Save my kids from losing their Daddy

Hello, my name is Joseph. I am a single Dad to two amazing little girls, and I am fundraising to ensure that we don't lose each other.

Summary Version:

I have been their primary caregiver/parent their entire lives. Prior to my Divorce in 2021, my ex wife traveled a lot for work. She didn't have too, she chose to, resulting in missing out and not being present for over 40% of our girls lives. During the divorce we were granted 50/50 custody. However, despite being their primary caregiver, I had to bankrupt myself to get equal custody, as she wanted to take away all my rights. Now she is trying to take away my rights again, she has put me through multiple CPS investigations, with all of the investigators concluding that her allegations are false, and the last two investigators concluding that she is not only coaching and manipulating our oldest, but also just trying to "stick it to me". She has used these cases to repeatedly take me to court. My girls stand to end up in the full time care of their mother, under constant manipulation and emotional abuse. Please.... PLEASE HELP!

The Full Explanation:

The Divorce:

My ex-wife left me because she was gay in 2020, while I was out of town. At that time she file for a TRO, and used that to keep me from the kids. As a result of COVID, the courts were backed up, and it was 2 months before I had a chance to refute her false allegations. The courts agreed that her allegations were baseless, and overturned the TRO. Despite this she still fought to take away my rights, but in the end I was granted equal custody. Although, because the kids need to have a legal address, she was granted Primary Status, in that regard only. This all concluded in 2021. I spent everything I had on the custody portion of the divorce, because those are my babies, and I will do anything for them. As a result I had nothing left to fight for the division of assets, and she ended up with all of the assets, while I got stuck with all of the debt. This forced me to close down my company, and sell of my assets just to keep up with legal fees, and take on more debt. Ultimately, I had to file bankruptcy which concluded in 08/2022. (The bankruptcy is relevant later, I promise!) Post divorce, I tried SO HARD, to work with her for the best interest of the kids, but she just refused, constantly. If a suggestion came from me, automatic no, constant accusations, attempts to start arguments, etc.

Here We Go Again:

The Friday before easter, my girls were so excited, we had lots of plans for easter weekend, some with their friends. However, the school was served with a Temporary Restraining Order (TRO). I am extremely involved in my girls lives, so everyone at the school knows me. The Principle called to give me a heads up about the TRO, and that CPS was also involved. (I'm creating this at the suggestion from one of the teachers at the school, as even they don't want me to lose the kids) I immediately reached out to CPS to find out what I was being accused of, and to cooperate with their investigation, I have nothing to hide. The CPS investigator conducted a full and comprehensive investigation concluding that her allegations were baseless. Even commending me on how good of a Dad I am to the kiddos.

CPS testified at the TRO and motion for Temporary Orders hearing, and eviscerated her case. The TRO was overturned and our preexisting custody arraignment was kept in place.

From there she started to try and build a case, since April I receive non-stop allegations from her. My oldest got a pimple in her belly button, and she used it to say that Olivia got hurt swimming at her best friends house, because she wasn't provided access to floaties, and much more such nonsense.

I wanted my oldest in counseling and the court ordered it as part of the Temporary Orders. She has even used Olivias counseling to hurl accusations about me. All of her concerns with Olivia, are how do I handle it with her dad doing this, or what do I do when her Dad is doing that... None if which I am actually doing, but it is a surefire way to "poison the well" with the counselor.

Furthermore, she has switched strategies to try and run me out of money. I wanted my oldest in counseling and the court ordered it as part of the Temporary Orders. She refused to even discuss counselors, except through lawyers, in order to rack up my attorney fees, etc.

In line with that strategy, she filed ANOTHER CPS investigation, and had her partner do the same. Whats worse, is this time she dragged our oldest into it. She literally had our daughter tell our counselor that I hit them 17+ times/day. For context I don't even spank my kids. So the Counselor as a Mandatory Reporter also filed a CPS report. So this time there were two CPS investigators assigned. Both of them completed investigations, and not only concluded that the allegations were baseless, but that my Ex is intentionally exagerating/misrepresenting incidents (like the pool) and falsely making claims to (stick it to me). They also concluded that the "outcry" from my youngest was clearly coached and rehearsed. At the end of it, they literally told me to "keep doing what I am doing, because I am a fantastic father to those two girls."

However, she used that CPS investigation, and those allegations to file for another TRO. This time my attorney was ahead of it, and the TRO wasn't even issued. After all if it was issued, this would have been the third to be deemed nonsense and overturned. She also used that CPS case and TRO filing, to file a Motion for Change or Temporary Orders. So back to court again; again the orders weren't changed. The orders did get added to across both of these though. The courts ordered pysch evals for both of us, they ordered a Custody Evaluation, and at the last hearing, they ordered an Amicus Attorney be appointed, plus the counselor was subpoenaed to testify. My total for all of this, $13,000.00. Plus my own attorneys fees.

So far I estimate to have paid out $25,000.00 since April fighting all of this. However, I have until 09/15 to pay the new Amicus attorney $3,000.00, and pay for the Psychiatrist a $4,000.00 retainer for the evaluation.

The problem with this is, on the EXACT same day that she filed her CPS report, and her TRO, I was let go at work. Mind you, 1.5 months prior, I was the first employee in the company to have ever been given a midyear bonus for outstanding performance. They also enrolled me into paid management training, again the first time they had ever done this, so that I could help develop the future of the company! I was then let go that day, citing "I'm just not what they are looking for at their company right now". God how I wish I could prove she called them to levy all of her allegations against me but I can't. So now I have till the 15th to come up with the money or be in violation of the court orders, and I am already in the hole with my attorney, so I when I have to go back to court for being in violation, I won't be able to have an attorney present.

At this point I dont know what else to do. I DO NOT abuse my girls, for punishment they lose electronics and toys. They are the center of my world and vice versa. I keep trying to keep them out of this as they are only 9 & 4 YO. Yet there is nothing I can do to stop their mother from dragging them into the middle of it. I want to shield them from this, but I went to go help my 4YO with her bath last night, and she told me "Mom says you cant help, that you shouldn't see me naked". So I am supposed to leave her alone and unsupervised in the tub to clean herself, and wash her hair on her own, when she just turned 4 two months ago apparently. Not only can I not shield them from it, but now it looks like I am going to lose. PLEASE... PLEASE HELP!!!

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