August 4, 2017 our lives were forever changed when we welcomed Jack Richard Caulfield into the world and became a family of four. Weighing just 4.13oz he was so tiny and started the fight of his life. The incredible medical staff at Stanford saved his life that day. Unfortunately, just a few days later we received the devasting news that Jack had an incurable chromosome abnormality called Trisomy 18 which can cause serious defects to several or all major organs making the survival rate very slim. About half of babies carried to term are stillborn and 50% of babies born alive pass away within the first week. Boys have an even less survival rate. Jack lived 105 days.
The Lambie Project is a program I have developed with the Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital at Stanford under the Family Guidance and Bereavement Program in Jack’s memory to help other grieving families.
Many of you may have seen a lamb we often hold in our photos. Our Lambie is 8 lbs and 20 inches, about the size of Jack when he passed away. There is a physical ache with the loss of a child; your heart and arms are empty. The agony of losing a child is insurmountable.
I had Lambie made to help with the physical ache and not only has he brought Sean and me comfort but he has also done so for Ari, Jack’s older brother.
At LPCH, an average of 250 babies pass away each year. This number includes those who have passed away at the hospital or those who have been discharged. All have been in some way part of the children’s hospital there. I feel the pain and grief of every family member devastated by a loss.
This program will be offered free of charge to those families. Lambie will not take away the pain or replace these precious children, but it is our hope he brings even the slightest amount of comfort during an impossible time.
Every lamb will be personalized to match the baby’s weight and offered in three different lengths to best match the baby.
The cost to make these lambs range from $20-$50. This includes shipping if families are not able to come back to Stanford to receive their Lambie. This gift will be offered at no cost to grieving families.
At this time, if you feel compelled to make even the smallest donation, it will go directly to The Lambie Project to help serve these families. Your monetary gift could truly touch the lives of a grieving family.
Though we will never be able to physically hold Jack in our arms again, we hold Lambie. He is a constant reminder that Jack will forever make us a family of four and live in the hearts of all those whose lives he touched. Please help the memories of those precious children continue to live on through the Lambie Project-putting hope in the arms of families in grief.
If you would prefer to write a check please write it out to:
Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital
Memo section: Bereavement & Family Guidance SPF.
Please include this will go towards
The Lambie Project.
Family Guidance and Bereavement Program
520 Sand Hill Rd.
Palo Alto, CA 94306.
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