Toltzman Adoption

UPDATE AUGUST 2022

It’s nearly a year since Josh, Kate, and I have been waiting for another baby to join our family through adoption. We wanted to update our friends and family on how it has been going.

We continue to work with our consultants and have had our profile book presented to 13 different expectant Moms from various parts of the country; however, none of them matched with us. Our home study thankfully allows us to match with an expectant mom anywhere in the U.S. Additionally, we have signed with two smaller agencies, one in Florida and one in Arizona, that work with birth moms in their respective states. We have had one opportunity through our Arizona agency, but that did not end in a match. Yet, we are in the process of being approved by another agency in Georgia, so that feels hopeful.

We have been re-submitting all of our paperwork (background checks, fingerprints, insurance, financials, physicals, drug tests, etc.) as our Homestudy needs to be renewed annually.

The waiting has been challenging, frustrating, and even depressing at times. It has also been faith-stretching, compassion-building, and hope-filled. Still, we had hoped we’d have another little one in our family by now.

How can you help?

Please pray for us to have patience in the wait, to be wise in decision making, and to trust in God’s sovereignty.

Please pray for the well-being & good of the birth family & the child God (hopefully) has for us.

If you or someone you know is considering adoption, please contact us. We’d happily talk with them, connect them to an ethical agency, and show them our profile book to consider us as a family to love their child. Even if we’re not the family for them, we could help answer questions and point them in the direction of support.

You can ask us how we’re doing. We know people wonder but don’t always ask, so here is your permission to check in on us about the wait.

If you feel led to give financially, you can do that through our GoFundMe page or through Venmo @Toltzman-Adoption

If you want to be more involved with us in the process, we’d love to add you to the update emails we send out as we have potential matches or general updates. Message us your email, and we'll add you to the list.

SEPTEMBER 2021 POST

We are so excited to be adopting - AGAIN! Through the gift of adoption, God has already abundantly blessed us with our sweet little Kate. Just over two years ago, we welcomed Kate into our arms and hearts. Now, it is time to add another little one into our family. 

Adoption was not our original plan for our family; however, God had a different, wonderful good in mind for us. After six years of unexplained infertility and numerous medical treatments, we prayerfully decided to pursue adoption to build our family. In 2017, we joined with a Wisconsin adoption agency. After much waiting, we were finally matched with a little girl in winter of 2019. Sadly, that adoption failed, and we found ourselves devastated, seemingly starting over in our quest for a child to love. Yet, God had been working. A few months later, we received a phone call from our agency telling us that a baby girl had been born a few hours from us. All we needed to do was say “Yes”, and she would be ours. Enter Kate. After two weeks in the NICU, we were taking her home to be ours forever. She has enriched our lives with such joy. We are so thankful that God led us on the path of adoption and brought us to Kate. Now, we prayerfully ask Him again to bless us with another baby to love. 

Over the years of learning about adoption and now having one very precious adopted child, God has grown our heart for adoption as the way He intends to build our family. It mirrors God’s own heart towards us as He brings us into His family through the cross of Christ. Adoption is not without suffering and loss - for the birth parents, the child, and the adoptive parents - though, there is abundant joy as well. How blessed we feel to be a part of another adoptive story while knowing full well its many costs. 

Certainly, one of those costs is financial. We expect this adoption to cost over $60,000 - which covers agency fees, homestudy fees, legal fees, medical exams, background checks, printing/mailing, and travel related expenses (this child will likely be born in the South or Southwest & we'll have to stay in that state for a few weeks). We have been blessed to be able to afford this adoption from the help of many family and friends as well as some of our own savings...but we're not fully funded yet.  

We are humbled and excited to invite you into our journey to bring home another baby Toltzman. We are currently in the “active” phase of our adoption process meaning at any time, we might be able to be matched with a birth family and baby. We do not know how long this will take, but it is our hope that we will be able to bring home a little one sometime in the 9-12 months. We look forward to sharing updates in the process as we have them. If you feel led to give, you can do so on our GOFUNDME page or via our Venmo: @Toltzman-Adoption (or PM us for our address). Whether you are able to give or not, we ask for your prayers & well-wishes most of all. 

Please pray…

-That God would, in His perfect timing, bring us another child to love

-That God would care for the health and well-being of this child and his or her birth family

-That God would ease the process in completing paperwork 

-That God would prepare our hearts to love and care for another sweet baby

-That God would provide financially for the cost of the adoption

-That God would be honored in this child’s story

We cannot thank you enough for your generous gifts and prayers. Please reach out if you have any questions for us. We love to share our heart for adoption!

With Love & Gratitude,

The Toltzmans

Josh, Colleen, & Kate