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We are so happy to share the wonderful news that we are in the process of adopting an infant! We have completed our home study and are currently presenting our profile book and information to birth mothers in hopes of receiving a match very soon! We have always had the heart for adoption, but we started our journey with trying to have a biological child first.
The journey up to this point has been so very HARD. We have dealt with infertility for many years, with countless losses during this time. From miscarriage through the many failed fertility treatments (eastern and western medical approaches), this experience has taken a toll on us financially, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It made us angry, bitter, depressed, anxious, and doubtful. Infertility consumed us and our lives during this time.
Struggling with infertility forced us to experience the five stages of grief every single month. We denied, bargained with, got angry at, cried over, and finally accepted the results. We then picked ourselves back up to do it all over again. Infertility is nothing short of a crazy emotional roller coaster ride that took us on its hopeful highs to its fear gripping lows every four weeks. It let our hopes soar for a few days or weeks, anticipating that surely this time we would become parents, only to have it plummet as we watched our dreams slip away with yet another failed attempt. The hardest part is that we will never know the “why” behind our infertility and the pain that has become part of our story.
We wish we could have talked about it with all of you, but it was just too difficult. When we were with each of you, we wanted to have fun, talk, smile, and laugh focusing on all the good and positive things in our lives. When we were alone and with each other, infertility plagued our hearts and minds, and we needed to escape it every chance we could. Infertility has changed us forever in ways that we don’t even understand, but we have come out of this experience stronger in many ways. We are closer to one another than ever before and have learned so much about ourselves and each other. We have now accepted and embraced that this is our journey and our story. We truly believe that this is right where we are supposed to be, and we can't wait to welcome this little soul into our lives. We are also anxious to see all the love poured over this child from our family, friends, and community!
From the beginning, we have always said that family is much more than just a biological connection and adoption will give us the opportunity to expand our lives by allowing us to share our unconditional love with a child. We look forward to being able to say that our miracle was the infertility.
Thanks to each of you for your understanding, care, concern, love, support, and prayers!
Much love to each one of you❤️ Sydnee & Jamey
HOPE
Smiles from the threshold of the year to come,
Whispering it will be happier………
~Alfred Tennyson
HERE'S THE REALITY
Adoption gives us the amazing opportunity to make a positive difference in a child’s life and grow our family, however; the unfortunate reality of adoption is that it is incredibly expensive. We are adopting domestically and utilizing a consultant. The total cost is expected to be between $35,000 and $50,000. That figure was overwhelmingly daunting to us, especially after the cost of fertility treatments.
The high cost of adoption is associated with: attorneys fees, birth mother expenses, matching fees, birth family counseling, interstate compact fees, document preparation and authentication, adoption agency application and program fees, travel expenses, and post-placement expenses. One of the ways to offset some of these costs is the 2019 tax credit for adoption which is $14,080. The other significant source of financial relief is through crowdfunding.
As mentioned above, our home study is complete as well as our profile book. We are hoping to be matched very soon! Our plan is to be at the hospital when our baby is born, and we will remain in the birth town for approximately 2 weeks while the paperwork is finalized.
It was a difficult decision for us to attempt crowdfunding. To ask others for money is a humbling and embarrassing experience. If this is something that you are not comfortable with or are not in a place to be able to give, we completely understand. We would very much appreciate being in your thoughts and prayers that this adoption moves forward successfully and smoothly. If you are inclined to give, we are extremely grateful to you and your efforts to help us build our family.
Also, if you or someone you know is experiencing infertility and would like to talk to someone who has been through it, we are here! Infertility feels very isolating and shameful, and we want to do what we can to break down the stigma that surrounds it.
The words “thank you” don’t seem like enough when it comes to thanking someone for financially supporting us through this process. But, from the bottom of our hearts, THANK YOU! We can’t wait to bring our baby home!
All our love ❤️ Sydnee & Jamey
We are so happy to share the wonderful news that we are in the process of adopting an infant! We have completed our home study and are currently presenting our profile book and information to birth mothers in hopes of receiving a match very soon! We have always had the heart for adoption, but we started our journey with trying to have a biological child first.
The journey up to this point has been so very HARD. We have dealt with infertility for many years, with countless losses during this time. From miscarriage through the many failed fertility treatments (eastern and western medical approaches), this experience has taken a toll on us financially, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It made us angry, bitter, depressed, anxious, and doubtful. Infertility consumed us and our lives during this time.
Struggling with infertility forced us to experience the five stages of grief every single month. We denied, bargained with, got angry at, cried over, and finally accepted the results. We then picked ourselves back up to do it all over again. Infertility is nothing short of a crazy emotional roller coaster ride that took us on its hopeful highs to its fear gripping lows every four weeks. It let our hopes soar for a few days or weeks, anticipating that surely this time we would become parents, only to have it plummet as we watched our dreams slip away with yet another failed attempt. The hardest part is that we will never know the “why” behind our infertility and the pain that has become part of our story.
We wish we could have talked about it with all of you, but it was just too difficult. When we were with each of you, we wanted to have fun, talk, smile, and laugh focusing on all the good and positive things in our lives. When we were alone and with each other, infertility plagued our hearts and minds, and we needed to escape it every chance we could. Infertility has changed us forever in ways that we don’t even understand, but we have come out of this experience stronger in many ways. We are closer to one another than ever before and have learned so much about ourselves and each other. We have now accepted and embraced that this is our journey and our story. We truly believe that this is right where we are supposed to be, and we can't wait to welcome this little soul into our lives. We are also anxious to see all the love poured over this child from our family, friends, and community!
From the beginning, we have always said that family is much more than just a biological connection and adoption will give us the opportunity to expand our lives by allowing us to share our unconditional love with a child. We look forward to being able to say that our miracle was the infertility.
Thanks to each of you for your understanding, care, concern, love, support, and prayers!
Much love to each one of you❤️ Sydnee & Jamey
HOPE
Smiles from the threshold of the year to come,
Whispering it will be happier………
~Alfred Tennyson
HERE'S THE REALITY
Adoption gives us the amazing opportunity to make a positive difference in a child’s life and grow our family, however; the unfortunate reality of adoption is that it is incredibly expensive. We are adopting domestically and utilizing a consultant. The total cost is expected to be between $35,000 and $50,000. That figure was overwhelmingly daunting to us, especially after the cost of fertility treatments.
The high cost of adoption is associated with: attorneys fees, birth mother expenses, matching fees, birth family counseling, interstate compact fees, document preparation and authentication, adoption agency application and program fees, travel expenses, and post-placement expenses. One of the ways to offset some of these costs is the 2019 tax credit for adoption which is $14,080. The other significant source of financial relief is through crowdfunding.
As mentioned above, our home study is complete as well as our profile book. We are hoping to be matched very soon! Our plan is to be at the hospital when our baby is born, and we will remain in the birth town for approximately 2 weeks while the paperwork is finalized.
It was a difficult decision for us to attempt crowdfunding. To ask others for money is a humbling and embarrassing experience. If this is something that you are not comfortable with or are not in a place to be able to give, we completely understand. We would very much appreciate being in your thoughts and prayers that this adoption moves forward successfully and smoothly. If you are inclined to give, we are extremely grateful to you and your efforts to help us build our family.
Also, if you or someone you know is experiencing infertility and would like to talk to someone who has been through it, we are here! Infertility feels very isolating and shameful, and we want to do what we can to break down the stigma that surrounds it.
The words “thank you” don’t seem like enough when it comes to thanking someone for financially supporting us through this process. But, from the bottom of our hearts, THANK YOU! We can’t wait to bring our baby home!
All our love ❤️ Sydnee & Jamey