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On May 15, 2006, I was given the privilege to be this baby's mom. Born a month early, Jacob Ryan Werner was 5lb, 13oz and measured almost 22". He was long and skinny and looked a little bit like a tiny old wizard.
He was beautiful. My heart was full.
Minutes after he was born, he was admitted to the NICU where he stayed for 9 days. During those 9 days, I spent 12-14 hours per day right by his side.
Now I don't even get to see him 12-14 hours a MONTH.
My heart is broken.
For almost two years, I have been involved in a major custody battle with my ex-husband. Due to his actions and false accusations, I was evicted from my house in Rochester, accused of manufacturing and dealing drugs, and had physical custody of my son taken away. I've been fighting this battle for far too long...
I've had two major mental health episodes resulting in two suicide attempts in 14 months; requiring weeks of inpatient hospitalization and months of outpatient programs. This extended length of time off from work resulted in a reduction in wages when I ran out of Short Term Disability and PTO before I was able to return to work.
I've paid for two mediations, a parenting time evaluator, and hundreds of dollars in fees for supervised visits with Jacob.
I've racked up countless hours of attorney fees. I've been making payments of $230 dollars a month but with interest, it barely makes a dent in the balance. At this point, I owe over $10,000 dollars in attorney fees and it continues to increase. Thankfully, my current attorney bills me at a reduced rate and she's amazing. My first attorney did more harm than good and I still owe him a little over $7000. He was my attorney for about 6 months and he was crappy.
I'm close to losing everything and it's by the grace of God that I'm not homeless. I'm 4 months behind on my rent, have had my electricity shut off twice, pay hundreds of dollars in overdraft fees every month, and every week I wonder how I'm going to buy gas just to get to work.
I owe close to $5,000 in taxes, and every week I get another notice or two from a collection agency or law firm warning me of wage garnishment. That warning has come to fruition...HR notified me that my wages will be garnished to the tune of $493.10 starting with my next paycheck on 11/19. I literally will have no money on payday. I honestly don't know what I'm going to do.
I've already sold my car and countless belongings in an attempt to try to get my head above water, but I'm drowning...and I'm exhausted. And the hits just keep coming.
My ex husband has now completely destroyed me financially and he almost destroyed me emotionally.
ALMOST.
Thanks to the unwavering support of those who love me, I have managed to get stronger. Strong enough to continue my fight...because my son needs me in his life and I need him in mine.
So here I am asking for help...which is never an easy thing for me to do. Without your financial help, I won't be able to continue my fight to get my son back where he belongs. With me.

