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Hello, I'm Finn, a 20-year-old, ADHD and "higher functioning" autistic adult, who's desperately trying to escape the abusive household I'm living in and find a home! Trying to stay as anonymous as I can, however, to hide this from my mother as I still live with her currently.
My story:
For the past 15 years of my life, I've suffered from an extremely broken family that fought every day. An extremely awful fight broke out that led to my father getting arrested, and my mother manipulated me into believing he was the abuser. I trusted her and went with her instead, which was the worst mistake of my life. She sheltered me heavily, kept me close at all times, and took me away from school early into freshman year, going to a whole other country to visit as she "needed time to heal." This caused me to fail my freshman year of high school and completely mess up my school life from then on, forcing my hand and making me drop out as it was impossible to make up my credits because of it. But I wouldn't be making this GoFundMe if that was all.
For the 5 years after that, her drinking and yelling got progressively worse. She emotionally abused me daily, even raising her hand on occasion to threaten physical abuse. Now, in current times, she barely has moments where she is sober. We struggle with money even though I have a job because she spends all of it on alcohol. Her emotional abuse towards me is worse than it's ever been, and in the last year, I've almost been brought to end my own life because of it. She has also started throwing objects at me or threatened to "mess me up" in her words. I don't have a car as not learning how to drive was one of the ways she sheltered me, but she holds that over my head constantly, trying to make me lose my job all so she won't have to take me. (But for those concerned, I am looking to get a course to start learning this month, even for just a permit.)
I've realized more than ever now that I am insanely not safe in this house, and I can't trust to be around her at all. I need to get out, and fast.
Details of the GoFundMe, where the money is going, etc:
- The starting amount and end amount is reasonably high, but I calculated what I would need for moving costs and a down payment for a home. However, even if I don't reach my end goal, any and all help is greatly appreciated, and I will make do.
- I do have a place in mind, as I've recently been talking to my father more, and he plans to help me find a place to stay states away from my abusive mother. I've visited him twice in the past 5 years, and I do trust him wholeheartedly to lend a hand once I'm able to move. So don't worry! I've got it all planned out <3 The money is just my only issue.
- I do work a job and take art commissions on the side! However, my job pays minimum wage, and the art commissions aren't enough for me to move sooner rather than later. Everything I earn from my job and art commissions, however, goes straight towards my savings whenever possible, saving up for things like food, a plane ticket to the other state, etc. It's just not enough to get me out now, when I need it.
- I will be giving lots of updates whenever possible! I want to make sure any donors know exactly where the money is going and how it's being used.
Thank you so much for reading my story. Even just viewing it feels like help to me. If you can't donate, that's okay! Sharing this around is more than enough <3 I hope to update with good news when the time comes!
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Finn Vodicka
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Sanford, FL