Justice is for All! Including Mr. Sean Diddy Combs!

It is official! I have my LLC to practice virtual counseling in the state of New York. I am just so thrilled to have this opportunity and to be able to open up another chapter in my life! After 4 1/2 years in retirement, I started hearing about all the gun gang violence, disregard for human lifes! Consequently, youth getting involved in senseless, sometimes fatal instances. I decided I wanted to see what impact I could still have on children. And by doing so, positioning myself to be able to talk to our kids, anywhere they may be in crisis! Counseling is my passion! I really do appreciate everyone’s support and input! God bless you all! Virtual counseling allows me to reach you anywhere. I am here for you!

My name is Mary Bowden, a retired School Counselor/Therapist. Why as an African American Gay female, I support Mr. Sean Diddy Combs!

My goal is to raise money for mental health, community mental health programs and mental health counselors. Initiating empowerment programs to encourage and educate youth on job internship opportunities and provide information on college programs, grants/scholarships, etc. Other initiatives in community health; to provide information on nutritional importance and exercises. Basically, to enhance community base organizations (CBOs) services.

My story is not to blame, or criticize anyone, just how I put it down! But I will say, if the shoe fits (pause) “Just think about it.” Whenever in history, we engaged in the lynching of a black man! (History) tells us all we need to learn and know! And to add insult to injury, all up on social media blasting the man’s personal beeswax on front street! Yeah some of us are complicit, wanting to know the next episodes of this man’s private lifestyle! Let us SHUT IT DOWN! SHUT IT DOWN & I mean shut it down now! We are not in Roman times where gladiators would fight to the death! This is not us, at the very least can we use some kind of decorum! There is a right & wrong way to address these myriad of issues! Therefore, these issues are best addressed by health counselors, psychologists or psychiatrists! And, I respectfully ask to remove this from the public view!

Whenever have there been such public displays of indecency but in the Roman times; when gladiators would fight against each other to destroy each others’ opponents! (History) Tells me, we have been here before! Whenever in history has any man been displayed over all social media outlets or public audiences with such sensitive materials that may or may not compromise Mr. Combs chances to a fair trial! When did we start sharing our most intimate thoughts in Public! I feel very uncomfortable about this! So when did we become lawless people? If I wanted to see blood, guts and violence ! I have Netflix, Prime! Tubi etc., so let us change the channel There are children, young adults etc., and seniors out there having to be exposed to a man’s personal lifestyle. So PLEASE tune the rhetoric down! Mr. Sean Diddy Combs has a Family! Some folks are complicit b/c they like to hear BS news especially, when it is about a black man! Not just any black man but a very successful proud Black family man who we all love and cares for! And because we are all human beings that deserves our feelings and personal life protected! The excitement of it all, gives some of us some kind of KICK START Campaign to get Mr. Combs! THEREFORE, being apart of trying to destroy a human being’s life! Some are complicit b/c some of us like minding other peoples’ beeswax, sexual genre through our rap music, and how women are just displayed as sexual objects in magazines, movies, etc., therefore, fulfilling a man’s desires, dreams and fantasies, etc.! It seems to me, society has failed us all, at the expense of our culture, children and families! It seems common decency walked out the door so long ago, and therefore common decency, simply just does not exist anymore! However, it makes you question your own values and how you see your values in relationship to others!

Yeah so count me in the FIGHT for equal justice for all!

As a child at a very young age, this man experienced the death of his beloved father! Who knows what psychological issues he may have incurred or how his brain was able to process this tragedy! Only b/c for me, I live in a world of streaming conflicts & mostly conflicts from within, conflicts with my environment and conflicts with basic human living! I feel my feelings and experiences, may be more extra than the average person! Consequently, I had to endure things I had no control, therefore, for me my realities are always intertwining with past & present currents of events, just as most of us had to do! I have successfully convinced myself I have it all together! When in fact, just not so!

There are many factors to consider here! I was also a young person when my Dad was shot and his head was separated from his body! And when they say time heals wounds, I guess it may be some truth in that, but I was not yet 18 yrs., of age when my Dad was taken from me! And, I have been in constant search for balance in my life! And again, this is nothing unusual for more people you can count!

Exposure Therapy: deals with mental disorders; and it is my understanding that this specific type of therapy deals with cognitive & behavioral disorders and have been experienced by others with some success! Exposure therapy seeks to treat issues: bio-polar. PTSD, etc.! Now a perfect example of this: have you ever seen the shows on hoarding/hoarders? These people have shielded themselves from the outside world and have great difficulties dealing in the presence moments!

It upsets me when people judge other people by their perceptions of what they think of that person, but instead, it is the things people don’t see that may have more insights into one’s behaviors! And, to dismiss any mental illness that may or may not exist! Simply is not cool! How do you think people get better without the support of their family & real friends! But more importantly, to fall on your knees and to ask Jesus for mercy and forgiveness!

Exposure Theory: This type of therapy helps to reduce anxiety over a long, period of time, so as to create a safe environment to foster less stress & anxieties, to express how one may be feeling; in order, to COPE in your daily life. We all may have different alternatives to how we express and balance our emotions! I strive for positive thinking moving forward! What does that tells you? This is a life learning state of being! Forever having Faith! Nothing happens without it!

As a therapist, we seek the positive strengths in our clients! Sean’s contributions to African Americans culture, music, art, etc., are phenomenal.

He is a very savvy intelligent businessman who pays his taxes. More importantly, this man takes care of his children as well as other relatives! He has a mother that he loves & cares for her; a very admirable quality, I say!!

Mr. Sean Diddy Combs is a man that deserves REDEMPTION! When we all come into this world, we are children of God! God sent his only son Jesus Christ to intercede for mankind sins!

If our Heavenly Father who made heaven and earth, forgives us for our sins; then who is anyone’s else authority to question God’s will? God is in charge! Show me one person on earth who has not committed a sin! For anyone without sin, cast the first stone!

!Laws are made for people to respect and act accordingly! Some people are successfully convinced that there is nothing we can do! I say yes, their is a lot we can do b/c much is needed! First, to recognize your values and how your values helps to sustain your life?

It is no greater sin than ignorance! In fact: Did you know while you are struggling to make ends meet, others are building their communities to ensure values are respected and maintained! While some communities, are being destroyed by drug/gang violence; further eroding the values in the communities of the least and middle class families!

What we can learn from these developments: mental health is still the #1 issue that is affecting us all! That is why, more mental health facilities/services are required to help all people rich, middle & poor!

We give homage to the Gates Foundation who will be giving their entire fortune on much needed medicine/medical science etc., to benefit research in exploring/present & past medical theories to find more sophisticated ways to address medicine! The Gates foundation is going to invest in Global communities to provide medical research and social programs to help all people! Mostly, communities that are in need of these most crucial services! And I applaud them because they are also encouraging others to do the same to making society more just for all.

Compassion, forgiveness, empathy, kindness, honesty, etc.!

Mr. Combs with tenacity & strong convictions worked his way to the top of his game! He contributed a lot to others and at the very least, can we acknowledge some positive achievements: theatre like performances that made us all feel inspirations, aspirations, goals and more importantly, Dreams! We forget when this man rocked the house like no one else could. He picked your spirits up when you were somewhere in no man’s land! Now you want to throw him away & throw away the key! Something is completely wrong here! Just think for years our culture just being people of color, has been demonized by others! So we take this black man, to make an example out of him b/c some folks, are just so fascinated by this man’s private lifestyle, when in fact, this stuff has been going on since the beginning of time by many others!

Now I am saying Mr. Combs is a human being and a family man, give him some respect! Especially, when society has failed people of color! No I can’ t be a part of that! It is in my opinion, this case is more about character assassination & how this man conducts his private affairs! And instead of looking at his talents & extraordinarily business savvy sense, we can learn a lot more about mental disorders, brain functioning, basically, your perceptions, and how you feel and view your world: perceptions are validated by one’ experiences therefore, making assumptions we fully don’t understand! We learn through our perceptions therefore, making this way of life acceptable to most! More importantly, all of the suffering and humiliation and convoluted statements coupled with untruths to further paint a picture of his lifestyle. I just cannot stop thinking of the many young children that have been missing for years now, and their families are still suffering and grieving from the loss of their loved ones today!

However, I can’t help think that there may be some bias issues to consider! Just b/c this man is who he is; will he be given fair treatment; does he not deserve his rights protected as others! And, to try to diminish his image, as if, any of his accomplishments never existed or meant anything is somehow questionable.

Now, consider, the right setting, over time he may be able to address his anger issues as well as giving him tools to work with; using different strategy methods to control, those actions that lead him to “I call, desperate moments,” resulting in extreme aggression! Sometimes, taking a moment for time out & deep breaths to self-monitor your own emotions over time helps! There are numerous things that you can practice to redirect one’s thoughts and behaviors! However, it takes a lot of practice, patience and Faith!

I can tell you prison is not the place! This man needs to be in the proper setting in order for him to get the proper HELP! Therefore, I feel this man requires therapy so as for him to find his way! I feel those that also engaged in his experiences may need to seek out therapy so as to analyze /examine theirs behaviors that attracted them to Mr. Combs, in the first place! God gives us free will, and Mr. Combs did not put a gun to anyone’s head to make you do anything that you were maybe curious about or your needs to exploit money from him!

Personally, I think we all can use some therapy! Self-examination! And more importantly, to take time for self! Especially, when you are taking care of many people in your orbit!

How many of you have lost your way b/c I can tell you I have lost my way a few times so let us exam the REAL CRIMINALS out here!

Check out, how our medical insurances are just so inadequate, taking away funding for schools/hospitals facilities only make things worst! Why should the least have to continue to suffer! Is that not a bigger sin?

I am not interested in what goes on in this man’s bedroom. I am concerned about the many homeless people living in the streets! What can we do about that to ensure decent housing for these people? How many children go to bed with out their medications or go to bed without food in their stomachs? WHY we can’t set up services right in our communities to address these critical issues! Facts: community distribution food locations in many states have provided on-going food & pet caring services!

I am advocating for our seniors that can’t afford proper medical care or their medications to sustain their golden years, or nutritional meals, etc. I am concerned about the many guns in the streets that results in increasing youth gun violence!

I told you how I create my own realities where justice is for all! Needless to say, we CAN all make this a great DREAM for all! As I said, much is needed: providing housing, seniors with companionships, ensuring nutritional meals, personal grooming and bath, etc.!

Another category providing counseling and college grants, internships information etc., or what about, just having a counselor to talk to!

And it is one category that is dear to my heart: the care for our pets that give us comfort and healing when we are at our most vulnerable moments in our lives!

Now, we are moving together for a better life for our champions: mothers, fathers, children, grandparents, sisters & brothers, our ancestors & pets! And at the very least, can you just look after our elderly neighbors and our babies to sustain their well-being and that they are in safe environments! Guess what, that did not costs you a dime! Only requirements: compassion, observation, consideration, kindness, heart & empathy for others!

I often, wonder why seniors have to pay just as much as younger persons. That is an example of environmental CONFLICT! Resulting in Environmental Conflict Theory!

Now consider setting up volunteer service learning programs starting in middle schools to help our youth learn empathy & respect, compassion for the many parents & grandparents that pave their way for success! And who is looking out for the elderly that are in need of services! And other concerns: the many men of color that are in the prison systems. What about Apprentice programs to help students learn various crafts of interest: auto mechanics, training programs, etc.

As a therapist, I teach life principles in a non-conventional way: think of me as your coach guiding you to recognize your own strengths; practicing values driven focus to self-actualization. The importance of never take credit for anything that is not earned! If things don’t work out remember, whether you win or lose, you did your very best! My mom would tell us if you did something the 1st time and things did not work out, mom said, “try it again and as many times as it takes, continue trying until you succeed!” It was a very important principle for our family and I am sure those values hold true for most of us! And, recognizing small steps to take bigger steps helps to build confidence of self: staying physically fit, to carry yourself as a woman or man! I find many women/girls have low self-esteem issues: the lack of confidence, dreams and ambitions! Some men & young boys are disturbing as well.

Most of us remember when we were growing up; parents, teachers, therapists and the pastors encouraged us and basically influenced good values and basically knowledge and sound advice in order, to make good strong decisions about life! Some of us are attracted to things we may or may not understand! However, consider to work in unison to help all rich, middle/poor people to build people up not tear them down! We continue to encourage good decision making and to take responsibility for one’s individual actions!

Mr. Combs is not responsible for one’s lack of poor decisions making, that may resulted in unfortunate negative consequences! But what he is responsible for is his own actions & behaviors! All of it, is just heartbreaking!

Well is there anyone out there that can say anything good about this man? I am hoping, I can’t be the only one on earth that will have something good to say about Mr. Sean Diddy Combs! Because if so, I would like for you to share your story of how Mr. Combs impacted your life in a positive manner!

My story:

I am compelled to tell of a time in my life, that haunts me today! I to was lost! And if I can help someone else, find their way, to make their feelings recognized and to seek out God’s Grace & Mercy; I have done and will continue to do my part in making life better for others! I am just giving back what was given to me by God Almighty, the gift of Life!

Mr. Sean Diddy Combs helped me and supported me in my most crucial moments in my life! And we need other people to speak out if you were also, impacted by Mr. Combs in some positive way to show the world Mr. Combs has a positive side and has a compassion to help others!

You see, I know how it must feel especially being a gay person, person of color and female to be crucified in other people’s perceptions of you! Especially, when it appears nothing you ever did in their lives mattered, now! People you have feed & helped just because you simply cared for their well beings and to be stabbed in the back by those same people; It’s just scandalous and not cool folks! Straight out back stabbing! They smile in your face just to stab you in your back! I have been their many times over!

Needless to say, some are still in darkness! But it is by God’s Grace I am still standing! And, I consider myself a Lioness! I am a proud accomplished person, who have people in my life that loves me for being Me! Hallelujah! I worked for over 50 years and I have lived mores lives than most! I don’t need to be rich b/c my Heavenly Father has prepared for me as well as for you, at our home in Heaven! He continues to provide for me until I get there! I don’t have to tell untruths or take from anyone in my life and therefore, I don’t seek riches fame or headaches especially if it means going against my values!

My experiences and exactly what happened to me! I still have continuing nightmares whenever, I even hear of someone else being abused! I have always been a giver to family & friends! You see God made me to be that way: it is believed that if you are a giver be a cheerful giver if that is what you were called to. I continue to endure! I declare God is my shield!

Some days I am still mad as hell and some days are great! So understand, I am not condoning any kinds of vicious acts of violence or rape!

I tell my story in hopes our young folks understand, the dangers that are lurking just around the corner! Basically, educating them of realities that exist out here to be prepared to protect themselves! However, to be aware that their are not so good men out there to exploit, sell you, or even kill you for that almighty dollar! Why you think the sex trafficking business makes billions & billions of dollars annually? If you don’t listen than you have to bare the responsibilities that come with it! I am not trying to be cruel but just remember when you leave your parents home, you enter the REAL WORLD! Remember the values & behaviors parents taught you! And God will do the REST!

However, we live in a nation of laws that seems to be one/sided and unfair towards people of color! Some folks have privileges that they feel are only for them and somehow people of color don’t deserve! They trample over the rights of ordinary hardworking people! Just look at our economy, who is buying jets, million dollar homes, & expensive cars, etc., and all of this is done at the expense of middle & poor class folks!

Wake up America! Who are the real criminals out here!

However, I stand today for a equal just system for all!

Ask yourself, WHY!

God made man and it is for him to decide Mr. Combs Fate, not an unjust system. How can injustice bring justice!

We all are entitled to seek redemption for things said and done!

I am praying for Mr. Combs b/c it is God purpose that he lives and I can bet my life this will be a man that given the chance to redeem himself will come back stronger than ever and we all will learn something about our own faults and perceptions! Don’t be quick to serve judgment on this man!

I tell my story b/c these things we seek in others maybe a good idea to seek these things within ourselves!

This case was already decided in the media in public, that in itself, makes this case suspicious! Not to mention why are we charging this man on state charges under a federal indictment! So just forget the constitutional boundaries b/c guess who laws are made for, think about it! And I feel, something is terribly wrong; therefore, I feel we can consider a Mistrial! The constitution is written so as a case is decided in court, not the media but by a jury of his peers!

We teach our children right from wrong, but are they listening? I know my parents and grandma did it for us!. Set clear instructions to teach right and wrong life principles!

I am respectfully asking that we restore common decency & respect to our culture & family values! Help me SHUT THIS MADNESS DOWN! We have the picture, no more need to embarrass ourselves and more importantly, Mr. Sean Diddy Combs and others! And b/c somehow, some others are just as complicit! I apologize to my seniors, I apologize to our children and families, in general to this society we call ourselves! This is not the way! God will show Grace because he did it for Me! I only live today by God’s Grace! Show this man Mercy hallelujah in JESUS Name!

I respectfully ask you, have you ever taken drugs…well if so, drugs alters your state of mind! A lot of times drugs conflict with other drugs! Consequently, causes you to lose your balance. I have experienced episodes of grieving that continues today: I lost my mom, brothers, sisters, my dearest twin brother and experiencing loss takes a toll on your nervous system! However, have you considered why people take drugs in the 1st place or are we just assuming people enjoy drugs! Well, you can answer that question better than me.

I was once homeless in the streets and my other grandmother, worked as a domestic taking care of rich folks. With her little self, she would come all the way from upstate NY to Harlem, to care for me! I was lost basically, I had given up on myself. I would go on rooftops to see which one would be easier to jump off b/c the pain seemed unbearable! This particular, evening I convinced myself to take opiates to make it easier to find a better way of life! Well, what happens, I overdosed and my friends dragged me off the roof and put me in someone bathtub with lots of ice! I was not responding and they got scared and started hitting my face and the hitting turned into punches! Well I can tell you when I did finally wake up, one side of my face was completely Black! The other side of my face was also unrecognizable! So, I stand by, if it was not for God’s Grace that I am Here! And, that was just one time out of many! You see when you can’t stop the recurring dreams you become desperate to seek help! I am advocating to bring awareness to mental health issues in our society!

As many, who have lost a parent or others, can you agree and wonder, how different you are today! Don’t judge this man because he is wealthy and or you don’t like him! This is a man in a lot of pain! Not to mention, imagine so call friends have turned against you. It seems Nobody has anything good to say about this man. This man needs treatment and the support of his children, mother and right now, all of you; to help him find his way! If you are of Faith, I recommend you read the book of Solomon in the Bible!

Well for those of you that may not know:

Solomon directly disobeyed the Lord by going after the gods of their heathen wives and I am encouraging you to read what was his consequences for his behaviors but what I will tell you; because he loved God & repented of his sins; God forgave him and gave him a second chance b/c you see God loved this man! Sean is certainly no Solomon but he is a man given the chance will make a positive impact moving forward in all our lives! People hear this man’s cry!

Now, let me get something straight, I never ever met this man. I never met his family or friends but as I sit here today b/c I was called to do so and I was called to speak on behalf of his family as well, and because of my own convictions in Jesus Christ!

Mr. Sean Diddy Combs nor his family knows I even exist but I am here in the mists of everything praying for this family! You see, God calls on his Angels to protect those who believes in him! The saying, God works in mysterious ways, well, Believe that! This case has disturbed me in so many ways so much so, that even just last night I had a dream that my sister and I went to the prison to meet and pray for this man informing him that God has great plans for him and his family! If you are of Faith he already has you! I say, it is so written, when you persevere under much hardships, trials, and tribulations consider yourself Blessed! God is not finished with you yet!

I am sure there are people out there that may or may not agree with me. However, God sent his only begotten son Jesus Christ to help the sinner, God don’t look for people that are already saved but it is the lost folks! This is a soul I pray for and all the souls that this man has harmed in anyway, I ask Jesus to forgive him! I ask all the families that somehow were impacted to also forgive Mr. Combs!

So let us get back to the real reason I support Sean Diddy Combs!

Mr. Combs brought back the comfort I needed to feel safe again and I got my mojo back! The song was and still is universal and I can guarantee you I was not the only one that felt that way! I confess, I felt I had to somehow give back to this man to let him know how he touched my heart & gave me good feelings I had lost so long, very long ago! That song allowed me to grieve. Do you know how important it is to grieve? My God, when you are not able to grieve properly, you are constantly looking for closure so you can’t sleep consequently, you experience sleep deprivation, you become angry, confused, your head starts spining around distorting your realities! Grieving helps to accept what has happened in our lives just knowing this person just meant so much to you in your life! And, Helping you to bring Closure!

Further, he helped me jump start my life to bring back positive feelings about myself, helping me to understand what it means to say good bye to your moms, brothers, sisters and other people you may have lost in your lives!

Let God do what no one can do: God loves this man and while others will seek to bring him down. I am confident that God will lift this man up!

Allow this man to receive proper treatment and guidance, from God! We simply cannot allow this man of color to be ripped apart b/c we don’t like his life style. I am no lawyer nor am I am rich but I can tell you when you are in God’s family your color or money does not define you but what is needed: compassion for others! We all are in need of help. I ask you to help this man restore his dignity & allow him to get the proper care to allow him to shine again & keep us all dancing all nightlong!

There is simply to much evil in the world! Let us come in unison to voice our support for this man as well as mankind! Why, b/c it is the right thing to do! I am sincerely praying for this family! And I am asking if you have a heart, please help me and all the families that have suffered immeasurably pain resulting from violence acts! Let our Pastors administer the words of Redemption!

I call on all the preachers to sound the bells for repentance and preach redemption as to give comfort to the ones that are still suffering from unpleasant situations and loved ones lost! A young man’s life is in the balance! Let God work in this man’s life and let us all see what God can do with this man! I am calling all mental health advocates to work in unison to sound the alarm on mental disorders and ask the gov’t to release funds to support families in crisis! This is a family in need of our support & prayers! Let us recognize who we are?

And for those people judging this man, remember this, when you judge others you to will be judged by the same measure you judged someone else! We all fall down and who picks us up but God! Don’t like him, that is alright but to hate him is not right! In school the saying is “Don’t judge a book by the cover,“ but open the book up and learn all the interesting facts! basically, to learn for yourself, not what the media/public now so call friends that are out to get him for their own personal gains. Allow this man to have his say. And let God almighty work on his heart!

Just look at your own selfish motives, rather then out of jealousy or your dislikes for this man; just remember again how you judge a person you will be measured by the same standards! And it may come a day that you yourself may have to fall on your knees and pray to ask God Almighty for forgiveness!

In conclusion, let me introduce you to my two little Frenchies Faith & Grace, that gives me inspiration everyday! Faith gives man hope for the things he does not see! And the encouragement to be a better man! Grace, For it is by Grace that we all are allowed to breathe, giving us the strength, & wisdom to endure the lost of loved ones, we have lost along the way!

In loving memory of my Beloved mother, Pearl Rogers, who I remember every day her words of LOVE & ENCOURAGEMENT!

Thank you God for loving Me and for giving me the greatest Gift I have ever received, my mom, Ms. Pearl Rogers! And I thank All the people that have received my Message of Love for Mankind! And bringing awareness to mental health! Thank you, Thank you!