I never imagined I would find myself in a position where I have to ask for help like this, but right now, it’s the only way I can protect my children and myself.

I am a mother of three beautiful children, and I recently gave birth to my youngest via C-section. What should have been a happy time of healing and bonding has instead become a daily fight for safety and survival. Just days after my surgery, I was shoved around and thrown into furniture while holding my infant, causing a fall and serious post c-cection complications. I have developed an internal hernia that continues to grow and causes constant pain. I am still bleeding more than 9 weeks after my operation, and I have not been able to receive the medical care I desperately need. 

I am being denied medical care because the person I depend on financially is withholding support. I never even went for a 6 week follow up. Every day that passes puts my life at greater risk, and I live with the fear that this condition could become life-threatening at any moment if I am not taken even before then by the esculating abuse.

My children and I are living in an environment filled with emotional, verbal, mental, physical, financial, and sexual abuse. Threats of being murdered. My children are increasingly exposed to anger and instability no child should ever witness even though I do everything I can to shield them, but I am running out of hope and options. I am struggling to stay positive.

 

Over the years, I have become completely isolated. Through manipulation and control, I have been cut off from friends and family, and I no longer have a support system I can turn to in this moment. I have been kept from working outside the home I share with my abuser. I have nothing to my name. This has made it even harder to find a way out safely.

I have chosen to remain anonymous for our safety. Sharing my identity could put us at even greater risk, as my partner is not aware that I am planning to leave. This step is necessary to protect myself and my children while I try to find a safe way out. Once safety is no loner a concern I will be more transparent in updates as the process goes along.

I am asking for help to get us out of this situation as quickly and safely as possible. The funds raised will go immediately towards securing safe accommodation, basic necessities like food, basic furniture and clothing. Once we are safe, I will be able to seek urgent medical treatment, a full evaluation of the internal damage, bruising and bleeding including surgery to repair the internal tearing and hernia. The rest of the funds will go to securing a lawyer and take the necessary legal steps to protect us permanently, trauma counseling for myself and my children and to survive for the first couple of months until I can find a stable income. 

This is not just about escaping a harmful environment—it is about giving my children a chance to grow up safe, stable, and free from fear, staying alive and giving me a chance to heal and be the mother they deserve.

Any support, no matter how small, will help us take a step toward safety and a new beginning.

Thank you for taking the time to read our story.