Support Vanessa and Alberto's Adoption Journey

Hello, my name is Vanessa Tovar. Here is our story. My husband and I decided to go to a fertility doctor in June of 2023. While there, they ran some blood work and found out that I had a critically low egg count in my ovaries. The doctor told us he could not help us because a normal number for my age was 5, and my number was reading 0.01. So, he suggested that I go see a gynecologist to find out why this had happened. The gynecologist decided that I would have to have a DNC because I was showing polyps in my uterus. They did a biopsy, and it came back that I had Grade 2 endometrial cancer. I thought my life was over. I was scared and heartbroken, not only for me but for Alberto as well. It was always a dream of mine to be a mother. I just knew I was meant to be one. So, hearing this news was devastating. The gynecologist then referred me to an oncology doctor. She was amazing and very smart, and she cried when she told me that pretty much the only option was to have a full hysterectomy. Again, I was devastated. I was so angry that God gave me this burning desire in my heart to be a mother and then took it away. Meanwhile, all of this happened in less than six months. I had had 3 major surgeries in less than 3 months, and not only was that hard on me physically but mentally as well. After my surgery, the doctor said that they had got all the cancer out and that I would not have to do chemotherapy or radiation because they had caught the cancer in time. I had to be off work for 2 months, and the whole time I was depressed. I was having panic attacks constantly. Then, on top of everything, I began going through menopause. Not something you want to have to go through at 35 years old. After the doctor had fixed my medication, Alberto and I decided that we were going to have a family no matter what. We started the process to become foster parents so we could adopt. It took us exactly 3 months to get through the process, and we were excited to start our family. God had other plans. The day before we got certified to be foster parents, I got a call that a mother wanted someone to adopt her 16-month-old son. Without hesitation, we said yes. By that weekend, we had our boy. The very first night, he called me momma. My heart was filled with so much joy and love for this little boy whom I had only met hours ago. The moment I saw him, I knew he belonged to us. Our little boy. Our son. We have had him for 3 months now, and I cannot imagine our life without him. Seeing Alberto be a father is the best thing ever. Hearing my sweet boy call him Dada and hearing him call for me, his mama, is music to my heart. Knowing I am a mom just keeps me going because God knew that we needed each other. We love our little guy so much and can not imagine life without him. Our adoption is planned for February if we can pay the lawyer off before then, so keep us in your prayers. We can't wait to make it official even though he is already officially our son. If you made it this far, thank you for reading my story. Please help us reach our goal so we can make our baby officially ours!! ❤️