For four years, I have been the only mother my foster children have ever known.

I am also the adoptive mother of four children. I love all of my children deeply, and every decision I have made has been driven by that love and by my responsibility to protect them.

When one of my sons entered a severe mental health crisis, I did what parents are told to do—I asked for help. I reported concerns, followed professional guidance, implemented safety plans, and fought to get him the treatment he desperately needs. I did not hide what was happening. I tried to protect every child in my home.

Instead of support, my family was torn apart.

My foster children are now being permanently moved from the only home, siblings, and mother they have ever known. Despite being granted unsupervised visitation, I now have just two hours a week with the children who used to call me “mom” every day.

My attorney has explained that I do still have options to fight this—but they come at a cost far beyond what I can manage alone.

To even have a chance, I must cover:

Independent psychological and bonding evaluations: up to $7,500

(to document the deep attachment between my foster children, my adopted children, and myself, and the emotional harm separation causes)

Motion for direct placement: $2,000 upfront, plus $295 per hour thereafter

Fair hearing review: $5,000 upfront, plus $295 per hour thereafter

Additional court filing and administrative costs

Even with all of this, my chances of winning are slim.

Without it, I am guaranteed to lose.

On top of these legal and evaluation costs, I am currently taking unpaid time off from work. The emotional toll of losing my children while navigating court proceedings has left me barely functioning. I am doing everything I can just to get through each day while continuing to advocate for my family.

Funds raised will be used exclusively for:

Legal representation and required motions

Psychological and bonding evaluations

Court-related costs

Basic living expenses while I am unpaid and actively fighting for my children

This is not about anger or attacking the system.

This is about love, attachment, and children losing their family because separation was chosen over support.

Fighting to get one child the help he needs should not cost the others their family.

I know the odds are against me—but I cannot live with myself if I don’t try everything possible for my children. If you are able to donate or share this fundraiser, you are helping me keep fighting for them.

Thank you for reading. Thank you for caring. And thank you for believing that families deserve support—not to be torn apart!