of this.
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<div>The final breaking point came when she made another extreme accusation during an argument and calling the police on me and saying things that weren’t true. And the police already knew her pattern. They didn’t even call me back because they’d been through this routine before. That moment hit differently. I had spent years taking care of her, financially supporting her, emotionally absorbing everything.... and now she was saying things that could have ruined my life.
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<div>After I left that morning, I spent hours trying to calm her down through text. Her texts got more unhinged. She was trying to get me to admit to things that weren’t real, trying to force me to validate her version of events. I refused.
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<div>When I returned later to grab my belongings, things escalated again. I won’t go into the details, but she rushed toward me, called the police again, and followed me down the street while I was trying to leave with a bag of clothes and my laptops. I made it to my car and drove off. That was the end for me.
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<div>A police officer called later, talked everything through with me, and told me directly:
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<div>“You didn’t do anything wrong.”
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<div>Hearing that felt like the first moment of clarity I’d had in years. It was nice to hear especially from a cop.
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<div>I left with basically nothing.
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<div><strong>Why I’m asking for help</strong>
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<div>I’ve worked physical jobs most of my life, but injuries changed everything. My dominant hand was crushed years ago, and despite surgeries, I can’t use it the same. I also have a serious knee and thigh injury from a job site accident — constant pain, numbness, and limitations.
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<div>I’ve been rebuilding my life by learning stock trading and app development. I work on these every day, and I’m getting close, but not earning yet. I’m doing everything I can to give my daughter a better future.
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<div><strong>When I left the relationship, I had:</strong>
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<li>one garbage bag of clothes
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<li>my laptop bag
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<li>my car (which she tried to report as taken, even though it’s mine)
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<li>no home
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<li>no stability
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<div>I lived in my car for 3 weeks until I found a room to rent. I didn’t even have the deposit. The landlord let me work off the deposit by building an app for his business.
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<div>I’m trying to set up a new life from scratch.
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<div>Money is extremely tight and all of my time is going into developing an app to cover my damage deposit.
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<div>I’m trying to prepare a place where my daughter can have a bedroom and a safe home.
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<div><strong>Right now, I need help with:</strong>
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<div>Car insurance (upfront annual): $2,000
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<div>Clothes + hygiene basics: $200–$300
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<div>Household essentials (coffee maker, bedding, basic items): $300–$400
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<div>Food: $500
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<div>Rent + partial deposit: $2,000–$3,000
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<div>Laptop charger I had to leave behind: $114
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<div>Things for my daughter: $200
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<div>Cell phone bill: $200
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<div>Winter Attire (It gets extremely cold here)
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<div>Winter jacket, boots, gloves: $200
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<div>I’m not trying to buy anything fancy. I’m trying to rebuild a stable life from the ground up and give my daughter a safe home she can come to. Almost all of my money each month is going towards rent and paying off the damage deposit.
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<div>Everything I’m asking for is so I can build a stable life and be the father my daughter deserves.
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<div>If you’ve read this far, thanks.
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<div>Sharing this could really help me and maybe even others.
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<div>Anyone can be mistreated and mentally abused. I thought I was protecting someone, caring for them, bending over backwards to keep everything together for years. But in the end, I mattered so little to her that she could pick up the phone and say something completely untrue about me without even thinking. Something that could have seriously damaged my life.
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<div><strong>Current Urgent Situation (December Update)</strong>
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<div>Since leaving the relationship to protect my daughter, winter conditions and court timelines have created a serious new risk I didn’t anticipate.
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<div>Before I left, ongoing tension in the household had already begun to affect my daughter’s ability to visit me. I chose to leave knowing I could rebuild stability and repair those relationships, even though it meant losing my home, belongings, and financial footing.
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<div>Until recently, my daughter’s grandmother was able to bring her to my new home for visits. This is no longer possible due to winter driving limitations. Without reliable transportation, I may not be able to maintain consistent visitation, which could negatively affect upcoming court decisions regarding guardianship.
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<div>Because the car insurance was previously under my ex’s name, reinstating it now requires a full annual payment upfront. Along with winter driving safety, this has become the most immediate barrier to continuing visits and staying compliant with court expectations.
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<div>Restoring basic transportation would allow me to continue seeing my daughter, protect our relationship, and keep rebuilding toward a stable home for us.
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