Help a Grieving Mother Rebuild Her Life

I didn’t really want to ask for help as those who know me know I am not one to do so. I usually figure it out on my own. However, this past month has been the absolute hardest time of my life I have ever dealt with. I apologize for this being long in advance.

For those who are not aware I am dealing with so many life changes all at once. Here’s a back story…

Last year, my son, Aiden, came home from the Air Force after serving 6 years. We all made a move to the middle of Nebraska in Kearney, with my boyfriend who got promoted and transferred here. In March of this year I decided to end the relationship I had been in and figure out how to make a move back to Colorado in order to be closer to my dad who is getting elderly, lost his close friend in a motorcycle accident last year, and has been taking care of my sisters dog (a Rottweiler) while she is unfortunately in prison. It has been a lot on my dad and he is all alone. I really feel I need to be closer to him.

Aiden was going to the University in town (UNK) using his GI bill. He asked if he could transfer schools so he could move with us but was told he would have needed to make the request in January, so he was 2 months late. He decided he was good with finishing school out here and so began searching for his own place to live once our lease was up in June.

Things seemed to be going pretty well. I was doing good at the new position at my work I was forced into at the beginning of the year and was still trying to find a place to move close to my dad. June 14th I lost my job of 3 years. I was upset but decided the universe was just telling me my new life in Colorado also needed to involve a new job. Aiden moved to a nice apartment he found on June 21st. July 1st my ex boyfriend put in a 30 day notice where we live as I told him I would figure out how to get to Colorado by the end of the month no matter what as I was offered a job near my dad. However, it entails me getting licensed first and I was working on those classes while still searching for a place to move. Everything was looking so bright for everyone.

Then the most unimaginable thing occurred. I was awoken by a knock on the door at 12:30AM July 4th. When I opened the door I saw the chaplains jacket right away and knew something was horribly wrong. For some reason my bright wonderful son chose to leave this world behind on July 3rd! I will never understand.

So between trying to find a place to move before the end of the month and working on my licensing, I suddenly found myself also dealing with planning a memorial for my son, getting all his things back out of the apartment he didn’t even live 2 weeks in, and dealing with his estate.

I am fortunate that the military will pay for his cremation and service at the cemetery. However I do have to pay the mortuary for other expenses, plus pay for the memorial.

I was able to find a place to live finally, however I had to pay a large deposit and all the fees involved with moving are quickly adding up and I’m am almost totally drained.

I still have to be out of this house on July 31st but can move into my new place that same day. My sons services are on August 2nd so only gives me 1 day to unpack. I’m worried about finishing my classes in time so I can start work August 12, also just generally worried if I’ll even be ready to work by that day, since I really haven’t had time to grieve.

It’s just so much to have to deal with all at the same time. Loss of a relationship, loss of a job, Greatest loss of a son! Plus moving, all while not earning any income.

Many have asked what they could do to help and I have kinda shrugged it off as I really didn’t know. However, if anyone could find it in their hearts to help me make sure I can stay on my feet and not get swallowed up by the financial burden I am going through I would forever be grateful!

Thank you.