Parental Alienation Is Abuse
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I am fighting for my four children. My wife of 23 years was found having an affair with the physician of one of our children. Given our many years of marriage which brought us four beautiful children (4, 12, 12, 14 at the time), I tried to reconcile with her through several counselors over 3 years. She never accepted "ownership" of her betrayal or how it impacted me as a human being. I was not allowed to speak with her about it or even have a heart-to-heart with her. Counselors and therapists could also make no progress.
At first, she blamed the other man. And then, she blamed her parents and then she finally blamed me. I absorbed 2 years of verbal and emotional abuse, with our children too often hearing her demean and smear me in front of them. Because I believed she was responsible for her own behavior, I was labelled a "threat" and a "danger". Out of the blue, I came home one day from a session as a State Representative, to be notified by the local police that the mother of our children had filed a protection from abuse order. That is when the Parental Alienation first began. False allegations followed by forced separation from our four children, my best friends in the world.
It has taken several years of counseling and therapy for me to understand why she behaved this way, the nature of personality disorders, and why she is susceptible to acting out by alienating the children from their loving, responsible father. In order for me to re-establish a normal relationship with all four children and protect their long-term emotional well-being, I need to engage a forensic psychologist. Fortunately, the judge in our divorce case took my words and testimony to heart and insisted on a psychological evaluation of the family dynamic.
Children deserve to have a loving relationship with both their mother and father, even in the case of divorce. It is a God given blessing. The longer this situation persists, the more damage it can cause to these children. Children of Parental Alienation have a much higher incidence of self-abuse: drugs, sex, self-mutilation, and suicide. I was shattered when I was informed by one of our child's counselors a few months ago that they had expressed "suicidal ideation". No parent should ever hear those words.
I am blocked from seeing my kids, other than 1 hour a week at a local fast-food restaurant, because of this disturbed mother's false allegations of abuse. (I can tell you with 100% confidence that I have no criminal record or drunk driving violations, no driving accidents. The last speeding ticket I had was from well over 10 years ago. Public records verify this.) When I am with my children for these brief moments, they are engaged, smiling, sharing. And then I see sadness cross their faces as the time nears for us to part, especially my youngest child. She drew the picture I posted with this appeal, shortly after I was first separated from her. She had never before drawn a picture of a crying girl. Like most little kids, her pictures were always sunny, bright, rainbows, horses, herself and her dad.
I appeal to you for the funds needed to pay for the forensic psychologist, psychological evaluation and legal fees to re-gain normal visitation rights with our children. To date, I have spent over $65,000.00 of my personal funds on legal fees and mental health services for our children and myself during this period of alienation. I am confident that following the psychological evaluation the court will have the information they need to make a visitation decision that is in the best interests of our children. The funds will be needed starting in February 2019.
Parental Alienation is a form of psychological child abuse (DSM 5). It can happen to both mothers and fathers, usually during the course of a divorce. It is terribly damaging to the well-being of children. It is soul crushing to the parent who goes from having a happy, normal, loving relationship with his/her children to suddenly being feared and avoided by those same children. Parental Alienation is a form of psychological and emotional manipulation by a personality disordered parent who fears "abandonment", triggered by a life altering event like divorce.
I thank you in advance for considering my situation and what I am trying to do to help re-unite with my children. I am not alone. This problem is growing, the family courts are not up to speed yet on how to confront this situation. There are many men (and women) who are in the same situation today. You can find many examples on the internet and YouTube if you search for Parental Alienation. I have engaged two of the top experts in the Northeast to help me and our children reunite and become whole again.
There is nothing more sacred that I have experienced than the unique bond between a parent and his child. Imagine if all of your children were suddenly kidnapped, yet you knew where they were but you were powerless to save them. I am asking you to help me save these children from an abusive situation and prevent any further emotional damage to them. I will not stop until they are saved. No parent would give up. Yes, they can be saved and reunited and have a loving relationship with both parents.
It is humbling to say, but I need your help. You will be changing the world of four innocent and loving children. It is impossible to describe my gratitude for any help at all. My children will thank you too, a long time from now when they have the maturity to understand what their dad and your support did to help them. May God bless you.
At first, she blamed the other man. And then, she blamed her parents and then she finally blamed me. I absorbed 2 years of verbal and emotional abuse, with our children too often hearing her demean and smear me in front of them. Because I believed she was responsible for her own behavior, I was labelled a "threat" and a "danger". Out of the blue, I came home one day from a session as a State Representative, to be notified by the local police that the mother of our children had filed a protection from abuse order. That is when the Parental Alienation first began. False allegations followed by forced separation from our four children, my best friends in the world.
It has taken several years of counseling and therapy for me to understand why she behaved this way, the nature of personality disorders, and why she is susceptible to acting out by alienating the children from their loving, responsible father. In order for me to re-establish a normal relationship with all four children and protect their long-term emotional well-being, I need to engage a forensic psychologist. Fortunately, the judge in our divorce case took my words and testimony to heart and insisted on a psychological evaluation of the family dynamic.
Children deserve to have a loving relationship with both their mother and father, even in the case of divorce. It is a God given blessing. The longer this situation persists, the more damage it can cause to these children. Children of Parental Alienation have a much higher incidence of self-abuse: drugs, sex, self-mutilation, and suicide. I was shattered when I was informed by one of our child's counselors a few months ago that they had expressed "suicidal ideation". No parent should ever hear those words.
I am blocked from seeing my kids, other than 1 hour a week at a local fast-food restaurant, because of this disturbed mother's false allegations of abuse. (I can tell you with 100% confidence that I have no criminal record or drunk driving violations, no driving accidents. The last speeding ticket I had was from well over 10 years ago. Public records verify this.) When I am with my children for these brief moments, they are engaged, smiling, sharing. And then I see sadness cross their faces as the time nears for us to part, especially my youngest child. She drew the picture I posted with this appeal, shortly after I was first separated from her. She had never before drawn a picture of a crying girl. Like most little kids, her pictures were always sunny, bright, rainbows, horses, herself and her dad.
I appeal to you for the funds needed to pay for the forensic psychologist, psychological evaluation and legal fees to re-gain normal visitation rights with our children. To date, I have spent over $65,000.00 of my personal funds on legal fees and mental health services for our children and myself during this period of alienation. I am confident that following the psychological evaluation the court will have the information they need to make a visitation decision that is in the best interests of our children. The funds will be needed starting in February 2019.
Parental Alienation is a form of psychological child abuse (DSM 5). It can happen to both mothers and fathers, usually during the course of a divorce. It is terribly damaging to the well-being of children. It is soul crushing to the parent who goes from having a happy, normal, loving relationship with his/her children to suddenly being feared and avoided by those same children. Parental Alienation is a form of psychological and emotional manipulation by a personality disordered parent who fears "abandonment", triggered by a life altering event like divorce.
I thank you in advance for considering my situation and what I am trying to do to help re-unite with my children. I am not alone. This problem is growing, the family courts are not up to speed yet on how to confront this situation. There are many men (and women) who are in the same situation today. You can find many examples on the internet and YouTube if you search for Parental Alienation. I have engaged two of the top experts in the Northeast to help me and our children reunite and become whole again.
There is nothing more sacred that I have experienced than the unique bond between a parent and his child. Imagine if all of your children were suddenly kidnapped, yet you knew where they were but you were powerless to save them. I am asking you to help me save these children from an abusive situation and prevent any further emotional damage to them. I will not stop until they are saved. No parent would give up. Yes, they can be saved and reunited and have a loving relationship with both parents.
It is humbling to say, but I need your help. You will be changing the world of four innocent and loving children. It is impossible to describe my gratitude for any help at all. My children will thank you too, a long time from now when they have the maturity to understand what their dad and your support did to help them. May God bless you.
Organizer
David Sawicki
Organizer
Auburn, ME