Help Me & Bear Build a Safe New Home After Abuse, Homelessness & Cancer

Hi peaches! I’m Loubie — Abusefreemama on Instagram & TikTok— and I’m a domestic abuse survivor, solo mum to my beautiful boy Bear, and a women’s advocate who’s spent the last two years helping thousands of survivors find their voice after trauma. I was a Midwife for many years but can't go back to that at the moment due to the unsocial hours - they don't work well with single parenting/childcare!

In 2022, Bear and I fled abuse and entered refuge. Since then, we’ve been homeless and stuck in unsafe, temporary housing.

We’ve survived poverty, harassment, post-separation abuse… and now I’m fighting vulval cancer too — while still trying to parent 24/7, work online building my brand, and support other women in crisis.

A few short months ago I decided to tell my story - in the hope that other women will not have to experience the overwhelming sense of loneliness that domestic abuse hurls at you. I knew I needed to validate other women - because I didn't get that. The response has been amazing. I didn't know if anyone would want to listen to me waffling on - but it turns out you do.

After 2.5 years, we’ve finally been offered a home.

But we have almost nothing to put in it.

This fundraiser is to help us make it safe, warm, and liveable — starting with essentials like:

A fridge and washing machine

Flooring and curtains

Basic furniture, like a sofa and drawers

Soft touches to help us finally feel at home again

Against my better judgement I've decided to set this up!

I'm just a normal woman starting over. I’ve never asked for help like this before, but people keep telling me:

"Let us support you the way you support us."

So here I am, trusting that kindness still exists.

If you’ve ever been moved by my story, my content, or my advocacy — this is your chance to be part of our healing chapter.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Love,

Loubie & Bear

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