Webster Baby Fund

hey! i’m rosie and my husband is adam. we’re currently living in luton (UK). after much persuasion, i have finally set up a go fund me page to raise money for our fertility treatments! this morning (12th october 2020) i made a post on instagram and facebook regarding the loss of our baby and how i desperately needed to raise money for our fertility treatments as we’d now reached our last resort. the sheer amount of support and offers of donations and ideas has been overwhelming to say the least. for those of you who haven’t seen the original post, i have put it below with some slight amendments (certain words aren’t allowed on here. please read and if you can donate, we would both really appreciate it. all the love to you guys, from us, the webster’s. 

** original post**

please don’t scroll past this post, i really need your help.

today marks 2 years since adam and i lost our very desperately wanted baby. this week is also pregnancy, infant and child loss awareness week. most of you will know about our long journey through infertility. we have been trying for a baby for almost 5 years. i’ve always deemed it important to be open with these issues as it’s a very lonely place to be. i can’t begin to describe just how painful and frustrating it is to not be able to do the one thing you have so desperately longed for since you were 12 years old, potentially even younger than that.

i suffer with stage 4 deep infiltrating endometriosis and polycystic ovarian syndrome. my periods started when i was 8 years old and they were and still are crippling to the point that i can’t walk. morphine is the only way i can get through the first few days of my period and codeine is the only way i can get up and get through the day. because of my period issues, i knew from a very early age that my dream of being a mummy was going to be difficult to achieve. i would sit at school as a young kid and fantasise about being a mum, about being pregnant, what my kids would look like, what i would name them and which celebrity father they would have haha (give me a break, i was 12 and usher was a very strong contender)

but here i am at 28 years old and still childless. i wanted to be a mum at 27. my granny had my mum at 27 and my mum had me at 27. my 27th and 28th birthdays were more heartbreaking than i could have ever expected. and now my greatest fear seems to be coming to the surface too.
peri-menopause.

the nhs are under too much strain and because of this, my health has been severely neglected, concerns ignored and my care delayed. i’m now a ticking time bomb. my only hope at becoming a mum and having my own biological baby is if i get my eggs frozen and have my endo removed (as best as they can) privately. (the nhs won’t do the surgery because of my bmi but i can get it done privately.) and failing that, having a surrogate carry our child. my eggs are fine but as i’m most likely starting early menopause (as per my symptoms) if we don’t act now, we’ll lose them and our chances of being parents to our own.

this is where you come in. going privately is something that we just can’t afford. regardless of which route we go (egg freezing and surrogate or egg freezing, surgery and ivf) were looking at around £20k to £30k all in for private treatment, maybe even more. we don’t expect to raise that kind of money but we would like to raise some of it to help get us started. so here’s my idea..

i want to throw an event next summer (end of aug - beginning of sept - covid permitting). the event will be a 24 hr karaoke challenge that i will be doing, starting from 10am til 10am the next day. there will be tickets to buy to attend the event and the money will go towards our treatment. anyone can pick a song and come up to give me a break and this will be live streamed for the full 24hrs. on top of this, i will be shaving my hair off at the same event at around 4pm whilst adam will be having his legs, chest and back waxed. there will be an option to pay to have a go at shaving and/or waxing a bit off. i would also like to do a r**fle at this event with the hopes that some of my friends, family and acquaintances will donate prizes that we can add to the r**fle. if you have a business and are able to donate something to the raffle, that would also be super appreciated. the prices that i’m thinking of would be £5 ticket for the event, £5 to shave a strip of my hair, £5 to wax a strip off of adz. & then £2 a ticket or £5 for a strip for the r**fle. there will be a bar for drinks and snacks and i’ll think of some other ideas to add to the event as we go along. i’ll also have a bucket for general donations and i’m thinking of starting a just giving page or something for those who want to donate more or wouldn’t be able to come to the event.

i wanted to do this event this year but 2020 had a different plan for us. i want this event to be something special. i know that there are bigger things in the world right now to raise money for but i hope that you all can understand that this is the biggest thing in my world and i’m desperate in all honesty. everyone around me is moving on and they have what i want. i just want the same. 

just to put something in perspective, i have over a thousand of you on this platform (sic. Facebook). if each of you gave £5, that’s £5k already. if you all gave £10, that’s £10k!! if you can, be a part of our journey. help us reach our dreams of being parents. thank you ✨