Neidner Family Adoption
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Hello everybody! Thank you so much for taking the time to check out our go fund me page!
We are raising money to help offset the costs of adopting a child. Our overall goal is $30,000 or more to help offset the cost of adoption. We are planning on doing this in lieu of a traditional baby shower, as it is so much more important for us to be able to actually meet our baby and bring them home than to receive gifts and consumables.
Our journey started several months after our wedding in May 2014. Having gone to high school together and then dating through college, we turned a distance relationship into something special and knew that we wanted to get married. Throughout dating, we often discussed our desires for the future; what our dream careers would look like, what type of house we’d like to live in, and of course, how many children we would like to have.
Andrew is currently a Band Director in the public school systems, and has been teaching instrumental music to students since 2012. Katelynn just recently completed her degree for education, and is in her 2nd year as a 5th grade teacher in Wausau, WI. We both love kids and love educating them and helping them grow through our daily interactions with them, so it’s not hard to see that having our own children is something that we are very passionate about and have been trying to pursue.
In late 2014, we started trying to conceive our own child. After 3 years of trying, we started to think that something might be wrong and we sought out help from a doctor that works with infertility at the Marshfield Clinic. Andrew went in to get sperm-analysis done, and everything seemed to check out. Katelynn went in and had numerous tests done, resulting in the verdict that she has severe adenomyosis along with a slew of other medical issues that make conception incredibly difficult. It turns out that this is something that she was dealing with most of her life, which would cause her severe pains during menstruation and irregular cycles. The last time that Katelynn spoke with her infertility doctor about this, he told her that there was approximately a 2% chance of her getting pregnant.
After finding out this news, we started Katelynn on some hormone pills to help regulate her cycle and increase the likelihood of pregnancy. We did this for 6 months, and we still weren’t having any luck with it. Generally, we are both people that don’t like taking lots of pills – we don’t like to use a pill as a “fix-it”, but would rather proceed in a more natural way.
Because of this thought process, and the thought of putting prescriptions in her body each month, we turned to the world of acupuncture. We had researched and heard miracle stories of women having similar or more advanced struggles with infertility having success with acupuncture and having a healthy pregnancy within months after starting acupuncture. Because of this, we tried this on a weekly or bi-weekly basis for almost a year and a half! Each time she went in, we paid $60 for the treatment, and there were times that we were paying $500 for herbal supplements to help regulate her cycles and to help encourage pregnancy.
Acupuncture was going very well, and there was a point in the summer of 2018 where our acupuncture provider told Katelynn that she was “almost 100% certain” that Katelynn was pregnant and that she expected to hear some good news on her next visit. Needless to say, we were overjoyed when we heard the news, and we can both remember shedding tears of joy in the kitchen thinking about finally having our own child after this arduous journey.
All of that came crashing down as we were having Katelynn do pregnancy tests each day for the next week and a half. All results came back negative. We cancelled her acupuncture appointments that were coming up, and took a little time to recover mentally from the disappointment, frustration, and anger that mounted from our acupuncturist getting our hopes up just to find out that it wasn’t the case. We reached back out to our acupuncturist about resuming treatment and expressed our concerns with the amount of money that we were spending on herbal supplements and how her telling Katelynn that she was certain she was pregnant (and it not being the case) sent us into an emotional downfall. Her response to us was essentially “well, the herbs are needed, so if you can’t afford those then I can’t keep seeing you.”
After this, we started thinking about surrogacy, and after seeing numbers over $150,000 (if successful on the first try and then $25,000 each time after that), we decided that adoption was the way that we wanted to meet our child.
Here’s the part that we need help with. We have been accepted into the list for an adoption agency and are awaiting the time that we are able to be marketed to birthmothers. When the adoption agency tells us that we are officially on the list, we need to be prepared to pay them $18,000 on the spot. In addition to this, we will need to have another $12,000 at a minimum to cover additional costs such as lawyer costs, home study costs, and things such as helping our birthmother affording her medical appointments and food to nourish her and our young one. We are aiming to get $25,000 from our go fund me, and anything helps out!
Please know that if we go over what is needed for the adoption process, that we plan to put the rest of it into a college fund for our child to increase their support level in their future.
From the bottom of our hearts, we thank you for any amount that you are able to gift to us to help making parenthood a possibility for us. We are truly grateful to have you in our lives and can’t wait to start our lives with a child of our own.
We are raising money to help offset the costs of adopting a child. Our overall goal is $30,000 or more to help offset the cost of adoption. We are planning on doing this in lieu of a traditional baby shower, as it is so much more important for us to be able to actually meet our baby and bring them home than to receive gifts and consumables.
Our journey started several months after our wedding in May 2014. Having gone to high school together and then dating through college, we turned a distance relationship into something special and knew that we wanted to get married. Throughout dating, we often discussed our desires for the future; what our dream careers would look like, what type of house we’d like to live in, and of course, how many children we would like to have.
Andrew is currently a Band Director in the public school systems, and has been teaching instrumental music to students since 2012. Katelynn just recently completed her degree for education, and is in her 2nd year as a 5th grade teacher in Wausau, WI. We both love kids and love educating them and helping them grow through our daily interactions with them, so it’s not hard to see that having our own children is something that we are very passionate about and have been trying to pursue.
In late 2014, we started trying to conceive our own child. After 3 years of trying, we started to think that something might be wrong and we sought out help from a doctor that works with infertility at the Marshfield Clinic. Andrew went in to get sperm-analysis done, and everything seemed to check out. Katelynn went in and had numerous tests done, resulting in the verdict that she has severe adenomyosis along with a slew of other medical issues that make conception incredibly difficult. It turns out that this is something that she was dealing with most of her life, which would cause her severe pains during menstruation and irregular cycles. The last time that Katelynn spoke with her infertility doctor about this, he told her that there was approximately a 2% chance of her getting pregnant.
After finding out this news, we started Katelynn on some hormone pills to help regulate her cycle and increase the likelihood of pregnancy. We did this for 6 months, and we still weren’t having any luck with it. Generally, we are both people that don’t like taking lots of pills – we don’t like to use a pill as a “fix-it”, but would rather proceed in a more natural way.
Because of this thought process, and the thought of putting prescriptions in her body each month, we turned to the world of acupuncture. We had researched and heard miracle stories of women having similar or more advanced struggles with infertility having success with acupuncture and having a healthy pregnancy within months after starting acupuncture. Because of this, we tried this on a weekly or bi-weekly basis for almost a year and a half! Each time she went in, we paid $60 for the treatment, and there were times that we were paying $500 for herbal supplements to help regulate her cycles and to help encourage pregnancy.
Acupuncture was going very well, and there was a point in the summer of 2018 where our acupuncture provider told Katelynn that she was “almost 100% certain” that Katelynn was pregnant and that she expected to hear some good news on her next visit. Needless to say, we were overjoyed when we heard the news, and we can both remember shedding tears of joy in the kitchen thinking about finally having our own child after this arduous journey.
All of that came crashing down as we were having Katelynn do pregnancy tests each day for the next week and a half. All results came back negative. We cancelled her acupuncture appointments that were coming up, and took a little time to recover mentally from the disappointment, frustration, and anger that mounted from our acupuncturist getting our hopes up just to find out that it wasn’t the case. We reached back out to our acupuncturist about resuming treatment and expressed our concerns with the amount of money that we were spending on herbal supplements and how her telling Katelynn that she was certain she was pregnant (and it not being the case) sent us into an emotional downfall. Her response to us was essentially “well, the herbs are needed, so if you can’t afford those then I can’t keep seeing you.”
After this, we started thinking about surrogacy, and after seeing numbers over $150,000 (if successful on the first try and then $25,000 each time after that), we decided that adoption was the way that we wanted to meet our child.
Here’s the part that we need help with. We have been accepted into the list for an adoption agency and are awaiting the time that we are able to be marketed to birthmothers. When the adoption agency tells us that we are officially on the list, we need to be prepared to pay them $18,000 on the spot. In addition to this, we will need to have another $12,000 at a minimum to cover additional costs such as lawyer costs, home study costs, and things such as helping our birthmother affording her medical appointments and food to nourish her and our young one. We are aiming to get $25,000 from our go fund me, and anything helps out!
Please know that if we go over what is needed for the adoption process, that we plan to put the rest of it into a college fund for our child to increase their support level in their future.
From the bottom of our hearts, we thank you for any amount that you are able to gift to us to help making parenthood a possibility for us. We are truly grateful to have you in our lives and can’t wait to start our lives with a child of our own.
Organizer
Andy Neidner
Organizer
Marshfield, WI