Hello, my name is Aren, and my partner and I need immediate help to escape their abusive mother. We allowed her to move in with us after she faced eviction in June 2024 under the condition that she would apply for healthcare, get a job, pay 1/3rd of the rent, and contribute equally to caring for the duplex that we shared with her. She initially agreed to these conditions, but over the past year and a half, her adherence towards this agreement slowly lapsed. Any and all attempts to reason with her have been met with aggression and self-defense, even when the topic is broached gently.
She doesn't assist in house chores at all, hoards trash then becomes aggressive when we attempt to clean it up, doesn't care for herself or the pets, and is extremely verbally abusive towards my partner. Any gentle suggestions to better herself or her health (or even simple requests for her to help around the house) are responded to with an extremely defensive, angry outburst. She does nothing but lie on the couch watching TV at max volume, yet she remains under the delusion that she is paying 2/3rds of the rent and constantly cleaning up after us- despite us dedicating almost all of our free time towards attempting to keep the duplex clean and livable.
She's also notorious for leaving food out to become moldy, spoiled, and/or infested with cockroaches, then become aggressive and verbally abusive when we throw it out, claiming that we're 'recklessly wasting food' and that 'we are wasting all of our money with our spending addiction'- which she then uses as an excuse to hold my partner's wallet + monitor their bank account. She will also go days without buying food for her pets or cleaning up their feces/vomit (as two of the cats are speed eaters, even with the aid of slow feeders). Additionally, she does not bathe, feed, or take care of herself unless forced to do so by outside circumstances. These elements together create a hostile, unsanitary living condition that neither of us can mange alone, despite our best efforts.
My partner's health is failing. They're sick 24/7, have a slipped disk in their back that is exasperated by their work, and they have been repeatedly rejected from advancing to a higher-paying position at their current grocery job. They have partial paralysis in their left leg from nerve damage resulting from workplace injury, and have a cracked tooth that requires a 1,500 crown operation to fix. After an outburst where their mother screamed and swore at them for washing her dirty clothes, we both finally had enough, and have decided to move elsewhere to escape our hostile living situation.
We've managed to secure a separate living space for us and our pets, however our lease on the current duplex does not allow for termination, only replacement- which my partner's mother refuses to abide. After nearly a week of back-and-forth fighting, the only terms that she has agreed on is that we continue to pay our portion of the rent and utilities on the current location until the lease expires in August. Any attempts to reason with her or have her apply for disability/low income housing have been refused. If we do not comply, she will be homeless, and has threatened to commit suicide if placed in that situation.
Despite being millionaires, their grandparents refuse to monetarily assist her or her mother, and have told her to her face that they'd rather her mother commit suicide than they step in to help either their daughter or their grandchild. My own parents are willing to assist me if need be, but they themselves are going through financial troubles, and cannot cover the cost of rent for both me and my partner. Therefore, the burden of their mother's future rests entirely on my partner's hands.
My partner is going to need 3,000 dollars over the course of 6 months to fully cover their portion of the rent, which is money that they do not have. They are currently searching for other jobs to bolster our shared income, but the current state of the economy does not inspire much hope for success.
Examples of our current living conditions are shown below. Please note that these pictures were taken a day after cleaning and that very little of the belongings shown in these photographs are ours.
I hate to ask, but if you can donate money to assist our escape, we would be forever grateful. Anything helps.