Hello my name is Benny and I’m the son to two quite amazing humans I must say. They have led a life of selflessness when it comes to giving to others and doing anything they can to help people in their life they know personally or not at all.

I cannot begin to tell you the endless list of people that came in and out of our life growing up that they would be helping. Whether it be food for someone’s family, buying a trailer for a young couple, buying hotel room night stays for homeless people, the list could go on and on.

And their giving has never stopped even though their incomes have. Being one of their 3 sons I can attest to their giving. My brothers and I wouldn’t be able to have the lives we have had without my parents. They would give us every penny if they had to.

Last spring my parents were in a serious car accident. They were at a full stop on a two lane road waiting to turn left onto their street before a young girl on her phone rear ended them. Their car rolled into oncoming traffic and thankfully landed in someone’s driveway across the street.

My parents were both found unconscious at the scene rushed to the hospital and spent the next 3.5 months recovering from broken legs and ribs. Both my mom and dad sat side by side in their living room for months healing. It was a grueling process if I’m honest. To see your parents helpless for months is not something I would consider fun.

My dad had 6 bypasses when I was 21. He’s had diabetes for 40yrs. and has been at stage 3 kidney failure for years. When I moved back home after my mom had gone through cancer treatments during covid ( thankfully she is 5 years cancer free as of January this year ) my dad ended up having another life threatening heart attack. Due to that he had to have a pacemaker put in.

One month later we found out they had put the wrong pacemaker in and had to do another operation. He died twice on the operation table. But my dad is a fighter and he pulled through. He started looking better than he had in a long time.

He was fully active and able bodied to do what he wanted. He was working out, cut back on most medications ( he had been taking over 10+ medications most of his life ) and starting using holistic medicines. His numbers were the best they’ve been in years.

Unfortunately due to him being mostly immobile for those 3.5 months it did a number on his body and his heart. He kept getting pneumonia ( what they thought at the time ) and having to back to the doctor and hospital multiple times due to the accident.

Last December right after Christmas we went to the doctors cause my dad had been having trouble breathing at night. The doctor urged us that due to this accident and the 3.5 months of immobility he believed it set my dad back years. His heart was enlarging and fluid was building up fast in his heart and lungs. They gave him Furosemide ( Lasix ) IV and said hopefully he should be better by the morning.

The next day we ended up in the hospital. We found out his kidneys went into stage 4 failure sometime after the accident. His kidneys were operating at 10% and his heart at 14%. My dad was faced with the reality of quality of life vs. quantity.

All of the ways to keep him alive and healthy would hurt his kidneys or his heart. We couldn’t do one thing without it effecting another. So he had to make the decision to not got on dialysis and let his body do what it’s going to do.

We spent more than a week in the hospital. My whole family in one little room dealing with the reality of our future. The reality that time has been taken away from us. But also knowing we’re blessed that he could come home to hospice care and be with loved ones while we wait this process out.

This has put a very large financial burden on my mother. My insecurities tell me that I should not ask for help and that everyone goes through this. That I should be in a better position in my own life to be able to help my mom out in this time. But my brothers and I are helping the only way we can.

Being present, cleaning the house, making meals, missing work, going to and from work, my brothers girlfriend choosing to stay with our family while we go through this process while her own Grandfather has just sadly passed. There has been a lot of selflessness going on around here and it’s not unnoticed.

But my mom is in financial crisis at the moment. And it’s the last thing we all want her worrying about while the love of her life is loosing his. Anything you can do to help will help and keep us afloat during this difficult time.

Love the ones you love as much as you can. Tomorrow is never promised and time is the rarest thing in this world. Spend it with the ones you love and love you back.

Thank you in advanced for any contributions.