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Update: My sweet loving mom left us Wednesday July 10th, 2024 at about 8:05pm that evening, holding my hand. I will never forget what I saw and what I felt that day for the rest of my life. Dad and I will forever miss her, she was what kept us together believe it or not. She was our glue. I’m so grateful my mom got to meet her grandson, and the way he would always light up when he saw her will forever be imprinted in my brain. We love her with all our hearts and we are complete lost without her. She would want us to find our way though, and one maybe we will. This hole that is left in your heart when losing someone like my mom…. I don’t think can ever be filled. I love you sweet mama and don’t worry about dad and I, we will figure it out. ❤️ We love and cherish you for the rest of our days. Fly high with the angels and watch over Carter for me ok?

Below is a little background of our story! Please feel free to read!

My Mom and Dad have always been the hardest working people I know. One thing I did get from them is work ethic. They worked hard to be where they are, success stories as well as failures. But they have always pushed through. My mom having stage 4 cancer has completely turned our family upside down. She is our glue, she is our accountant, she is our everything. Losing my parents has always been my biggest fear, and to watch one of them completely disintegrate before your eyes, is the worst pain I’ve ever endured. Second is my 8 month old teething It’s in her brain so she is no longer the Meri you all once knew. The cancer is not only taken over her brain but has spread to her bones. She’s so brittle she broke her arm just reaching for her purse. I wouldn’t wish what my Dad and I are going through on my worst enemy. And struggle is understatement. My dad has worked hard all his life to provide for us, and this is a huge change and we need all the help we can get.  

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Meri Lapham is an amazingly generous woman who would give the shirt off her back to help anyone around her. She is the pillar of our family, and she would do anything for the people she loves. She’s opened her home to many friends and family more times than I can count. She is smart, funny, witty, and such a joy to be around. She is one of the most selfless individuals I’ve had the pleasure of knowing.

Meri was diagnosed with stage 2 lung cancer around November of 2022. She opted for surgery and had her first lung tumor removal surgery in February of 2023 at St. Thomas Rutherford. The tumor removal was successful, Meri and her family were very hopeful about her prognosis. In September of 2023, her daughter Anna noticed that Meri’s speech and cognition were changing drastically. Anna took her to the emergency room where imaging concluded that the cancer had spread and Meri now had 11 tumors on her brain. She was rushed into emergency surgery and diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. Meri has been fighting ever since with a positive attitude. She’s undergone immunotherapy for many months which seemed to help initially but the cancer continued to spread. Despite previous hesitation, Meri decided to be treated with chemotherapy and radiation as a last resort. Unfortunately, all attempts have failed, and the cancer has metastasized to her lungs, liver, kidneys, spine, and bones as well as her brain. Her brain tumors which were initially shrinking have now multiplied and grown. The family has been told that despite all efforts there is nothing more that can be done.

Meri resides with her husband Bob, daughter Anna, and 8 month-old grandson Carter. Meri’s prognosis has really taken a toll on the family emotionally and financially. Anna quit her job back in September to help take care of her mother full time while simultaneously navigating new motherhood. Bob is a loving supportive husband who has been by her side throughout the entire process. Meri is now on hospice, and being made as comfortable as possible. Being pain free and at peace is the number one priority.

Please consider donating to help Meri and her family with the financial burden which cancer carries. As we all know, even with insurance, medications and at home care as well as final expenses are very expensive. Especially on top of providing for a new grandson, Carter. Any little bit helps and will be greatly appreciated. Help this family focus on what’s important right now, time together and not the medical bills and heavy burden of house hold bills and the expenses that come with a new baby boy.

Written by our dear friend Andi Turgeon. Thank you Andi!

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