Nygaard Adoption

Welcome to Nicholas and Kaitlyn’s adoption page. Please read their story below:

The last 3 years have been heavy with longing. Although I keep an unobtrusive presence on social media, and Nicholas deleted his Facebook shortly after our trip overseas in 2017, many of you have been quietly walking with us through loss, grief, moves, and more. I looked through my Facebook over the last several months and realized that the majority of my posts revolve around Bekah and Austin’s death; and if I had to sum up the last three years of our lives, the word that truly encompasses it all is “longing.” 



Longing: 

That thing your soul cries out for. 

That hope you cling to when you are raw and empty.

That whisper you barely can gather enough courage to ask for. 

That dream of heaven.

That step you take together.

 

2017 started my (our) longing for our heavenly home. Losing Bekah and Austin so abruptly ushered in a season of great darkness. 

 

2018 thrust us into greater depths of feeling abandoned and alone with our move to Minneapolis and then our inability to become pregnant. As Nicholas went back to school, I spent quiet nights alone, wondering what we had ever done to deserve such pain and suffering. I listened to scores of praise music, feeling that music was the only way I could feel God’s presence in my life at that point. While I can confidently say I never doubted that God held me tightly through those moments, I can also openly say that my faith felt as strong as a frayed thread, and there were many nights I did not feel held. But our gracious Father never lets us go, and on my lowest days, when I felt I could barely breathe, He gave me my next breath at each turn. 

 

2019 started a year of emotional healing as I sought biblical counseling with the encouragement of Nicholas and my mom. As I struggled with PTSD when driving, crippling anxiety at the smallest of things, and sorrow at the monthly reminder of infertility, I started to see light in the darkness about midway through the year. 

 

2020 was nothing like I expected. In March we bought a house, and the day after signing our paperwork, I was laid-off due to Covid. We immediately started remodeling, and within a two-week period, I moved into our friends' basement and Nicholas was sent to Boise, ID for work (he had a 6-day notice). Covid had killed all of his assigned projects and he was moved to the only one available, 22 hours away. He worked in Idaho over the summer as we continued to remodel on the weekends and I started a new job. In August I was in a car accident, Nicholas was laid off, and we realized that after spending several thousand dollars over the last 2.5 years of trying to find a reason for our infertility, we had no answers other than ”I don’t know, everything’s normal for you both.” 

 

And that brings us to now. That brings us to longing. 

We long to see Bekah and Austin again.

I long to feel the way I did before anxiety changed my life. 

We long for answers to our questions of “Why?”

We long for a child. 

 

But longing brings so much growth. Painful growth most often, but growth all the same. 

 

We have become a couple who deeply and desperately clings to the hope of our Savior.  And it is that hope, that longing, that dream, that has brought us to adoption. We may never have an answer to the “why” questions, but maybe we don’t need them. Maybe, God will answer our prayers through the womb of another. Maybe, we will have a chance to experience the closest thing on earth to our adoption in Christ. Infertility strips you of so much- the joy of a pregnancy announcement, the fun of maternity pictures, the feelings of a baby kicking, a planned baby shower, support from other mothers, confidence as a man and woman. It makes you doubt your biblical worth-were we not called to fill the earth? It makes you feel bitterly alone as you watch other’s arms fill. It hurts as people make insensitive comments. It causes you to vacillate between hope and despair every 4 weeks. It drives you to your knees: but what a better place to be when talking to the Lord. We don’t know how long this adoption process will take, but we hope that as you follow our story, you are reminded that God loves you. He loves me. He loves our future baby (or two-we’re open to twins). He loves that baby’s birth mama and daddy. And no matter the strife, sorrow, or suffering, HE never changes. He will always love us, and we will always rejoice in our own adoption!

As you can see, Nicholas and Kaitlyn have been through a lot but God has been faithful and good. We want to come alongside them and help them as they begin this adoption journey. Adoption can be a financial difficulty for many. Nicholas and Kaitlyn have gone through many recent financial changes, with loss of jobs, buying a home, unexpected medical bills, infertility medical bills, car expenses after the accident, and house bills. Yet, their burden and passion to adopt a child is a priority and so we want to be able to help them. The joy of bringing a baby into your home shouldn’t have to be overshadowed by financial stress. As they have already begun the adoption process and paid some of the upfront fees, we want to continue to help them raise the rest of the money needed to adopt. 

Please click on the link below and help them reach this goal of $20,000 to complete the adoption process! Thank you so much! 

You can follow along in their story by following Kaitlyn’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/kaity.bouma