Help Tyler get custody of AJ

Hello, my name is Brandon, and I am Tyler's brother.
Tyler is a young father of AJ Smith - a little girl put in a custody battle by her mother.
Note that I will try to refrain from speculation and conjecture. These are the facts as I know them. 

BACKGROUND

Tyler is the middle of three brothers. I am the youngest at 27, Tyler is just 28 and Justin is somewhere between 30-40. I am not good with birthdays.

 

That is Tyler on the left in agony. I am the one with the forehead. And that is Justin across our arms, our favorite Disney princess.

 

Needless to say, we grew up in a loving household with amazing parents (who are still married to this day).

 

 

We still go to Seaworld every year for Mother's day.

Tyler and I watch MacGruber for Christmas every year (I don't know why but it's our tradition).

 

Our extended family numbers around 50 and consists of aunts, uncles, cousins and such that are as close to us as anyone's brother or sister might be. We are a very close family and that's because we love deeply.

 

TYLER AND "HER"

Tyler was in college when he met "HER". They had been seeing each other for a few months. I remember him telling me about her with child-like wonder. He was in love.

 

Then, they found out "HER" was pregnant - surprise!

 

I was in the military at the time so Tyler called me up and told me that he had planned to marry "HER". Not only was he dedicated to fathering a child that wasn't planned - he was going to make a family. I was very happy for him because I could hear the pure joy in his voice.

 

Even though most people would consider an unplanned pregnancy in college to be a catastrophe - Tyler saw this as a blessing all the way through.

 

Tyler was always the sensitive brother.

Justin is the biggest personality you would ever meet. He encompasses a social situation - he is never a wallflower.

I've always been a social butterfly in my own regard but Tyler was always relatively quiet until you got to know him.

 

Anyways, I wasn't too surprised to hear that Tyler was going to make this work and give it his all.

 

Not only that but he worked AND went to school to get a good job for his family.

 

Even after our wonderful AJ Smith was born, Tyler juggled being a dad, student and employee. He worked in a millwork shop to make ends meet. He studied hard and gave 110% - for his family.

 

 

 

And guess what?

He graduated!

 

 

 

 

So Tyler was checking all the boxes. He read all the books. He did everything he could to be a family man with all this weight on his shoulders.

 

Then, one weekend I was home on leave right before I finished my enlistment. Tyler asked me to meet him across from our parents house where I was staying. I could hear in his voice that something was wrong.

 

So I drove to the old gas station and Tyler arrived, got in our dad's truck that I was driving. Tears filled his eyes and from what I could tell he had been crying for a while. He had found out conclusively that "HER" was cheating on him. We'd heard the rumors but small towns are full of those. But they just kept coming. More and more rumors of her escapades in various bars.

 

Rather than coming home to Tyler and Avery after work, many times she would go to a local dive bar for a few more hours. This much was confirmed - being that our oldest brother even saw her there one late night.

 

Now, this isn't about infidelity so I won't go into the rest but needless to say, their marriage was over.

 

"HER" then came out and said she had been seeing a local girl, "HER #2", for some time. She had practically moved in with "HER #2" before the divorce was even finalized.

 

Tyler was devastated. Here's a man who checked all the boxes and did everything right - but still wasn't enough.

 

Tyler may be a quiet and sensitive guy but he's not a weak man by any means. He made it work.

 

He tried to set a custody schedule so they could have joint custody.

 

 

THE FIRST SHOT FIRED

This wasn't enough for "HER"- she came for full custody. She even alleged that Tyler was a negligent dad and was harmful to AJ. Anyone having spent any amount of Tyler knew that it wasn't even possible.

Being his brother, I knew this was unequivocally false.

 

So this was her first cheap shot. A blatant lie to get full custody so she could move back to Houston.

 

Tyler took this with grace. He knew he was on the side of truth so he lawyered up. He never made any counter allegations. He never tried any trickery. He was ready to go to court to fight for his daughter.

 

Then, the court date came and "HER" didn't show. By all accounts, it appeared she didn't think he would fight it. But she would need an army to stand between Tyler and AJ.

 

Even then - did Tyler come for full custody then? Nope - and when I suggested it, he told me that he wanted it to remain joint for AJ’s sake. Despite everything "HER" put him through, he was willing to put up with it if it meant AJ was happy.

 

 

THE SECOND SHOT FIRED

Then - on 08/01, Tyler went to do the weekly swap. "HER" and "HER #2" should've shown up to drop off AJ. But they didn't show. They didn't reply to his text or calls. So he called the Sheriff's office and asked for a welfare check in case something happened.

 

Then, a deputy called back to inform him there was a protective order filed against him that he had no idea about. The Deputy told him to call his lawyer on Monday. Of course, Tyler called him immediately and found out that even his lawyer wasn't informed of anything.

 

Come Monday, Tyler gets a call from his lawyer and finds out that the protective order is against Tyler because "HER" is alleging that Tyler PHYSICALLY ABUSES AND SEXUALLY ASSAULTS HIS DAUGHTER.

 

That's right.

 

 

 

 

 

 

She made the most disgusting and egregious false accusations she could against a selfless man whose love for his daughter knows no bounds.

 

 

 

He called me again to tell me - I was simply shocked. He was more confused than anything else.

 

We talked for at least thirty minutes trying to figure out what angle she was going for.

Why would she lie like this? Why would she cross that line? All this just so she can take AJ and move away?

 

I tried out a few theories but Tyler - in his unrelenting tendency to see the best in people - dismissed most because he didn't think she was a bad mom.

 

I relented because I couldn't possibly know if she was or not.

(As for her as a person... I have several words that come to mind.)

 

Anyways, back to it - so the court has AJ undergo a forensic evaluation. "HER", "HER #2" and Tyler all see a forensic psychologist (or psychiatrist? I don't know the difference).

 

Of course, the forensic examination of AJ finds NOTHING. No sign of abuse - sexual or otherwise.

 

Furthermore, a few key points according to the psych from the evaluation of "HER" and "HER #2" revealed that they both display narcissistic tendencies, an attempt to portray themselves in such positive light that it "defies human logic" and extreme aggression/anger towards Tyler.

 

Avery was present during this interview. During it, the child psychologist noted that she behaved poorly around her mother, smelled of urine, and had "conflicting views of (Tyler)" which "suggested that she was likely coached beforehand" and that she was being fed lines, among other issues.

 

Imagine our lack of surprise.

 

Needless to say, Tyler found out today that the court threw out the case. I would say that is record time.

 

WHAT'S NEXT?

 

This is the second time she's tried to tear away AJ for no reason other than who she is as a person.

 

How can one go back to joint custody after one parent falsely accuses the other of SEXUALLY ASSAULTING their CHILD?

 

There was a time when he stood steady through her abuse towards him and lies for the sake of AJ growing up with both parents.

 

But it’s clear that “SHE” won’t stop until she destroys Tyler.

 

This isn't just about Tyler. AJ is part of our family. She has a grandpa and a grandma that love her more than you can imagine. She is the light of their lives.

 

"HER" didn't just try to take AJ from Tyler - she tried to take AJ from all of us.

 

AJ AND "MEME"

 

 

 

AJ AND "PAW PAW"

 

 

 

 

AJ AND HER UNCLE "JAY-JAY"

 

 

 

AJ, ME, OUR MOM, AND OUR MOM'S MOM

 

 

 

Tyler has fought just to keep his daughter and it has drained him both emotionally and financially. He is the kind of guy to listen to Dave Ramsey, have a diverse investment portfolio and make smart financial decisions within his budget.

 

Yet a single person's vile soul set in motion a chain of events that basically bankrupted him and is not over yet.

 

So we're asking you - our friends, family and strangers. We need your help. We need AJ to grow up with a happy and loving childhood.

 

All donations will go directly to Tyler for his legal fees. You can rest assured that any extra money will go to Tyler's little family to give AJ a happy life.

 

Thanks for reading and God bless.