Jude's Transition Fund 2.0

I am starting this to help my partner Jude fundraise for the next steps in his transition. In his own words:

 

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[revised on 27/11/2022]

Hello,

I'm Jude --- a disabled, neurodivergent, queer, non-binary trans, Italo-Brit multimedia storyteller (visual artist/speculative fiction writer/performance poet/theatre-maker/photographer) of Polish origin, who relocated to Scotland last year to pursue the creative life of his dreams.

 

Those dreams include a few gender-affirming procedures, i.e:

• top surgery revision (following a complete lack of after-care from my original surgeon)
• body masculinisation surgery
• phalloplasty

My prospective surgeon is Dr Gennaro Selvaggi, a fellow Italian who practises in Sweden. He's a leader in his field, and has experience of the (not very common, unavailable on the NHS, not allowed in Italy at all) kind of phalloplasty that would make me finally feel like me from the waist down.

 

Last I spoke to Dr Selvaggi, he quoted me the following:

• 7,000€ for top revision + masculinisation
• 20,000€ for phallo

At today's exchange rate, 27,000€ translates to ~ £23,256/28,120$. This is my base goal. Any other money raised will go towards related expenses, e.g:

• travel to/accomodation in Sweden
• sustenance during recovery

I live with a fair number of diagnosed conditions, i.e:

My combined conditions leave me with a limited capacity for work (I have been out of what the Department for Work and Pensions calls "gainful employment" for over 6 years), and severely impact my overall quality of life.

When I originally wrote this, I said that I was "on the hunt for an accessible day job that will allow me to be independent," and I meant it. But honestly, I don't know when/if/to what extent I'll ever be able to return to work. Currently, the unreasonable amount of admin that goes into being a disabled trans person in the UK takes up most of my very finite energy.

 

Therefore, I have to rely on mutual aid to save for gender-affirming care. I had previously raised just over £300 through PayPal Moneybox, but ended up needing that money for continued survival. So, this is me starting again from scratch.

 

I know times are hard for everyone, and they've been for far too long. The world seems to constantly be on fire. It's hard to feel worthy of (let alone ask for) help when there are so many people/causes in need of support.

But if I were to show myself the grace I endeavour to show others, I would say this:

"you can't pour from an empty cup, love."

So if I ever made you smile or laugh or think; if my art brings you joy; if I ever taught you anything; if we've had good times; if we're buds and you're wondering what to get me for Christmas; if you are able, and wish to donate anything at all to help me feel more at home in the one body I've got, I will be forever grateful.

And if not, that's alright too.

 

Thank you so much for reading this far.

 

All my trans queer love,

 

Jude