Support Tom's Fight for Justice

I am posting this on behalf of my ex-husband, Tom. He has been put through the wringer and is in dire need of any help that anyone is willing to give him. Below are his words. His story about the past 11 months and what he and the children have been subjected to:

"I want to start by saying I never intended to share this online.

I've always been a “believe women” kind of guy. The majority of sane people would never choose to put themselves out there like that if they didn’t feel it was what they had to do. And I couldn’t imagine what it would feel like to be in that much pain and have no one believe you.

But I do now.

For the last 11 months, I have gone through hell. Most of you know the main elements. Divorce. The house. Depression. Etc.

But while all this was happening, the person I loved most in the world was conducting an operation to destroy my name, my mental health and my life. She has been cruel, vindictive and petty. She has turned nearly everyone I know in this area against me with manipulated stories and straight up lies. She has filed false reports with the police, many of whom I've gotten to know thanks to the nine times she’s called them to report me for anything from “making too much noise in the garage” to “doing drugs.” She’s called the police on my 12-year-old telling the police she threatened to hurt people at the school.

And what’s worse is that she’s also involved my kids. All three of them. From cruel insults about my children that she helped raise for a decade, to parental alienation and emotional abuse towards the daughter we share custody of to the point where Lainey has begged me not to make her go back.

She has even trashed friends and their children to other people because they were made aware of how she had truly been and stopped supporting her.

Some examples:

After my depression episode where I was hospitalized, I received a text stating that “I wanted to be like my dead father so bad that I even tried to be dead like him. you can’t do anything right lmfao”

She threatened to take my daughter away from me repeatedly, and tried to. She told me she had gotten a lawyer and was going to make sure I never saw Lainey again. Not only did that not happen, but she never even hired a lawyer despite starting a GoFundMe for “legal fees.” She did however book a Carnival Cruise.

She’s filed false charges and gotten protective orders based on provably false accusations. Last week she filed four violations of the protective order, none of which were actual violations, and had the police come to my house where I was handcuffed in front of my daughter. When her mother came to pick her up, she was visibly upset and was told “what are you so upset for? I hope he gets raped in prison like the fa***t he is.”

The next day I got a text from my daughter who already understood what was actually happening. She was angry with me. Blamed me for everything. Said I needed to stop harassing her mother.” I was confused. And when Lainey came back, I asked her about it and was told that it wasn’t her. That Kristin had taken her phone and pretended to be her to get me to say something incriminating. I didn’t.

Then yesterday, I arrived to pick up my daughter at the exchange spot and was greeted by her boyfriend, the unemployed homeless man that she began texting four days after leaving me and moved into my home after manipulating a situation to have me removed. I apparently didn’t park in the correct spot and he began screaming at me, and wouldn’t allow my daughter to leave the car. I yelled back and he got aggressive. Put his hands up and threatened to “kick my ass.”

Later that evening I got a text that she was filing more violations and apparently an assault charge against me saying I somehow assaulted him? As well as a protective order. All this despite my daughter telling her I didn’t do anything other than yell and that he was the one who started it.

It has been a nonstop road of hell and despite talking to the police several times, there’s nothing I can do to stop it other than continue to defend myself in court every time she gets angry and retaliates by filing bogus charges.

So all that said, this is not a case of he said, she said. I can prove all of this and have been compiling documentation since the beginning.

I don’t want any of this. I don’t want to fight with her. I don’t even want to defend myself. But I’ve been put in a position where that choice has been taken away from me.

I’ve lost everything this past year including my reputation to nearly everyone I cared about. And it’s getting exhausting.

So if you believe her, or if you want to understand the hell that has become my life, here it is. And I’m not posting this to be mean or petty. I just need people to know. I just need someone to believe me. I have tried my whole life to be the best partner and father I could be. It’s all that mattered to me. I am not perfect. Far from it. But this has been not only overkill but abusive and plain wrong."

Please help if you can. He is fighting his hardest for himself and for his children. Again, I am his ex-wife, Abigail and Alix's mother. Tom is a phenomenal father and always has been. He is still one of my very best friends, and he needs our help.