Raising for IVF egg donor

Hi my name is Carl, I am trying to raise money to help my wife (Gill) and I, to fund an IVF cycle through a donor egg.

To start my story in brief, We have undergone 2 rounds of IVF already which gave us a yield of 6 embryos in total. However, unfortunately none were successful which brings us to the end of our journey going down the IVF route and on to adoption avenues....... or so we thought.

Since the beginning of our journey when Gill and I first met she told me how she really couldn't wait to become a mum but couldn't conceive naturally as she had fallopian tubes removed so IVF is her only option. This didn't phase me in the slightest, as I'd seen how well she had took my 2 boys from a previous relationship and how well my boys had taken to Gill. I knew some day I could see us adding to our family and giving her what she had always wanted her very own baby to love, cherish and enjoy all the things that come with having a baby and becoming a mummy.

So after only 6 months being together on 24th August 2022 I'd popped the question and asked Gill to marry me, and she said yes. We had been planning a wedding, house hunting and of course talking about IVF. We put things in motion and by the 23rd November we started treatment, with Christmas coming round all our spirits were high as on the 24th December we would find out if our first transfer was successful....(sadly it wasn't)

Fast forward to begining of February 2023, we had just been given the keys to our very own home and with lots of work to be done fixing up the house we were due to be married 2 weeks later.

After the wedding we were getting prepared for our 2nd embryo transfer things couldnt be better, life is good and everything is falling into place, we were both on cloud 9 and the final piece is all set and we are ready to add to our family... but Gill was getting pains in her abdomen more intense and more frequent after a few hospital visits and getting disregarded as nothing serious we got the news that no-one ever what's to hear my wife has a tumor on her right kidney and our priorities with the IVF had to be put on hold.

After surgery and nursing herself back to good health we were married again (symbolically) abroad on 29th August 2023.

Putting the failed attempt of the IVF down to the cancer we tried with our 2nd embryo transfer which again was unsuccessful, the same outcome with the 3rd.

After our follow up appointment with our IVF consultant who was a great guy and very thorough in our next steps, our 2nd cycle of IVF would be medically assisted but still unsuccessful.

So with a very heavy heart, we came to terms, it's too heartbreaking for my wife to keep putting herself through this time and time again. So while in the limbo stage of waiting for our follow up appointment with our consultant, which is approximately 6 weeks after the last embryo transfer, we are in present times.

We decide to put the wheels in motion to adopt and attend a webinar to explore the avenues of adoption.

We have also been looking into travelling abroad for treatment, as Gills friends and work colleagues have spoken of others that have tried this route and been successful. 19th May 2025 my wife and I have our appointment with the consultant expecting for the conversation to go a little along the lines of "thanks for taking part" or "sorry things never worked out but heres a number should you require any counselling". This was not the case. She went on to tell us about the egg donor route which was all new to us, now we have new hope as she explained to us all about IVF treatment through an egg donor, my wife is 41 years old and although looks amazing, age isn't on her side for IVF as explained by the consultant (chances are around 20%) 1/5 but we have already done 5 and had no success, the consultant further added that a donour egg from someone aged between 21 - 35 the success rate is raised to a massive 60% (nearly 2/3). So instantly I'm thinking is there still more of our journey yet to come?

This brings me to why I'm writing and sharing all this, this type of treatment comes at a cost of around £10,000 I am a proud man and don't have alot of money, but what I do have is a loving wife who hasn't got the one thing she has always longed for, a baby of her own, even back when she was at school and her teacher asks the class what the children want to be when they grow up? While other kids answered a firefighter, an astronaut or a nurse, Gills answer was a MUM she is the best step mother to my 2 boys but still hasn't fulfilled her childhood dream..YET....

so my fundraiser concludes with this....

This isn't a sob story or pulling on heart strings, myself and my wife both work and yes own our own home but like many other people we all have struggles. With my own resources I have £5,000 all donations can help reach my goal of giving Gill a last shot of becoming a MUM.