Support Tony's Journey to Stability

Hi. My name is Emily, and I have been dating my boyfriend Tony since the summer of 2017. He is a humble veteran, a former United States Army infantryman who served from 2008-2012 active duty. His title was 11B10 Infantry Team Leader. Due to an ankle injury overseas, he was honorably released from active duty in 2011 and got his honorable discharge in 2016. He was married during all this time and had his three children in 2011, 2012, and 2013. Well, his ex-wife was very abusive to him after he came home, and one day he came home, and all of his things were put in trash bags and left on the front door (they were living in her mother's house at the time). She filed for divorce and deemed he was unfit to be a father and blamed it on his PTSD. In reality, Tony suspects she was unhappy that she was no longer going to be a military wife and was going to have to work. The abuse happened when she said she didn't want to work after his honorable discharge. He said whenever she would lose arguments, she would hit him consistently. The last time she hit him, she kicked him in the head while he was looking for a pacifier on the floor, and he had to call out of work the next day because you could see the imprint of the strap from her shoe on his cheek. Sure, it was probably not smart to have kids that soon after returning home from war, but she had PCOS, and they wanted to start trying early. Combine postpartum depression with fresh PTSD, and I'm sure it is a bad mixture, but they promised to always fight for their marriage. You can imagine how stunned he was to find his things packed up and a divorce slapped on him. In court, Tony tried to fight for his kids with his lawyer; he had worked out holidays, a schedule, everything, but the judge sided with his ex. He said for some reason in Florida, the court always sides with the mother. The outcome was that he could have supervised visits once a week for one hour. He said he did not want to be treated like some monster/criminal, so he said no. He was homeless for two weeks until his friends found out he was staying under the piers on the beach, so then he started staying with various friends. She was granted temporary custody and wasn't letting him see them much. He was so depressed from losing his marriage, his kids, and being homeless. It ended up being too much for him. His best friend and his best friend's parents in Alabama said they would give him a job, a work truck to use, and a cabin to live in for free. He had hunted there in the past years, so he took the gracious opportunity in the fall of 2016. It was in Alabama that we crossed paths on my 30th birthday in 2017. His child support payment alone at that time was $1400 a month, which he never met. He paid her what he could each week. Before I met him, his ex was letting him talk to his kids once a week on the phone. Well, once she found out we were dating, that ended. I watched him in tears leaving voicemails to them on their birthdays. I was told by all his friends and family that his ex was pure evil and that her main goal was to make him suffer. Well, trust me, in these last 7-8 years, I have truly watched him suffer. One time he accidentally missed a court date back in like 2018-19, and because of that, she was granted full custody. Once he got put on the payroll at his job (was only paper checks before), his wages started to get garnished, which was easier for him, but he suffered financially. Basically, over the last almost 8 years, I have watched Tony go from $30k in child support to now $70k, and yet he hasn't been able to even talk to his kids at all. He had his best friend (a former mechanic) promise to get his truck fixed and working, and he never did and lied about ordering parts for it. So Tony has not had a working vehicle since 2019. He has only used work trucks for work or my car for personal needs. We now live in Foley, and he works for a great company, and they have a company phone and vehicle for him to use. He is maxed out for garnishing of wages, so it's 50% of his income. She has asked him multiple times to sign away his rights, but he refuses to do that. He's not giving up on his kids. He makes $20 an hour, but it's like he makes $10. He pays me half our rent and power/internet and then his cell phone bill. So he really only has 4 bills.

I guess what I'm on here asking is help for two things: 1. his child support debt and 2. a car for him. I'm sure the 1st thing is not allowed. But I just think it is so unfair that 1/2 his income goes to 3 kids that he isn't even allowed to see nor talk to. The 2nd thing, it would be great for Tony to finally have his own car again. He is such a kind and humble human being. Even though he makes so little, I still see him give money to the poor when they ask him for it at gas stations, on the side of the road, etc. Also, we know Tony qualifies for a VA loan, but he hasn't owned a credit card in years, so he has no credit, and he also probably has to pay off his $70k child support debt first. We also have been trying to conceive a child together since 2017 and have been unsuccessful. I recently found out that I have a 1% chance of conceiving on my own. I was given three options: injections, injections with IUI, and IVF. But according to the Dr., IVF is the best option, and that is $20k. Even though I make good money, I still don't have enough money for a down payment on a house, which is why we were trying to use his VA loan. That way, I could pay for the IVF. If anyone can help us, we would so appreciate it. We just want to be able to start our own family, have our own house, and have two cars and no debt (I already have no debt because I literally just 6 days ago paid off my student loan). That is the ultimate goal. Thank you.