Hi, my name is Hailey Kocar, and this is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do — asking for help. But I’ve come to a place in my life where I can’t do this alone anymore.

I’m a stay-at-home mom trying to leave an emotionally abusive relationship. I’ve spent years focusing on raising my kids and making a home, but now I’m faced with the reality that in order to protect myself and provide a healthier environment for them, I have to walk away — with nothing but our clothes and courage.

Because I haven’t had an income, I don’t have the resources to leave safely on my own. I need help covering basic moving costs — especially a U-Haul and fuel — and potentially some essentials for the kids and myself, depending on where we end up (whether we stay here in Montana or relocate to Washington State to be closer to support).

I’ve held off on asking for help for a long time because I didn’t want to place this burden on any one person, especially family — this isn’t their weight to carry. But I’m at my breaking point. I’m exhausted, scared, and deeply embarrassed that it’s come to this, but I know my kids deserve more. I know I deserve more.

Your support — whether financial, sharing this, or simply words of encouragement — means more than you could possibly know. Every little bit helps give us a chance to rebuild, safely and with hope.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, and thank you for believing in second chances.

With love and gratitude,

Hailey