Help a Mother Escape a Dangerous Situation

How does someone go from presenting himself as your king who promised to always bring out the best in you and turn out to become a narcissistic controller who is threatened by the success you're trying to build? I don't know, but I never thought I would now be fighting to remove myself and my children from the only home they know, a home with a mother and father.

I've tried ignoring the hate, but it's getting to a point where now I'm fearing for my life.

I don't know what's worse, someone who abuses the system because they know how to work the system or someone who is in the system. This is my first time dealing with a narcissist, so everything has been so confusing to me. But watching and reading stories on their relationships, there's no logical thinking with a narcissist, especially if you stand your ground and refuse to accept their demands.

To make a long story short, I'll speak on what's been happening the last two weeks.

Two weeks ago, I had an order of 2 tables I built and was ready to deliver. After I asked my teenage son to help me place the tables in my car, I stopped by the gas station as my drive was about an hour away. When I got back in my car, I noticed my husband pull up beside me and roll down his window as I was now driving out into the main road. He made a U-turn and proceeded to follow me. I was in disbelief at what was happening as I was heading onto the highway and he was tailgating me. I really couldn't wrap my head around what was happening (this is already becoming a long story, so I'll cut it short). Instead of continuing to drive to my client, I decided to get off 20 minutes into my drive and go straight to his parents' (this is a 40-year-old man).

After reaching his parents, at this point, I've already called them to inform them their son is following me on the highway and that I was driving to them. Both parents came out and they talked to him, trying to reason with him. His father, who is a retired detective, signaled to me to drive to my destination. I drove off only for him to ignore both his parents. I didn't get on the highway but went to a shopping mall parking lot. Not only was he now trying to hit me with the car, but he blocked me a few times and attempted to unlock my car with the spare key to get in. I backed up and went around his car. At this point, his father and mother were also driving around, trying to reason with him and block him from getting to me. I told his father I would call the police on him if he didn't stop. After ignoring his father once again, he told me, "Go ahead, call them." I was now on the phone with the police as he was chasing me around the parking lot. After an hour of this nonsense in the parking lot, the police let him go because he didn't put his hands on me. For 2 days, my children and I stayed in a hotel, and noticing this was not financially feasible, we went to stay at his parents'.

I truly have been shielding my children from most of this drama, so I've been trying my best to avoid being around my husband. Because my kids need to finish off the school year and with only a month to go, his mother and I have been coordinating so I don't run into him. Well, that only worked for a short time. For weeks now, on his days off, I avoided him by sleeping in my car and coming home when he had left for work.

Two days ago, he got home in the middle of the night (he still has my backup car keys) and decided to take my car. I have no idea where he has put it, and the police let me know since the car is under both our names, I can't report it stolen.

At this point, I am convinced his next step will be the end of me, and I have to get myself out of my home since he refuses to leave and the police won't force him out since he has not put his hands on me. This is the story I hear when the victim has taken every step of safety, but it all fails to protect you.

I have a lot to offer this world, and my children are such easy-going kids that my absence will forever change their good-natured growth.

I can get a car of my own ASAP. I know I can make my next move (that I was already putting into works) on getting our rental.