Moving house and rent
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I am asking for help to move from Surrey, back to Nottingham where I have a support network of many good friends following the breakdown of my marriage.
I am self-employed and not able to work due to Covid-19 so I currently have no money, am pregnant and am still waiting for HMRC to contact me to support my earnings. I have been accepted for Universal Credit but do not know how much that will be until a few days before it’s paid on the 16th May 2020.
I am in need of a deposit on a house (approx. £600) and a couple of months’ rent (approx. £1200). I will have to close down my business in Surrey and refund everyone's deposits also (£300). Total finding a new home = £2100.
In a couple of months, the world may be back to normal and I can try to start my business again in the Nottingham area. During this time, I will receive help from the government, but will have to top up my rent with the money I have to live on until my baby is born.
My baby is due 21st October 2020. Like all mums, I want the very best for my little one. I don’t want to go to a refuge during Covid-19.
In return I would like to take you on this journey of me and the baby, give hope to other mums struggling to do the same and raise awareness for the good that people do that goes unnoticed.
That is the situation now and this is the backstory of what has happened:
I am just over 3 months pregnant and have suffered with anxiety and prenatal depression after losing a child. Then out of the blue, my devoted husband of exactly a year told me he couldn’t handle my anxiety and wanted a divorce. This absolutely crushed me and I tried to take my own life.
I was hospitalised for a few days and when I came out, my husband was gone. He wouldn’t talk to me other than demanding a divorce.
Thankfully I gained a great team of mental health workers who helped me regain my strength and get me better. They taught me how to love my unborn baby and found out that I suffer with mental illness because of my upbringing.
I made it my mission to do right by my child and make sure he/she has a better childhood than me and strived to suggest that my husband and I sought counselling to be able to bring up our child correctly, but any attempt I had to reason with him was met with hostility and anger, followed by demands for a divorce.
I honestly don’t know what happened to my husband because aside from not coping with my anxiety and sadness, we got on well and had a loving relationship. This changed in a matter of days and he is a totally different person, a person I have never met in the 3 years we have been together.
Because of this change of character, I feared for the wellbeing of myself and our baby in the future, having seen this before when I was growing up. I stated that I would prefer it if he were not involved if he wasn't prepared to learn how to get on by seeking help, as the future happiness of us all would be compromised. He then decided that he would not like any part in his child life and told me not to put him on the birth certificate.
The very same day, my landlord told me he would evict us in two months if me and my husband broke up because I would be on benefits due to my business being unable to trade because of covid-19. Although this does seem to be against the law, I would rather move out being 3 months pregnant than 6 months pregnant. I want to leave this nightmare behind and start again. It will be tough, but I can do this with the help from my friends!
I am self-employed and not able to work due to Covid-19 so I currently have no money, am pregnant and am still waiting for HMRC to contact me to support my earnings. I have been accepted for Universal Credit but do not know how much that will be until a few days before it’s paid on the 16th May 2020.
I am in need of a deposit on a house (approx. £600) and a couple of months’ rent (approx. £1200). I will have to close down my business in Surrey and refund everyone's deposits also (£300). Total finding a new home = £2100.
In a couple of months, the world may be back to normal and I can try to start my business again in the Nottingham area. During this time, I will receive help from the government, but will have to top up my rent with the money I have to live on until my baby is born.
My baby is due 21st October 2020. Like all mums, I want the very best for my little one. I don’t want to go to a refuge during Covid-19.
In return I would like to take you on this journey of me and the baby, give hope to other mums struggling to do the same and raise awareness for the good that people do that goes unnoticed.
That is the situation now and this is the backstory of what has happened:
I am just over 3 months pregnant and have suffered with anxiety and prenatal depression after losing a child. Then out of the blue, my devoted husband of exactly a year told me he couldn’t handle my anxiety and wanted a divorce. This absolutely crushed me and I tried to take my own life.
I was hospitalised for a few days and when I came out, my husband was gone. He wouldn’t talk to me other than demanding a divorce.
Thankfully I gained a great team of mental health workers who helped me regain my strength and get me better. They taught me how to love my unborn baby and found out that I suffer with mental illness because of my upbringing.
I made it my mission to do right by my child and make sure he/she has a better childhood than me and strived to suggest that my husband and I sought counselling to be able to bring up our child correctly, but any attempt I had to reason with him was met with hostility and anger, followed by demands for a divorce.
I honestly don’t know what happened to my husband because aside from not coping with my anxiety and sadness, we got on well and had a loving relationship. This changed in a matter of days and he is a totally different person, a person I have never met in the 3 years we have been together.
Because of this change of character, I feared for the wellbeing of myself and our baby in the future, having seen this before when I was growing up. I stated that I would prefer it if he were not involved if he wasn't prepared to learn how to get on by seeking help, as the future happiness of us all would be compromised. He then decided that he would not like any part in his child life and told me not to put him on the birth certificate.
The very same day, my landlord told me he would evict us in two months if me and my husband broke up because I would be on benefits due to my business being unable to trade because of covid-19. Although this does seem to be against the law, I would rather move out being 3 months pregnant than 6 months pregnant. I want to leave this nightmare behind and start again. It will be tough, but I can do this with the help from my friends!
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