Urgent medical and legal bills following my sexual assault a few weeks ago

I’ve spent a long while debating whether I should set up this GoFundMe. Writing this is unpsetting and brings up a lot of shame. I won’t go into explicit details, but I was the victim of sexual assault recently, and it has turned my life upside down. I’ve been navigating intense anxiety, insomnia, panic attacks, nightmares, and flashbacks. I truly don’t want to trigger anyone—if mentions of sexual assault are activating for you, please take care of yourself and feel free to skip ahead to the section below about my immediate financial needs.

Right now, life feels like a bit of a house of cards. I know some of you already showed up so generously last year during my dental nightmare, which makes it even harder to ask again. I’ve done all the “right” things since the assault—reporting it to the police and engaging with them six times so far, providing DNA samples, being interviewed for over 3 hours, giving the police identifying information such as photos and signing off one photos they showed me of him which was so distressing I threw up during that process. I've had to go through repeated STI testing as Kaiser made multiple mistakes with my tests.

These processes have been deeply activating and triggering to my nervous system. I’ve been seeing a trauma therapist 3x a week so I can process what happened, cope, and try and move forward. I am determined this awful experience won't stop me from the work I've been doing for 15+ years supporting others through their own sexual healing and empowerment. AND, I do have to ensure I process my own assault so that I can truly be there for others.

Because I work in the world of sexuality and support many sexual trauma survivors, this experience has also affected my ability to work consistently. I had to take about 4 weeks off just to take care of myself. I've managed to return to work and I can still show up for video coaching, hands‑on in‑person sessions have been more challenging as I prioritize not retraumatizing myself while holding space for others. I’m doing my best to care for myself with integrity so I can share my skills from a grounded and resourced place.

Immediate Financial needs:

To save fees and delays, donations can be sent directly via Venmo: @Caroline‑Carrington‑2 (last four digits 6104)

Other ways you can help if donating isn’t accessible:

You can use sessions or gift certificates at any time in the future—and it allows me to give something back in return for your kindness. There’s no limit on how many sessions or certificates you can purchase, making them meaningful gifts for yourself or loved ones.

I hate needing this much help, and I know many of you already been very generous with me this year — please know I am deeply grateful. I also know many people are struggling to make ends meet so even a small donation of $10 - 20 helps.

If you’re unable to donate, please share a link to this GoFundMe, or simply hold me in your prayers, it means more than I can say.

Thank you for allowing me to be vulnerable with you, for your generosity, and for reminding me that I don’t have to do this alone.

With love from my heart to yours,

Caroline