As always there are 3 sides to a story. My side, her side, and the truth.

My name is Paulo and I have a 3 year old son with someone that is making it difficult for me to see my child.

When living with my partner and Kairos, our son.

I provided in many ways. As a sole income family, I purchased and provided any and all financial needs for the baby.

1. Fed the baby

2. Changed the baby

3. Cleaned the baby

4. Played with the baby

5. Put the baby to sleep

6. Tummy time with baby

7. Slept in the same room with the baby / slept with the baby beside me / co sleeping

8. Took baby out to cafe, library, mall, doctors, nearby family

9. Cleaned and organized the baby room

10. Purchased baby essentials (e.g. diapers, formula, wipes, bottles, pacifiers, and others)

11. Purchased baby clothes

12. Purchased baby toys

13. Purchased stroller and car seat

My partner and I when our son was first born, lived with her mother.

We were cramped in a room no bigger than 200 sq ft.

Anytime the baby would wake up in the middle of the night, we both would wake up and tend to the baby.

Majority of times I would make a bottle and fed the baby while my partner would change the baby. There would be times we'd switch or times id do both.

As my son grew older, my partner started to control how our child is raised and would control aspects of my relationship with my son.

I would be playing with my son, tickling, horse play, and my son will laugh out loud or giggle and because it's "loud" my partner would immediately tell me to stop, that he doesn't like it.

One day, he came back from daycare, 10 -15 we were playing and chasing each other when, my partner just snatched him up. While he's crying asking to continue to play more, she takes him and throws him in the bath and doesn't allow him to continue to play with me.

Another time was when I was asking my son about his day at daycare, my partner would answer for him, I kept repeating my questions to him but, he wouldn't answer me.

My partner got annoyed I kept asking him even though she's answered for him. We got into an argument, she tells him "answer you dada" and he finally answered my question.

The reason I'm asking for $50,000 is because I have debt and legal fees I need to manage.

The initial lawyer fee was $2100

I had a previous separation with this same partner that last time, it almost got to court but, we decided to work on things before court and it did not work out. During that time, the lawyer I had hired had asked for $3000 initial, as they worked they needed another $4000 and by the time we were going to go to court they wanted another $7000

With my current financial status, I have maxed out all credit cards, I have no line of credit.

I'm waiting on a personal loan to help with managing my debt but, legal fees I cannot afford at this time whatsoever.

I don't know how long this custody battle will be but. I was also told that a simple divorce would be around $2500 and with how things are playing out. I don't think there will be anything simple about this.