Domestic violence is a critical issue that affects many lives, mine included. I’ve been in 2 extremely domestic violent relationships that could’ve easily killed me quite literally. I’m grateful I was able to get out alive so I can share my story and hopefully prevent even just one person from making similar mistakes as me that would end up parallel to my timeline due to poor judgement skills and having low self esteem will be the common theme among these predators to target. Also it’s good to be able to recognize the red flags but to actually put your self worth and put a stern boundary in place is even more impressive . These trauma bonds masks the feeling of safety in these unsafe and unstable situations is mainly caused by childhood trauma. Feelings of not being good enough and constant seeking of validation alongside abandonment issues, all stems from the crucial developmental years and makes you who you are today. First sign of a red flag present, RUNN don’t walk they’ll love bomb you to get your biggest insecurities then use them against you to the point that you question your own sanity and wonder how you ended up there bc chances are you’re out of their league but they’ve brainwashed you to believe their superior to you when in reality their projecting their insecurities on to you. This is a never ending toxic cycle, the quicker you get out, sooner you’re on your healings journey and set a much higher standard for yourself and the non negotiable’s when you’re ready to date again. Side note: don’t let your usual past behaviors ruin something good. It’s one thing to protect your peace but there’s a fine line between knowing what you deserve and pushing them away.

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