New House for Recovering Women
It is my belief that every addict or alcoholic fighting to reclaim their life deserves the opportunity to do so in a nurturing and supportive environment in which their hope is renewed, their faith is restored, and their dreams are awakened.
With your help, I will be able to provide a much-needed and spiritually-focused reintegration program for our daughters, sisters, mothers, and loved ones, where women can each take root and grow into thriving members of society; taking the time to fall apart so they can be put back together.
I struggled to achieve long-term recovery for almost a decade; I bounced in and out of rehab, each time returning home to the same environment in which my addiction had not and could not remain arrested.
Finally, at the age of 19, I became desperate enough to commit my life fully to recovery. I entered a 22-month rehabilitation program, in which the final 6 months were dedicated to transitional living and reintegration into the community. Years later, I began sponsoring recovering individuals through an anonymous 12-step program. As I started effectively helping others, I found my true purpose in life. Watching other women grow into their full potential not only helped me to maintain my own sobriety, but also allowed me to become spiritually strengthened and enlightened.
At the beginning of my journey with sober living, I was sponsoring a girl who was just 17 years old. She was an amazing young woman with so much hope. She was actively working a 12-step program and was subsequently flourishing. It was at this critical point in her recovery that her mother abruptly abandoned her. DCF stepped in and was moving to place her in foster care. My heart broke for her. I became determined to fight for her chance at life, and I agreed to become her guardian.
I lived in a small apartment at the time, and I remember saying aloud one night, “God, I wish I had a bigger place so I could help more people.” Within a few weeks, doors started opening up miraculously, and I knew that God had heard me. Stepping out on faith, I left my apartment with a mission to provide a safe haven for women to rest, recover, stand, and finally live. And, although I didn't know it at the time, that young, 17-year-old was to become my first resident.
While the first year of growing a sober house was difficult at times, I quickly learned what worked, what didn't work, and why. Through this trial-and-error process, I found the right combination of structure and compassion to make the program a success.
For nearly 7 years, my life has been dedicated to the development, growth, management, and expansion of a women’s sober living community; and for the last 5 years, I have also worked in a clinical residential setting with addicted individuals in the earliest stages of recovery.
In my years of working in this field and through my own personal experience, I have discovered that all too often the specific needs of newly recovering women are not met, and that reintegration is a cruciall step toward preventing relapse, protecting newfound sobriety and achieving long-term recovery.
While the mounting death toll due to the opioid epidemic has gained massive press recently, these deaths are not merely statistics. Within the last year and a half, I have been experiencing the loss of at least 2 people per month. To hear that someone has passed away due to a drug overdose has become painfully routine, and yet no less devastating. I have lost friends, loved ones, and have watched parents lose their children, and children lose their parents. I have watched the people that I love experience the most excruciating loss.
While I am aware that not all drug-related deaths can be prevented, I am equally aware that recovery is possible and must always be encouraged. It is my belief that every addict or alcoholic fighting to reclaim their life deserves the opportunity to do so in a nurturing and supportive environment in which their hope is renewed, their faith is restored, and their dreams are awakened.
With your help, I will be able to provide a much-needed and spiritually-focused reintegration program for our daughters, sisters, mothers and loved ones, where women can each take root and grow into thriving members of society, taking the time to fall apart so they can be put back together.
Your Donations will Fund:
Cost of Materials & Labor for Property Renovations
Kitchen Tables & Chairs
Television(s) for Community Room(s)
Washer/Dryer (2 sets)
Supplies for Community Kitchen(s)
Coffee Pots (3)
Pots & Pans
Plates, Bowls, Cups, Mugs, Etc.
Cookware, Bakeware & Utensils
First 2 Months Utility Payments
Household Cleaning Supplies
Fire Escape Ladders
Drug Screening Supplies
Please feel free to contact me at (203) 994-1972 with any questions or suggestions. I look forward to hearing from you!
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I haven't had a drink in over 23 years. I too struggled. I can't afford to give money right now, but would you take gently used donations of furniture or other housewares? Please let me know. We have a bunch of things we can help with.