On November 15th, my husband was in MVA. At first, he tried to push through it. He’s always been the kind of man who just keeps going. But he’s not okay.

He’s been back and forth in the doctor’s office & the ER, Ever since. They kept telling him it was muscle spasms or a pulled muscle. They kept sending him home with medicine instead of answers. No one really listened. Then he started falling. At first it was here and there. Then it was all the time.

By the second week, he could barely stand.

By the third week, he needed a walker and still couldn’t keep his balance. He sprained his ankle. He fell off our porch. I was scared to leave him alone because I didn’t know what I would come home to.

At his appointment, I pushed him in a wheelchair because of the falling and sprained ankle and he was admitted right then. They found bulging discs at C5 and C6 pressing back toward nerves and the spinal cord, but still told us it “shouldn’t be causing this.”

He stayed in the hospital for five days.

No one helped him walk. No one labeled him as a fall risk. PT barely saw him, not even 20 minutes. Then they said he needed rehab with maximum assistance, and high fall risk.

Since Friday, he’s only gotten worse.

He can’t stand.

He can’t walk.

He can’t shower by himself.

He can’t even get out of bed without help.

He’s having to use a urinal to pee.

He’s getting worse by the day.

He’s in constant pain, not even just the pain the weakness, the legs giving out any moment. He cannot move his legs without using his hands or myself helping. He’s now fully in a wheelchair.

I’m watching the man I love struggle in ways I never imagined. We don’t have answers yet. We’re waiting on more tests. Home health nursing , PT, and OT are coming to the house; when? I’m not sure as they still have not called.

They wanted him in rehab, but the wait was weeks and he wanted to be home with our babies for Christmas — and even when a spot opens, Medicaid only covers a portion of it, which means we still have to pay a copay we don’t have. He hasn’t worked since November 15th. Bills don’t stop coming in just because life flipped upside down.

It’s Christmas time, and all we’ve managed to do is put the tree up. No ornaments. No real decorations. Not because we don’t care — but because we’re tired, overwhelmed, and just trying to survive.

We have two babies still in diapers and wipes. Those supplies don’t last forever. I can’t work. I’m taking care of our kids, especially Owen who needs medical care, and now I’m taking care of my husband too.

This is hard. Way harder than I know how to explain.

I didn’t want to make this post. I don’t want pity or attention. I just don’t know what else to do anymore. We are not asking for handouts.

But if kindness finds us, it will go toward keeping the lights, water, insurance, car payments, gas to getting to all these appointments, you know bills? Getting accessible supplies for him so I can keep him safe at home.

Before all of this happened, we were in the middle of trying to save up to fix our floors. They’ve been sinking, cracking, and buckling in different areas of our home, and we were told it was likely due to our underpinning. We were already stretched thin trying to prepare for that… and now, with my husband in a wheelchair, you can literally hear the floors cracking more. Certain areas feel unstable. It’s scary, and it’s not safe. Our bathroom isn’t built for this either. It’s small and only has a tub. I have to physically lift him in and out just so he can bathe. We have a bathroom in our new addition literally right in beside our bed but it’s no where near started. We always thought we had more time. It has a walk in shower something that would help. vs wheeling him all the way around the house and having to carry to the toilet or tub because the wheelchair and walker do not fit through. We weren’t prepared for this, I mean who is?

I know it’s Christmas time, and I know so many people are struggling right now. I know I’m going to get comments about posting this, and I’ve gone back and forth a hundred times about sharing. But I honestly don’t know what else to do.

Please pray for us. Please pray for him. And thank you for taking the time to read this.