Kyle and I are high school sweethearts to the fullest degree. We started dating in October of our freshman year of high school. We knew early in life that we would get married and become parents. We got married in June of 2007 at the age of 21 and waited to try to start a family while I was finishing up my Bachelor’s degree. We started “trying” to get pregnant when we were 23, but didn’t tell anyone because we wanted to surprise everyone when it happened. Or when we had hopes of it happening…
After two years of actively “trying”, we decided to go to my doctor to see what the reason was as to why we couldn’t get pregnant. The doctor concluded that infertility ran in my family (my mom and her two sisters all had endometriosis and her sister's both had to adopt), so it was best to start right away on the fertility drug, Clomid. We did five months of Clomid, without any luck. We went back to my doctor after the five months and she ended up recommending me to an infertility specialist because she couldn’t pinpoint the reason.
After meeting with the infertility doctor, who we absolutely loved, I went through lots of tests to see if they could pinpoint anything. I went through a dye test to check my tubes, hormone tests, and ultrasounds. It was discovered through the ultrasounds that I had endometriosis. The doctor recommended we try an IUI (intrauterine insemination) before doing anything more drastic. No luck.
We then moved into our first round of IVF with the doctor telling us that I was a prime candidate for IVF due to my age. No luck.
Only one of our embryos made it through the freezing stage, so we did a second round of IVF, which was a FET (frozen embryo transfer). No luck.
After the failed second round, I went through a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy and it was confirmed that I had severe endometriosis on my ovaries. After the surgery, we waited a couple months and then did a third round of IVF. NO LUCK.
At this point, we were physically, emotionally, and mentally drained. The doctor decided that my egg quality was the issue and that our only options were egg donor or medical induced menopause for six months to kill off my endo. No thank you on the second option!
We waited a long time before finding someone willing to become an egg donor. We even went to the doctor to have a meeting with the egg donor. Kyle and I decided that we were uncomfortable with the chance that we could spend lots of money to use an egg donor and not get anything out of it, AGAIN.
It took us a long time to reach the decision to adopt. Being told that you will not and cannot have kids naturally is quite the blow. We have come to realize though, that we can be “mom and dad”, even if we adopt. We will still be able to raise a child just like someone who had a biological child. Throughout our struggles, Kyle and I have stayed strong and have had supportive family and friends.
With that being said, we are in need of some help. We don’t like to ask for help, but adoption can be quite expensive. It is actually quite sad how expensive it can be when there are so many people out there that cannot have children or want to adopt fr various reasons and that there are so many children in need of loving homes. Through the next few months, we will need to pay for a home study, court fees, counseling fees, birth mom expenses, and other adoption fees. If you would like to help us make our dream of starting a family become a reality, it would be greatly appreciated. Even a small donation will help us get closer to our goal. Thank you so very much!
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