Help me save Shylie - Mental Health Awareness

Hello everyone,

My name is Alyssa, before you read any further I’d like to thank you for taking the time to read our story, I’d also like to thank god for your blessings.

This go fund me support is in honor of my first born Shylie and bringing awareness to mental health in relation to narcissism. This is a touchy subject so be aware!

Trying to make this short and to the point with the right words is hard. I’ve been trapped not being able to talk and express what we’re going through has effected me as well, some days I can think clearly and some days I can’t. My momma heart is broken and I just want to save my daughters life!

Asking for help is by far the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, I’ve never been in a place where I’ve felt safe enough to ask for help. I am facing my biggest fear in hopes to save my daughters life and many more!

As many of you know I left my relationship of 9 years (10/2/2023 will be 1 year since I left) were married for more than half of those 9 years, we have a beautiful family, intelligent daughters and a blessed life.

In 2019 is when I started to feel like something was wrong. I have been on a healing journey for the last 4 years, including 3 years of weekly therapy, 8 weeks of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, weight loss surgery, a year of guided TM meditation, consistently been in the gym for 2 years, I’ve listened to countless books, on self help, mindset,  and have done a so much personal development, finished my degree as well as practicing holistic healing. 

I tried to save my marriage for 3 years and every passing day I continued to see the signs of unhealthy behavior patterns with.

September 15, 2022 Daniels behavior became out of control, I left to a hotel with my 3 girls for a week. During this time I listened to a book called the Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist by Debbie Mirza. I was in shock, I felt every word written in that book, I felt as if she was telling my life. The mental abuse was so discreet it’s hard to put in words. I knew after listening to that book what I had to do. I loved this man with all of my heart and soul, I knew I had to leave. Breaking up the family I always dreamed of having as a little girl broke my heart, but I had to get out for the safety of my girls and myself. I have been abused my entire life, had I seen or understood the red flags in the beginning our lives would be different, I didn’t know any better at the time.

To be honest we were alienated by everyone in his family, my girls and I absolutely love our Figueroa family but we had to do what was best for us. I knew none of them would understand, we’ve had no support from any of his family.

I ended up leaving my apartment in short notice with Shylie and Ariah with just the clothes we own on 10/2/2022. (On 9/23/-9/24 Daniel crossed the line in a sexual manner and I had to go.) Everything else stayed in my apartment. I asked him to leave my apartment to find somewhere else to go, he refused, I had no choice but to stay with my mom, step dad and brothers, in October of 2023 after Shylie’s 3rd in patient hospitalization I knew we would not be able to return to my mothers home after realizing my mother is also a narcissistic and extremely toxic. Her home was no longer a safe place for myself and my girls. We have been homeless in shelter placement since then. My mother has since filed a false affidavit to DCS claiming I’m physically abusing and neglecting my children. (Thank god the case was dropped) her and Daniel have been stalking and tracking us which is why there is an active order of protection. 

Daniel is the only father figure Shylie has known, he always said to Shylie and myself he was her dad no matter what. Shortly after we left. Daniel expressed over the phone to Shylie he wasn’t her dad anymore. Shylie is facing so many emotions (all 3 girls are) , she misses what she thought was our family. 

Shylie since has been diagnosed with major depressive disorder, conduct disorder and Autism as well as battling health conditions. 

You can only image how this has effected our girls, I have been trying to be a positive role model and get Shylie as much help as she needs but I’m failing alone.

Shylie has always been a loving, kind, intelligent lady, since our separation she has been in and out of trouble in school, substance abuse, suicidal ideation, deviancy etc. Going through all of this trauma has caused both Shylie and I sever mental strain. There are days I’m unable to think clearly, psychological abuse affects everyone differently and the behaviors have been shown in all 3 of our girls.

Unfortunately I was let go because I was missing work to help with my children and their needs. I have no income currently. We lost everything, our family, our friends, our belongings (our apartment complex threw away everything in my storage unit without notice) Shylie has nothing, none of her old toys, stuffed animals, keep sakes, nothing!!

I have been trying my hardest to stay a float, this momma is drowning and needs help! I have no discharge date for Shylie.

I’m still in the middle of this heavy divorce and trying my best to take care of my mental health and provide the best care I can with limited resources. 

This hard, I need HELP PLEASE , help me help my babies please.

Your donations are going towards housing, transportation, medical care, and basic needs. 

There is way more to what we’ve been going through and I do plan on speaking out more on my story and knowledge. I know I can help many of you and I will.

I want to thank you all for reading and a huge shout out to my Tempe community, my daughters schools and administrators, neighbors, for all the support! If anyone wants to write Shylie some words of encouragement, send her a special note please reach out and I will provide an address you can mail or drop off.

From the bottom of my heart thank you to everyone who has been on the sidelines supporting me in my darkest hours! We are blessed! Much love to you all!!