Kids Activities
It is not easy to financially manage as a single parent. Raising money for my kids's activities, including piano lessons, etc, so kids can have a good childhood, and they can have their dreams.
I thought of some of my horrid traumatizing experiences in Toronto and Canada, encountered some pretty bad people, lots sabotages. I have yet to heal from traumatizing experiences. My family needs to heal too. I cannot understand the cause of these traumatizing experiences and exposure to them. I have never purposely or wanted to hurt anyone before, but I have received in this country a lot of hurt. When I was in China as a child, I have never experienced anything bad. If I survive all those crazy experiences, and still remain normal and okay, I would have to be a saint or something. I hope to have closure and move on, but each and every month I still get sabotaged into paying $1063 car insurance. None of theses poor experiences were from family and friends, but it was still a lot.
1. came to Canada at age 12 grade 7. And second year I came to Canada at age 13, grade 8, was bullied for a full year at a new junior high school (small school). An Indian girl (shoulder length hair, glasses, skinny) apparently from my previous school started spreading rumours about me at new school. Bullies were from any ethic group (Jewish, Cantonese, Caucasian, black, anything, etc). Cried every day for two hours on the toilet once I got home for a whole year, thinking when a different tomorrow could come. High school was better, school was too big to have bullies. University was fine.
2. was told to be a virgin before marriage by parents (Chinese tradition), so ended up doing a long distance relationship and ended up marrying a man who happed to had erectile dysfunction. Was in this long distance relationship for one year with my ex-husband. I quit my government job relocated to BC for my ex, and quit my job again in BC to come back to Toronto after divorce. Apparently as long as it is legal, people do all kinds of things to get what they want. Same with my first boyfriend (Bob Harrington), he had severe ejaculation problems and he never told me about it, dragged me on for a full year. I did not know.
3. working in Toronto as a junior 14 years ago, I was 22, getting yelled and screamed at every week by mid aged, award winning phD women in their 40s with children (J. Liu, Cynthia, L. Fu) (a group of three from Chinese mainland) and mid aged men 50s (eastern Europeans) working in the same industry, in Toronto. every week there was something crazy, the senior would say she lost her binder then claiming I took it and ask me to find it for three days, or walk to my desk flip over my technical binders then stop at one page, saying that one page was hers, or the day I went to company golfing event she would claim I worked from "home" and "logged into her computer". I asked the computer guy, he said forget about it, they are seniors. Then she tells the boss (young Arabic) I was ambitious. I was laid off from that company four months before getting my professional license, they actually knew that four more months I would have enough years of experiences to obtain license. Work itself was fine, but the environment was harsh for a young professional. Three companies first three years into professional career.
Then I went to Ottawa for three years (best work experience ever with proper mentoring, ah the good days).
As I became an intermediate senior professional, a masters junior guy (Arabic) moved one of my files to his folder, until I traced it back. To be honest, he probably did not do it on purpose. But for another company, my entire file was deleted.
4. after divorce dated a man who is a really bad person. First pregnancy, this guy went to my company's Christmas party while I was pregnant and did not drive me there or home, same thing at a friend's wedding. He was not at birth of first child. I was pregnant for a second time, and he left me while my job was not stable and eight months pregnant. the week before he left, he called me up at 2am and says he is "working" while I had to work the next morning. Did not hear from him for a week or two, called him before prenatal appointment, and he said he had stomach ache and cannot come to prenatal. Then four months later, he showed up at my parents' door saying he will drive me to the prenatal, when I asked during the trip if he will drive me to the hospital at birth of the child, he say he "does not know". Then after birth he would not pay child support for four months, but hired a lawyer $300/hr first, while I wanted a mediator $30/hr. Then during thanksgiving he dragged me around with my feet up at Algonquin park when no one was around and hit me. Then at Halloween I did not want to reply to his message, the next day he went to the police trying to get me charged for the Algonquin trip saying I hit him?? Children's aid called me by surprise saying they want to meet me. I went to the police station, but while at police station, my ex texted me saying he cared about me and I am the mother of the children. Very manipulative and I did not know he was playing games. I did not know and refused to give a statement. The police told me either I give a statement or go to the hospital, I would not tell police what he did. Later on I found out what my ex's allegations were, 95% crazy made up stuff, even a child can see it makes absolutely no logic, but police could not tell, this has nothing to do with ignorance. All of a sudden my ex's family lawyer started showing up in court demanding full custody, before this she never showed up. While she demanded this, my ex did not have a crib, or a child car seat. A simple child support court case costed $37K for $500 per month child support, a huge amount for a single parent family, dragging on for two years. I cried a lot in those three years.
For the Algonquin he said she said incident, what the police did was detrimental. The police sided with my ex, PC Julia Brown wrote down in the report that the doctor I saw at the walk in clinic was my friend?! I have in fact never met that doctor (Indian) before or after I saw him once. And PC Julia Brown said to me in person that "you were at a Halloween party the night you ex boyfriend made allegations against you, you are not a fit mother". All I did was not replying to my ex-boyfriend's message on Halloween day, and the next day, he goes to police making allegations. Police biased and sabotaging me at my vulnerable moments. Making a simple child support case drag on for two years and costing so much.
5. At first birth, the nurses at birthing unit were the worst unkind women I have ever met on earth, they gossiped about me and were unfriendly and vicious to an anxious first time mom. All I did was asking lots of questions and making sure they were doing the right things.
6. at a store, I was picking out clothes while three months pregnant. Two women (long blonde hair and young 20s to 30s, Caucasian) called me "disgusting" when I dropped a piece cloth on the floor and could not bend over to pick it up while pregnant. Instead of helping me, they said really rude thing.
7. a lot of the bad people I met were through participation in events. I volunteered at Pan Am while pregnant, and a woman supervisor (Chinese Cantonese) asked me to stand in the rain for two hours knowing I was pregnant. She was pregnant too so she thought I should be in the rain just like her. Then I was not allowed to eat after my shift after standing in the rain. While she took three boxes for her Caucasian husband at home?? Apparently that woman had a PhD and was a middle school teacher. People like this should teach?
8. While shopping for a child's crib, while heavily pregnant, at a furniture store. First of all, no one gave up their seats at the café in the store, which was fine, so my family ate lunch standing. Crowded place, so when I was trying to get on an elevator, my father tried to prevent heavy furniture from other people from hitting me and kept the elevator door from closing on me. A huge black woman started to yell at my father for no reason. Till this day, I still have not figured out why being yelled at.
9. at an event I volunteered, there were two old twin sisters, they would not let me volunteer the following year because I was late while pregnant. I did not want to wake up at 6am to take the public transit, and instead I took the 7am train.
10. on my way to my friend's wedding (local Caucasian friend Sasha) at a small town near Ottawa. Left Toronto around 7pm, there was thunder and lightening and on small roads there were no lights for hundreds of kilometers. My friend told me to call him after I arrive at Bancroft (half way to Ottawa), so I did on speaker phone around 11pm, 5 minutes later, two police (all Caucasian police) cars started to drive after me, saying I was driving 40km/hr in a 70km/hr zone, and I crossed the middle line at one point. It was all dark no lights on roads in Canada for hundreds of kms for the entire road following GPS. I asked if the police could lead me to the main road that had lights, the police refused. In fact, they told me they will follow my car and if I make the smallest mistake, they will give me another ticket. They gave me a careless driving ticket for no reason, and they followed me for 30min and gave me another careless driving ticket. And police hit me while I was speaking to my lawyer, I am not joking. Due to the charge, my car insurance is 1063 per month. We are just normal families we cannot withhold so much sabotages.
Constable Grexton and the bad crew for the above trauma. I feel some people do not have to have motives or reasons to be bad.
11. during child support battle, white police sided with my ex, woman white police even wrote down, the walk in clinic I went to see, the doctor was "my friend". Biased views. They asked me what I was doing at night of Halloween, I said I was at a Halloween party, they said that does not sound like a fit mother. They had me charged at a "he said she said" situation. trash protecting trash. Policing helping bad people.
12. People try to get into car accident when they see that they are not at fault.
13. One woman (Chinese middle aged with a teenage daughter), tried to scam my car insurance for more than a million, over fender bender, when no one was hurt and minor car damages. It was stop and go highway traffic, between 0-20km/hr.
14. Bridlewood YMCA daycare was the worst nightmare, my son was a bit naughty, they locked him up, while other kids played outside, when he was just 3 years old. 2 years of complete nightmare. It was extremely "political" at daycare with those providers trying to do as little as possible while they had no skills or smarts to take care of children. Parents would have nightmares going to this daycare. When I had meetings with the daycare supervisors, I thought I was talking to the extremely bad politicians (lot of politicians are not that bad), with evil hearts.
15. Now TD insurance was interesting. So I was driving to a professional event downtown after work. Was not too familiar with directions. So I made a U-turn, and a man (Pakistani?? not sure at all), sped his car and rear ended me while I was making a turn. Insurance made me pay $8k difference for the same car back. I told them I want to fix the car, insurance should fix the car, they refused. Then later on the next year, they canceled my insurance on the ground of "non payment", and apparently they increased my car insurance for around $200, without letting me know, because I had an address change. I already paid in full the insurance at the beginning of the year. Then they continued my home insurance which I did not want, but canceled my auto insurance. I called them with 5 hours waiting on the phone each time, and I complained. They disallowed me to be insured with them due to non payment. So I started calling all other insurances, they all hyped up the price, and all other car insurances (smaller companies), focused on making money, were even worse than TD. My car insurance went from $4K per year to $1063 per month. ??!!??
16. I used to work in construction taking 6:20am train. So I get up 5am every morning. In the parking lot, this white young guy blocked my way at parking lot every day for a whole week, he does not take train, but follows me to train station and drives by. I tried to pass him one morning and honked, he drove side ways to block me, car accident, why my car insurance so high. During the same time I was over worked 50 hours a week with low pay, and got laryngitis and could not speak for two weeks. Never had this before.
17. Renting in Toronto, rented an apartment when I first came back to TO 2013 Jan. It was very expensive to rent. Anyhow lease was for one year, after I lost my job, I had to still pay for the apartment, which was fine. Now sub-letting that apartment, was difficult. There was one woman (Chinese middle aged), visiting her son, she wanted to pay $400 for a $1400 apartment, which we agreed to, then she told us we need to pay for the moving cost and also either provide a bed or she will take the bed from her current landlord. Our apartment had things like fridges and laundry machines, we were worried she would take those that were not our properties. Then, a young man (black) comes, he asked my family to pay him first for the apartment, then he pays the landlord?? They can make their bloody money.
18. Now renting out basement in 2012 was horrendous. I was working in Ottawa. Apparently the tenants were a middle aged couple with a son. Apparently this woman (wife) killed her husband for insurance money (Chinese), where she and her husband paid $80K to life insurance each year. I heard that her husband cheated on him in Hong Kong when she could not have children, but once they had a son, they moved to Canada. Even now, renting is hard, Arabic guy, he claims there is mold and we should pay him. We already have the certificate that guaranteed it was okay. He sometimes pay sometimes does not pay.
19. 2018, I was happy about one of the jobs out of Mississauga. was new and quiet excited. enterprise (client/owner) I was working for was working with Maystar and receiving claims from Maystar. I was not involved in the project, sent an email to boss M.Bamford (a guy worked there 20 years) saying whoever was at fault can pay for the re-work. Then the next day, T.Doyle (hiring guy) sat down with me interrogating me, asking me how much do I know, telling me there are many people waiting in line for this public job, and immediately let me go. I was thinking I had no idea what odd stuff was going on, never did anything about it, probably never will. Apparently I found out later that one of the senior award winning staff from the enterprise/owner went to work for Mayfair years back, possibly some conflict of interest I did not know about and honestly do not care. Why did that have anything to do with my email or my job?
20. this is more of everyday kind of experience. I worked for one company during winter 50 hours a week to get my kids in daycare. took the train 3 hour commute on top of 10 hours work per day. Caught laryngitis and was unable to speak for make sounds (lost my voice) for three weeks caught a flu and could not recover from it for two months.
21. another everyday experience, apparently, every time at prenatal appointment, lots of women had to stand for 3 to 4 hours waiting every time. So appointment is 1pm, you have to be there waiting, and you actually see the pediatrician at 5pm. Some clinics have chairs, while other ones do not have enough chairs. I told the doctor I had stress at work and had to produce 100 drawings per week during crunch time, the doctor told me, "this is not Africa".
22. in Ottawa a small town, during a child custody and divorce, one of the female technicians (young Caucasian) was shot in the head by her ex-husband (young Caucasian), they had two kids together. Father-in-law took the fault. Same town, black engineer (I never met him), worked at the same building, died and his body was found next to a dumpster, police just says it was suicide because they did not bother investigating.
Moral of the experiences, you have to focus on the good, and accept the bad, otherwise, people do go crazy in our society. You know what, my happy positive list is slightly longer, that is how I combat it all here. I might be ready to put everything in a box and let it all go.
I thought of some of my horrid traumatizing experiences in Toronto and Canada, encountered some pretty bad people, lots sabotages. I have yet to heal from traumatizing experiences. My family needs to heal too. I cannot understand the cause of these traumatizing experiences and exposure to them. I have never purposely or wanted to hurt anyone before, but I have received in this country a lot of hurt. When I was in China as a child, I have never experienced anything bad. If I survive all those crazy experiences, and still remain normal and okay, I would have to be a saint or something. I hope to have closure and move on, but each and every month I still get sabotaged into paying $1063 car insurance. None of theses poor experiences were from family and friends, but it was still a lot.
1. came to Canada at age 12 grade 7. And second year I came to Canada at age 13, grade 8, was bullied for a full year at a new junior high school (small school). An Indian girl (shoulder length hair, glasses, skinny) apparently from my previous school started spreading rumours about me at new school. Bullies were from any ethic group (Jewish, Cantonese, Caucasian, black, anything, etc). Cried every day for two hours on the toilet once I got home for a whole year, thinking when a different tomorrow could come. High school was better, school was too big to have bullies. University was fine.
2. was told to be a virgin before marriage by parents (Chinese tradition), so ended up doing a long distance relationship and ended up marrying a man who happed to had erectile dysfunction. Was in this long distance relationship for one year with my ex-husband. I quit my government job relocated to BC for my ex, and quit my job again in BC to come back to Toronto after divorce. Apparently as long as it is legal, people do all kinds of things to get what they want. Same with my first boyfriend (Bob Harrington), he had severe ejaculation problems and he never told me about it, dragged me on for a full year. I did not know.
3. working in Toronto as a junior 14 years ago, I was 22, getting yelled and screamed at every week by mid aged, award winning phD women in their 40s with children (J. Liu, Cynthia, L. Fu) (a group of three from Chinese mainland) and mid aged men 50s (eastern Europeans) working in the same industry, in Toronto. every week there was something crazy, the senior would say she lost her binder then claiming I took it and ask me to find it for three days, or walk to my desk flip over my technical binders then stop at one page, saying that one page was hers, or the day I went to company golfing event she would claim I worked from "home" and "logged into her computer". I asked the computer guy, he said forget about it, they are seniors. Then she tells the boss (young Arabic) I was ambitious. I was laid off from that company four months before getting my professional license, they actually knew that four more months I would have enough years of experiences to obtain license. Work itself was fine, but the environment was harsh for a young professional. Three companies first three years into professional career.
Then I went to Ottawa for three years (best work experience ever with proper mentoring, ah the good days).
As I became an intermediate senior professional, a masters junior guy (Arabic) moved one of my files to his folder, until I traced it back. To be honest, he probably did not do it on purpose. But for another company, my entire file was deleted.
4. after divorce dated a man who is a really bad person. First pregnancy, this guy went to my company's Christmas party while I was pregnant and did not drive me there or home, same thing at a friend's wedding. He was not at birth of first child. I was pregnant for a second time, and he left me while my job was not stable and eight months pregnant. the week before he left, he called me up at 2am and says he is "working" while I had to work the next morning. Did not hear from him for a week or two, called him before prenatal appointment, and he said he had stomach ache and cannot come to prenatal. Then four months later, he showed up at my parents' door saying he will drive me to the prenatal, when I asked during the trip if he will drive me to the hospital at birth of the child, he say he "does not know". Then after birth he would not pay child support for four months, but hired a lawyer $300/hr first, while I wanted a mediator $30/hr. Then during thanksgiving he dragged me around with my feet up at Algonquin park when no one was around and hit me. Then at Halloween I did not want to reply to his message, the next day he went to the police trying to get me charged for the Algonquin trip saying I hit him?? Children's aid called me by surprise saying they want to meet me. I went to the police station, but while at police station, my ex texted me saying he cared about me and I am the mother of the children. Very manipulative and I did not know he was playing games. I did not know and refused to give a statement. The police told me either I give a statement or go to the hospital, I would not tell police what he did. Later on I found out what my ex's allegations were, 95% crazy made up stuff, even a child can see it makes absolutely no logic, but police could not tell, this has nothing to do with ignorance. All of a sudden my ex's family lawyer started showing up in court demanding full custody, before this she never showed up. While she demanded this, my ex did not have a crib, or a child car seat. A simple child support court case costed $37K for $500 per month child support, a huge amount for a single parent family, dragging on for two years. I cried a lot in those three years.
For the Algonquin he said she said incident, what the police did was detrimental. The police sided with my ex, PC Julia Brown wrote down in the report that the doctor I saw at the walk in clinic was my friend?! I have in fact never met that doctor (Indian) before or after I saw him once. And PC Julia Brown said to me in person that "you were at a Halloween party the night you ex boyfriend made allegations against you, you are not a fit mother". All I did was not replying to my ex-boyfriend's message on Halloween day, and the next day, he goes to police making allegations. Police biased and sabotaging me at my vulnerable moments. Making a simple child support case drag on for two years and costing so much.
5. At first birth, the nurses at birthing unit were the worst unkind women I have ever met on earth, they gossiped about me and were unfriendly and vicious to an anxious first time mom. All I did was asking lots of questions and making sure they were doing the right things.
6. at a store, I was picking out clothes while three months pregnant. Two women (long blonde hair and young 20s to 30s, Caucasian) called me "disgusting" when I dropped a piece cloth on the floor and could not bend over to pick it up while pregnant. Instead of helping me, they said really rude thing.
7. a lot of the bad people I met were through participation in events. I volunteered at Pan Am while pregnant, and a woman supervisor (Chinese Cantonese) asked me to stand in the rain for two hours knowing I was pregnant. She was pregnant too so she thought I should be in the rain just like her. Then I was not allowed to eat after my shift after standing in the rain. While she took three boxes for her Caucasian husband at home?? Apparently that woman had a PhD and was a middle school teacher. People like this should teach?
8. While shopping for a child's crib, while heavily pregnant, at a furniture store. First of all, no one gave up their seats at the café in the store, which was fine, so my family ate lunch standing. Crowded place, so when I was trying to get on an elevator, my father tried to prevent heavy furniture from other people from hitting me and kept the elevator door from closing on me. A huge black woman started to yell at my father for no reason. Till this day, I still have not figured out why being yelled at.
9. at an event I volunteered, there were two old twin sisters, they would not let me volunteer the following year because I was late while pregnant. I did not want to wake up at 6am to take the public transit, and instead I took the 7am train.
10. on my way to my friend's wedding (local Caucasian friend Sasha) at a small town near Ottawa. Left Toronto around 7pm, there was thunder and lightening and on small roads there were no lights for hundreds of kilometers. My friend told me to call him after I arrive at Bancroft (half way to Ottawa), so I did on speaker phone around 11pm, 5 minutes later, two police (all Caucasian police) cars started to drive after me, saying I was driving 40km/hr in a 70km/hr zone, and I crossed the middle line at one point. It was all dark no lights on roads in Canada for hundreds of kms for the entire road following GPS. I asked if the police could lead me to the main road that had lights, the police refused. In fact, they told me they will follow my car and if I make the smallest mistake, they will give me another ticket. They gave me a careless driving ticket for no reason, and they followed me for 30min and gave me another careless driving ticket. And police hit me while I was speaking to my lawyer, I am not joking. Due to the charge, my car insurance is 1063 per month. We are just normal families we cannot withhold so much sabotages.
Constable Grexton and the bad crew for the above trauma. I feel some people do not have to have motives or reasons to be bad.
11. during child support battle, white police sided with my ex, woman white police even wrote down, the walk in clinic I went to see, the doctor was "my friend". Biased views. They asked me what I was doing at night of Halloween, I said I was at a Halloween party, they said that does not sound like a fit mother. They had me charged at a "he said she said" situation. trash protecting trash. Policing helping bad people.
12. People try to get into car accident when they see that they are not at fault.
13. One woman (Chinese middle aged with a teenage daughter), tried to scam my car insurance for more than a million, over fender bender, when no one was hurt and minor car damages. It was stop and go highway traffic, between 0-20km/hr.
14. Bridlewood YMCA daycare was the worst nightmare, my son was a bit naughty, they locked him up, while other kids played outside, when he was just 3 years old. 2 years of complete nightmare. It was extremely "political" at daycare with those providers trying to do as little as possible while they had no skills or smarts to take care of children. Parents would have nightmares going to this daycare. When I had meetings with the daycare supervisors, I thought I was talking to the extremely bad politicians (lot of politicians are not that bad), with evil hearts.
15. Now TD insurance was interesting. So I was driving to a professional event downtown after work. Was not too familiar with directions. So I made a U-turn, and a man (Pakistani?? not sure at all), sped his car and rear ended me while I was making a turn. Insurance made me pay $8k difference for the same car back. I told them I want to fix the car, insurance should fix the car, they refused. Then later on the next year, they canceled my insurance on the ground of "non payment", and apparently they increased my car insurance for around $200, without letting me know, because I had an address change. I already paid in full the insurance at the beginning of the year. Then they continued my home insurance which I did not want, but canceled my auto insurance. I called them with 5 hours waiting on the phone each time, and I complained. They disallowed me to be insured with them due to non payment. So I started calling all other insurances, they all hyped up the price, and all other car insurances (smaller companies), focused on making money, were even worse than TD. My car insurance went from $4K per year to $1063 per month. ??!!??
16. I used to work in construction taking 6:20am train. So I get up 5am every morning. In the parking lot, this white young guy blocked my way at parking lot every day for a whole week, he does not take train, but follows me to train station and drives by. I tried to pass him one morning and honked, he drove side ways to block me, car accident, why my car insurance so high. During the same time I was over worked 50 hours a week with low pay, and got laryngitis and could not speak for two weeks. Never had this before.
17. Renting in Toronto, rented an apartment when I first came back to TO 2013 Jan. It was very expensive to rent. Anyhow lease was for one year, after I lost my job, I had to still pay for the apartment, which was fine. Now sub-letting that apartment, was difficult. There was one woman (Chinese middle aged), visiting her son, she wanted to pay $400 for a $1400 apartment, which we agreed to, then she told us we need to pay for the moving cost and also either provide a bed or she will take the bed from her current landlord. Our apartment had things like fridges and laundry machines, we were worried she would take those that were not our properties. Then, a young man (black) comes, he asked my family to pay him first for the apartment, then he pays the landlord?? They can make their bloody money.
18. Now renting out basement in 2012 was horrendous. I was working in Ottawa. Apparently the tenants were a middle aged couple with a son. Apparently this woman (wife) killed her husband for insurance money (Chinese), where she and her husband paid $80K to life insurance each year. I heard that her husband cheated on him in Hong Kong when she could not have children, but once they had a son, they moved to Canada. Even now, renting is hard, Arabic guy, he claims there is mold and we should pay him. We already have the certificate that guaranteed it was okay. He sometimes pay sometimes does not pay.
19. 2018, I was happy about one of the jobs out of Mississauga. was new and quiet excited. enterprise (client/owner) I was working for was working with Maystar and receiving claims from Maystar. I was not involved in the project, sent an email to boss M.Bamford (a guy worked there 20 years) saying whoever was at fault can pay for the re-work. Then the next day, T.Doyle (hiring guy) sat down with me interrogating me, asking me how much do I know, telling me there are many people waiting in line for this public job, and immediately let me go. I was thinking I had no idea what odd stuff was going on, never did anything about it, probably never will. Apparently I found out later that one of the senior award winning staff from the enterprise/owner went to work for Mayfair years back, possibly some conflict of interest I did not know about and honestly do not care. Why did that have anything to do with my email or my job?
20. this is more of everyday kind of experience. I worked for one company during winter 50 hours a week to get my kids in daycare. took the train 3 hour commute on top of 10 hours work per day. Caught laryngitis and was unable to speak for make sounds (lost my voice) for three weeks caught a flu and could not recover from it for two months.
21. another everyday experience, apparently, every time at prenatal appointment, lots of women had to stand for 3 to 4 hours waiting every time. So appointment is 1pm, you have to be there waiting, and you actually see the pediatrician at 5pm. Some clinics have chairs, while other ones do not have enough chairs. I told the doctor I had stress at work and had to produce 100 drawings per week during crunch time, the doctor told me, "this is not Africa".
22. in Ottawa a small town, during a child custody and divorce, one of the female technicians (young Caucasian) was shot in the head by her ex-husband (young Caucasian), they had two kids together. Father-in-law took the fault. Same town, black engineer (I never met him), worked at the same building, died and his body was found next to a dumpster, police just says it was suicide because they did not bother investigating.
Moral of the experiences, you have to focus on the good, and accept the bad, otherwise, people do go crazy in our society. You know what, my happy positive list is slightly longer, that is how I combat it all here. I might be ready to put everything in a box and let it all go.
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Ting Wang
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Markham, ON