PARKER’S PIECE OF PAPER & PRAYERS FOR ADOPTION
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“I didn’t give you the gift of life baby girl…but the gift of life, gave me YOU”—those were part of the vows I read to my daughter the day I married my best friend… her daddy. We found out about our baby just a few months into dating. We learned he may have a child, in Colorado, born addicted to heroin and was currently in foster care, weaning her precious little body off Methadone due to her birth mom’s drug abuse during pregnancy.
Jason immediately hit the road in order to prove paternity, meet his princess and take all the legal precautions and requirements until we were able to bring her home. Just shy of fourth months old, I held my daughter, Parker, for the first time.
Fast forward to now. Parker is four (going on 25) and currently resides in Cave Creek, AZ with her mommy, daddy and little sissy, Riley. She is in her first year as a Junior Kindergartner, while expressing her love of dance by taking tap, ballet and jazz at a local, great studio. She is funny, smart, witty, bossy, beautiful, caring, helpful, silly and wise beyond her years.
And mostly, she is mine. And she can be “legally mine”, with help from you.
We have been through court battles with her bio mom before—which were all very lenient towards her. Our last order resulted with her getting visitation (the first and third weekend of every month- graduating to more time if she was consistent), weekly phone calls, and she was also ordered to pay child support and back support for all the years she failed to provide. Since that case has closed a couple of years ago, she has seen the child twice (6 times in almost 5 years), her phone calls come in waves, and she owes nearly $20,000 in support. I say all this, not to put anyone on blast, but to demonstrate the reasons behind our decision.
I want to adopt my girl. I am the only mom the child knows. I am the one to laugh and cry with her. I guide, care for, protect and support her. I take care of her owie’s and I tuck her into bed each night. She says “I love you mommy” at least fifteen times a day.
Her birth mom is a stranger with a life of her own-- with other children in what we believe to be a dangerous and unhealthy environment. However, even after I politely asked numerous times to adopt Parker, the bio mom refuses. I even stated we could establish communication and visitation post-adoption (because we don’t believe in a surprise attack at 18—the child is aware of the situation, at an age-appropriate level, of course). But that didn’t fly either.
She said she would never give up her rights and it’s “just a PIECE OF PAPER”
Well to me/us, that paper is everything. It also comes with a cost. A lawyer fee for our upcoming case that is not inexpensive and yet, worth every single dime. We found a qualified, Arizona-based lawyer with 25+ years’ experience. We were speechless, relieved, refreshed and geared up ready to fight. He gets it. He is on our side. He believes in us and our decision. He will make it happen!
Let it be known that we hate asking for money. We have a lot on our plate, but so does everyone else. So know that ANYTHING is APPRECIATED beyond measure. Everything will go to our lawyer’s retainer fee + hours as needed, court fees and adoption costs.
She is already ours regardless… let’s just make it official!!
Thank you and God bless!
Love,
Parker’s forever mom.. and her loving, forever family <3
Jason immediately hit the road in order to prove paternity, meet his princess and take all the legal precautions and requirements until we were able to bring her home. Just shy of fourth months old, I held my daughter, Parker, for the first time.
Fast forward to now. Parker is four (going on 25) and currently resides in Cave Creek, AZ with her mommy, daddy and little sissy, Riley. She is in her first year as a Junior Kindergartner, while expressing her love of dance by taking tap, ballet and jazz at a local, great studio. She is funny, smart, witty, bossy, beautiful, caring, helpful, silly and wise beyond her years.
And mostly, she is mine. And she can be “legally mine”, with help from you.
We have been through court battles with her bio mom before—which were all very lenient towards her. Our last order resulted with her getting visitation (the first and third weekend of every month- graduating to more time if she was consistent), weekly phone calls, and she was also ordered to pay child support and back support for all the years she failed to provide. Since that case has closed a couple of years ago, she has seen the child twice (6 times in almost 5 years), her phone calls come in waves, and she owes nearly $20,000 in support. I say all this, not to put anyone on blast, but to demonstrate the reasons behind our decision.
I want to adopt my girl. I am the only mom the child knows. I am the one to laugh and cry with her. I guide, care for, protect and support her. I take care of her owie’s and I tuck her into bed each night. She says “I love you mommy” at least fifteen times a day.
Her birth mom is a stranger with a life of her own-- with other children in what we believe to be a dangerous and unhealthy environment. However, even after I politely asked numerous times to adopt Parker, the bio mom refuses. I even stated we could establish communication and visitation post-adoption (because we don’t believe in a surprise attack at 18—the child is aware of the situation, at an age-appropriate level, of course). But that didn’t fly either.
She said she would never give up her rights and it’s “just a PIECE OF PAPER”
Well to me/us, that paper is everything. It also comes with a cost. A lawyer fee for our upcoming case that is not inexpensive and yet, worth every single dime. We found a qualified, Arizona-based lawyer with 25+ years’ experience. We were speechless, relieved, refreshed and geared up ready to fight. He gets it. He is on our side. He believes in us and our decision. He will make it happen!
Let it be known that we hate asking for money. We have a lot on our plate, but so does everyone else. So know that ANYTHING is APPRECIATED beyond measure. Everything will go to our lawyer’s retainer fee + hours as needed, court fees and adoption costs.
She is already ours regardless… let’s just make it official!!
Thank you and God bless!
Love,
Parker’s forever mom.. and her loving, forever family <3
Organizer
Kelsey May
Organizer
Cave Creek, AZ