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This is my firstborn baby-boy, Oliver. I like to call him "Ollie". Ollie, world..world, Ollie. It can be a scary, tough place at times, but with the right guidance and support, you will be great!
To those who know me, this may be the first you are hearing that I have a son. I am sorry for not sharing this amazing new addition to my life sooner; I truly am. To those of you that do not know me, my name is Chance and I am new to fatherhood, currently living in Las Vegas, Nevada.
The circumstances, to date, are complex and difficult to convey through any means short of a full novel. Things have been challenging to say the least. However, each day, I wake up as optimistic as possible knowing "There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off." Proverbs 23:18.
Oliver just had his first birthday this May. Look at him go!
In addition, after a very long battle with his mother, and the office of vital statistics, I am officially named as his father on the birth certificate. Coincidentally, and unfortunately, several days before the news of the birth certificate amendment, a CPS case was initiated against his mother. Most, if not all of you, have never met his mother nor are aware of who she is. So, as hesitant as I have felt sharing this information, I am confident that her identity is and will remain unknown.
As I still have hope for his mother to turn her life around, I will limit the details that surround the accusations for this investigation. I will say that the investigation is warranted and I have witnessed most of the accusations myself. No matter how I approached this issue (and I have exhausted every possible means to change the way things are), I have met failure, difficulty, and an inability to cooperate. Along the way, I have lost my job, been forced to move back home with my mom and brother, and now have no mode of transportation. The ways in which most of this loss has occurred is a result of my continuous attempts to be involved in my sons life and help his mother. To no avail, I have met continuous opposition, complication after complication, and more difficulty than any one person should ever have to deal with. It has put a drain on me mentally and emotionally to say the least.
I am currently in counselling to help with the issues I am dealing with. (https://bridgecounseling.org/ ). Just when I think things cannot get worse, I get a disturbing/negative text or call from his mother or message from someone I have never met explaining the need to intervene with his mother regarding her care with Oliver.
As stated, I still have hope for his mother and her ability to turn things around. I have though, suffered a great deal because of her mistakes. I will spare all the details but I will say that my time with her has caused more inaccurate accusations and more injustice than I have ever known. I am not one who does not take full responsibility for my actions. I have learned the importance of acceptance when it comes to self-forgiveness and healing. I have made some bad decisions but once I learned about the pregnancy, I made an effort to check myself on all decisions moving forward.
I will definitely admit that I am having a hard time coping and dealing with this situation, as well as being a new father and all the responsibilities that come with it. My timing has always been off. I have noticed this and try to laugh it off when possible. Things with the COVID-19 virus have obviously put a strain on all families. The timing could not be worse for Ollie and I.
I am doing all that I can to make sure that my son belongs in a safe place.
With the opposition of his mother the past year, this has been extremely challenging. I want to attempt to get custody of Ollie, however finances are tight and even pursing this on my own, without retaining a lawyer, is unattainable at this time.
I know I have many people out there who, if I picked up the phone and reached out, would be there to lend an open ear, offering what advice they could. I am at a a point where I have become hesitant to even reach out to my closest of friends. A lot of this has to do with a feeling of self-defeat and I am doing my best to work through this. I suppose I may have myself to blame, but my support system has been limited to non-existent.
I am going way out of my comfort zone with this fundraiser, I mean off the grid even. I have been at a complete loss with what I am to do, to make sure Ollie is kept safe, given all the opportunities that any one of us has been afforded, and to be the best father that I can possibly be for him. Everyday, I find it harder and harder to see any light at the end of the tunnel. The environment I am currently living in is not conducive to any type of joy, peace, progression, or anything that resembles the family-oriented life that I have always sought.
With these funds, I will be able to secure an apartment/town home of my own, having first and last months rent
(https://www.zillow.com/homes/for_rent/68657544_zpid/?utm_source=email&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=emo-dailysavedsearch-rental&rtoken=43dc221f-13ba-4426-8dd6-e561673f6cce~X1-ZUu09exvexjthl_1oeg0&utm_term=urn:msg:20200529092312f0d894b8190863a4&utm_content=20200529-forrentimage-PSS&searchQueryState=%7B%22mapBounds%22%3A%7B%22west%22%3A-116.01436274414063%2C%22east%22%3A-114.40761225585938%2C%22south%22%3A35.67494834521547%2C%22north%22%3A36.599897408285706%7D%2C%22regionSelection%22%3A%5B%7B%22regionId%22%3A18959%2C%22regionType%22%3A6%7D%5D%2C%22filterState%22%3A%7B%22price%22%3A%7B%22min%22%3A303182%2C%22max%22%3A413431%7D%2C%22beds%22%3A%7B%22min%22%3A2%7D%2C%22baths%22%3A%7B%22min%22%3A1.5%7D%2C%22pmf%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22fore%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22mf%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22mp%22%3A%7B%22min%22%3A1100%2C%22max%22%3A1500%7D%2C%22auc%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22nc%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22fr%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Atrue%7D%2C%22land%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22manu%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22fsbo%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22cmsn%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22pf%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22fsba%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%7D%2C%22savedSearchEnrollmentId%22%3A%22X1-SScuvjo7whwhk81000000000_5m9va%22%7D&3col=true)
I will be looking for a suitable mode of transportation fit for Oliver and I, and the cost to file a complaint for custody (which will at least get me started with the process) (https://www.familylawselfhelpcenter.org/self-help/custody-paternity-child-support/filing-for-custody-paternity-child-support/133-completing-filing-the-custody-papers ). I have a paternity test, however I am unaware if it is admissible due to the fact that I had it done on my own and it was not court ordered. I may have to start with the complaint for paternity first. Depending on how much I can raise, I will adjust how the funds are disbursed accordingly. The priority is my son and anything that will benefit him, will benefit me in return. Having transportation and our own place will allow me to be in an environment that is suitable for raising my son the way I know that I can; with pride, joy, excitement, and an atmosphere that is conducive to accomplishing this and more.
With your support, Ollie and I will finally have the opportunity to be successful, in all aspects of life! Nobody will every truly know what this opportunity would mean to me/us or will ever truly understand the gratitude that would come along with this support. Any type of support or participation is welcomed. I am very open-minded and at the point I have reached, can appreciate the simplest of advice, insight, or a donation. I never could have imagined feeling the way I do, at times, during the first year of my firstborns life; with overwhelming pressure, sadness and despair. And even though my faith is stronger than ever, reality has proven its dominance at this time. I do not want to continue feeling this way. I am doing everything that I know of to change and improve my thoughts, feelings, and situation. We are products of our environments, and even the most conscious-minded, optimistic person can find themselves in an environment in which they will never thrive, or at the very least, have great challenges in doing so.
I appreciate all those people who have taken the time to read through this lengthy description. Regardless of any hardships I have been through, the one thing I have always been blessed with, is the special people in my life. This is one of the truest of statements you will hear from me. I truly have met many amazing people from all walks of life. For this, I am truly blessed. And for Oliver, I am surely blessed.
I have tried my best to keep it to the point. Again, any and all support is welcomed. If anyone has any questions, I am open to answering or clarifying anything. Thank you for your time and consideration!
To those who know me, this may be the first you are hearing that I have a son. I am sorry for not sharing this amazing new addition to my life sooner; I truly am. To those of you that do not know me, my name is Chance and I am new to fatherhood, currently living in Las Vegas, Nevada.
The circumstances, to date, are complex and difficult to convey through any means short of a full novel. Things have been challenging to say the least. However, each day, I wake up as optimistic as possible knowing "There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off." Proverbs 23:18.
Oliver just had his first birthday this May. Look at him go!
In addition, after a very long battle with his mother, and the office of vital statistics, I am officially named as his father on the birth certificate. Coincidentally, and unfortunately, several days before the news of the birth certificate amendment, a CPS case was initiated against his mother. Most, if not all of you, have never met his mother nor are aware of who she is. So, as hesitant as I have felt sharing this information, I am confident that her identity is and will remain unknown.
As I still have hope for his mother to turn her life around, I will limit the details that surround the accusations for this investigation. I will say that the investigation is warranted and I have witnessed most of the accusations myself. No matter how I approached this issue (and I have exhausted every possible means to change the way things are), I have met failure, difficulty, and an inability to cooperate. Along the way, I have lost my job, been forced to move back home with my mom and brother, and now have no mode of transportation. The ways in which most of this loss has occurred is a result of my continuous attempts to be involved in my sons life and help his mother. To no avail, I have met continuous opposition, complication after complication, and more difficulty than any one person should ever have to deal with. It has put a drain on me mentally and emotionally to say the least.
I am currently in counselling to help with the issues I am dealing with. (https://bridgecounseling.org/ ). Just when I think things cannot get worse, I get a disturbing/negative text or call from his mother or message from someone I have never met explaining the need to intervene with his mother regarding her care with Oliver.
As stated, I still have hope for his mother and her ability to turn things around. I have though, suffered a great deal because of her mistakes. I will spare all the details but I will say that my time with her has caused more inaccurate accusations and more injustice than I have ever known. I am not one who does not take full responsibility for my actions. I have learned the importance of acceptance when it comes to self-forgiveness and healing. I have made some bad decisions but once I learned about the pregnancy, I made an effort to check myself on all decisions moving forward.
I will definitely admit that I am having a hard time coping and dealing with this situation, as well as being a new father and all the responsibilities that come with it. My timing has always been off. I have noticed this and try to laugh it off when possible. Things with the COVID-19 virus have obviously put a strain on all families. The timing could not be worse for Ollie and I.
I am doing all that I can to make sure that my son belongs in a safe place.
With the opposition of his mother the past year, this has been extremely challenging. I want to attempt to get custody of Ollie, however finances are tight and even pursing this on my own, without retaining a lawyer, is unattainable at this time.
I know I have many people out there who, if I picked up the phone and reached out, would be there to lend an open ear, offering what advice they could. I am at a a point where I have become hesitant to even reach out to my closest of friends. A lot of this has to do with a feeling of self-defeat and I am doing my best to work through this. I suppose I may have myself to blame, but my support system has been limited to non-existent.
I am going way out of my comfort zone with this fundraiser, I mean off the grid even. I have been at a complete loss with what I am to do, to make sure Ollie is kept safe, given all the opportunities that any one of us has been afforded, and to be the best father that I can possibly be for him. Everyday, I find it harder and harder to see any light at the end of the tunnel. The environment I am currently living in is not conducive to any type of joy, peace, progression, or anything that resembles the family-oriented life that I have always sought.
With these funds, I will be able to secure an apartment/town home of my own, having first and last months rent
(https://www.zillow.com/homes/for_rent/68657544_zpid/?utm_source=email&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=emo-dailysavedsearch-rental&rtoken=43dc221f-13ba-4426-8dd6-e561673f6cce~X1-ZUu09exvexjthl_1oeg0&utm_term=urn:msg:20200529092312f0d894b8190863a4&utm_content=20200529-forrentimage-PSS&searchQueryState=%7B%22mapBounds%22%3A%7B%22west%22%3A-116.01436274414063%2C%22east%22%3A-114.40761225585938%2C%22south%22%3A35.67494834521547%2C%22north%22%3A36.599897408285706%7D%2C%22regionSelection%22%3A%5B%7B%22regionId%22%3A18959%2C%22regionType%22%3A6%7D%5D%2C%22filterState%22%3A%7B%22price%22%3A%7B%22min%22%3A303182%2C%22max%22%3A413431%7D%2C%22beds%22%3A%7B%22min%22%3A2%7D%2C%22baths%22%3A%7B%22min%22%3A1.5%7D%2C%22pmf%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22fore%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22mf%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22mp%22%3A%7B%22min%22%3A1100%2C%22max%22%3A1500%7D%2C%22auc%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22nc%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22fr%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Atrue%7D%2C%22land%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22manu%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22fsbo%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22cmsn%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22pf%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%2C%22fsba%22%3A%7B%22value%22%3Afalse%7D%7D%2C%22savedSearchEnrollmentId%22%3A%22X1-SScuvjo7whwhk81000000000_5m9va%22%7D&3col=true)
I will be looking for a suitable mode of transportation fit for Oliver and I, and the cost to file a complaint for custody (which will at least get me started with the process) (https://www.familylawselfhelpcenter.org/self-help/custody-paternity-child-support/filing-for-custody-paternity-child-support/133-completing-filing-the-custody-papers ). I have a paternity test, however I am unaware if it is admissible due to the fact that I had it done on my own and it was not court ordered. I may have to start with the complaint for paternity first. Depending on how much I can raise, I will adjust how the funds are disbursed accordingly. The priority is my son and anything that will benefit him, will benefit me in return. Having transportation and our own place will allow me to be in an environment that is suitable for raising my son the way I know that I can; with pride, joy, excitement, and an atmosphere that is conducive to accomplishing this and more.
With your support, Ollie and I will finally have the opportunity to be successful, in all aspects of life! Nobody will every truly know what this opportunity would mean to me/us or will ever truly understand the gratitude that would come along with this support. Any type of support or participation is welcomed. I am very open-minded and at the point I have reached, can appreciate the simplest of advice, insight, or a donation. I never could have imagined feeling the way I do, at times, during the first year of my firstborns life; with overwhelming pressure, sadness and despair. And even though my faith is stronger than ever, reality has proven its dominance at this time. I do not want to continue feeling this way. I am doing everything that I know of to change and improve my thoughts, feelings, and situation. We are products of our environments, and even the most conscious-minded, optimistic person can find themselves in an environment in which they will never thrive, or at the very least, have great challenges in doing so.
I appreciate all those people who have taken the time to read through this lengthy description. Regardless of any hardships I have been through, the one thing I have always been blessed with, is the special people in my life. This is one of the truest of statements you will hear from me. I truly have met many amazing people from all walks of life. For this, I am truly blessed. And for Oliver, I am surely blessed.
I have tried my best to keep it to the point. Again, any and all support is welcomed. If anyone has any questions, I am open to answering or clarifying anything. Thank you for your time and consideration!