Many of you have asked how to best support my sister Jen, her husband Dan and the family during this time.

They are so grateful for everyone’s prayers, support and desires to help. While meals or flowers are often the go-to thought, I know their church family has generously stepped forward to support when meal help is needed, and will continue to be present when that type of ministry is appreciated.

The truth is, the years of Abbi’s medical care has, while carefully navigated and managed, been quite financially expensive. She has not been allowed to save for end of life care and burial due to legal rules around disability savings. Because of this, my sister has needed to manage costs around funeral, burial and end of life care alongside her children getting married and finishing their last year of college.

If you have the desire to help, and ability to financial provide a gift to support Abbi receiving the burial and memorial service she would prefer, that would be a blessing for my sister and her family. In addition, your support will allow them to continue providing support to their other children, which is a relief not just for Jen and Dan, but also something Abbi always wished for, to not be an undue burden on her sisters.

If financial gifts are not possible, please know your kindness is still seen and appreciated. Prayers for the family are welcome, and certainly make a difference. We do ask that you understand in advance how emails, calls and texts may not always be immediately replied to, particularly as they plan for the burial and memorial service. You’re welcome to post uplifting and positive stories of Abbi here, but we ask you to respect her privacy in not openly sharing photos on social media, as she is particularly private about which images are shared.

This page will be updated as appropriate with updates on her memorial information, when it is finalized.