Support after wife and mother passes leaving family in need.
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- My name is Jason Burnside. I am disabled, with 3 children, and my wife of 14 years passed away on the 14th of March. We were together for 16 years in total. The last 2 year we have battled my wife's pancreatic cancer, as well as our youngest sons severe epilepsy for the last 5 and a half years. Every doctor appointment is about an hour drive away, one way at that. I'm not very good at asking for help. I know that I'm going to need all the help I can get to raise these 3 boys by myself. I suffered a massive stroke almost 11 years ago that caused me to lose my entire left side, my sight, and my speech. Our oldest son had been born 3 weeks prior at 23 weeks. He weighed a pound and a half, was 12 inches long, spent 5 months in the NICU, and was 10 long weeks before we even got to hold him. Thanks to him coming so early, I was only a block away from the trauma center and they got to me in time. I ended up starting to get everything back, slowly. After a year and a half, I was able to walk and talk again. But I never did get my memory back fully. Im missing parts of my childhood, my short term memory isnt working hardly at all, and my recall only works when someone or something can kick start it. My wife was a stay at home mom and handled paying the bills each month from my disability payment. Unfortunately chemo can sometimes affect and change people or also affect their memory. My wife went through both. I'm afraid that she has missed some bill payments on different things and also has bought little gifts for other cancer patients/survivors until she has maxed out all of my credit cards. Im not speaking bad about my wife by any means. I saw her day in and day out, just fading away, and she couldnt do much else. I didn't want to take that away from her too. I had no idea how bad it was, I was under the impression that we were all caught up on all our regular bills. Its just all hitting at once. Im afraid she's got me in a bit of a bind. She was coherent but her memory was gone. I finally got logged in to check the credit cards and found charge after charge for 5 or 6 dollars. Reguardless, it's done and nothing I can do to change. I'm still a father of 3 wonderful boys (almost 11, 10, and 6). The youngest one that has epilepsy, he is due to have surgery April 2nd. They will be putting a Vegus Nerve Stimulator. In hopes that between it and the medication it will control his seizures. My oldest son (the one that was a foot long at birth) will be turning 11 in the next couple of weeks. My wife passed 5 days before our anniversary, and 9 days before our middle son's birthday. She was doing so well and then just turned so quickly. She didn't want to discuss anything to do with the end. I tried a few times, but she would just end up extremely upset. I did my best to keep her happy all the way up to the end. Not being able to make more income is horrible. All I have ever known is work. I have a lot to figure out and a long way to go, but I refuse to fail my family. Even if it means asking for help. I'm just leaning on my faith right now and praying to God for guidance. Thank you in advance to anyone and everyone for any and all help. If you can't donate, please share it.
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Jason Burnside
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Vicksburg, MS