Last week my 19-year-old son Ramon Jr. and 17-year-old daughter Rhema were kicked out of their mom’s house. They were not permitted to leave with any of their clothes or personal belongings. My daughter had to leave behind her school laptop and essentials even though she is due to receive her college associate's degree in two weeks. Both kids were working full-time jobs, being self-sufficient young people. My son had moved his way up quickly at Habit Burger and has aspirations to one day be a chef, and my daughter was working at her favorite restaurant, IHOP. They had each been paying their mother through Zelle from their own checking accounts for cars they had been buying from their mother. Unfortunately, though, both of the cars were still in their mom’s name, and when she kicked them out, she took the cars they had been paying on. Therefore, all of the money they had paid thus far was lost. Also, the majority of their clothing and other belongings were things they had paid for with their own earnings.

 

 

When she kicked them out, it was a traumatic experience, especially for my daughter Rhema. Her mom tried to assault her, and my son intervened, causing my daughter to leave in the car she had been driving. This caused her mother to call the police to the house on my son and to report my daughter as a runaway which she wasn’t; she was told to get out. On top of that, she reported the car my daughter was in as stolen.

 

I currently live in Arizona with my wife, four hours away. I love my children and have always wanted to be in their lives continuously and consistently. Unfortunately, I was not permitted to be for extended periods of time because their mother made sure that I wasn’t. Over the last few years, as my kids have matured and their mother couldn’t control them as much, they have had much more interaction with my family and me. Because of this, it has enabled me to be more influential in their lives. They have sought me out and cultivated their own relationships with my family and me of their own accord, which has been a point of contention in their mother’s eyes and to her disrespectful. I have always told them that I would be available for them whenever they needed me despite their mother keeping them from me.

 

I immediately went to California to assist my kids, notifying the police of the situation so my daughter wouldn’t be arrested as a runaway or with a stolen car. They were well aware of the problem and told me they were sorry my kids were going through this. Once I got there, the police escorted my kids and I to retrieve their belongings from their mother’s house, only to be told that she wouldn’t consent to my kids entering the home. She informed them that she had given all of their belonging away on Craig’s List for free. Again, the police apologized that they couldn’t do more and said their hands were tied. They said that my kids could sue her in civil court, but that would create more drama and trauma for my kids and ultimately, I am sure their mom in spite, would make sure they got nothing. She at least did hand Rhema her laptop, which was good and very needed for her schooling. Rhema asked her for her diploma and school transcripts, which she refused to give to her, which she may need for a new job.

 

What the police gave us to be able to retrieve the report of trying to get their belongings.

My kids are not at fault here in any way, shape or form. They are both fantastic kids, well mannered, well-behaved young adults. They are respectful, have never ever been in any kind of trouble, and are extremely smart. Both of them graduated from high school two years early. Rhema has already been accepted to a University in Riverside County and has received several scholarships for her double major, communications and music. They don’t deserve to be going through this, they just want to have a normal life, be teenagers, be able to get to their jobs and go to college. They are having a very hard time right now being that they left their mother’s house with the clothes on their backs and shoes on their feet. This disruption in my kid’s life left them not knowing what to do.

 

 

 

My wife and I are doing all that we can right now but this has hit us hard and unexpectedly. Trying to rebuy everything both kids need, provide them with even basic good running cars so that they can work and go to school is a lot right now it is above our means. We are extremely proud and blessed to see the progress of the young adults that they are growing into and we don’t want to see them feeling as though they are lost or that no one cares. We believe they can work through the trauma they have experienced and continue on the path to success they were on. At this time we are asking for any assistance you can help with. Anything great or small would sincerely be appreciated and would help them to a brighter future.

We have set a goal of $15,000.00 to hopefully get them each a basic good running car for work and school and to replace their clothing and shoes with a modest wardrobe.

 

Thanking you in advance, blessings to you all!

 

One of my Daughter Rhema songs she wrote