First and foremost I just have to say I never thought it would come to this. I’ve spent the last 8+ years working and doing everything in my power to provide safety and security for my children on my own. I’ve fed them, clothed them, bathed them and above all, loved them with everything inside me.
It’s no joke when they say “be careful who you have children with.” All of you mothers who have single-handedly raised their babies because of a dead beat dad understand.
Over the last 8 years I’ve tried on numerous accounts to get the father of my children to understand what being a parent was. Not a friend. But a parent. Yet here I am, a legal custody agreement in place for 6 months now, and he still doesn’t comprehend. Well this mama is now to a point where I’m scared for my children’s safety when they’re with him.
Multiple occasions they’ve come home in the same clothes they left three days prior in—never bathing. They’re left alone in the late night hours, calling mommy saying they’re scared. They are not well-fed (cereal and McDonald’s for every meal). And on the last return home, I’d had enough when my 4 year old son was ONCE AGAIN not in a car seat. (I’d given him one of mine a few months back, but he doesn’t remember where it is). And he and his lady were hot-boxing the car they arrived in.
I took immediate action, yet the system still “wants him to do better.” And of course is being lenient. My lawyer says I’ve got a strong case but I have to pay up front to have the emergency custody motions filed. I need to do this ASAP. He just picked those kids of mine up again and I’m so scared of what’s going to happen in the next 72 hours. I didn’t want to give him anything to hold against me (not dropping them off would put me in contempt) so I’m trying to make this happen as soon as possible. Anything you have to give to help my kids not have to be in an unsafe, dirty, neglectful situation would be more than appreciated. Like I said. I can’t believe I’m having to write this but this mama is desperate.
We could spend another month saving up for this, but I’m terrified that even one more weekend could result in tragedy. I just don’t feel we have that kind of time so I’m humbly asking that if anyone is able to help me speed up this process, I’d be forever thankful and my children, though they don’t quite fully understand, wouldn’t have to continue being put in danger.