When we were 33 years old we went to see our first fertility specialist. One of the requirements was to talk to a therapist to make sure we were "sure". When she asked us why now, I mentioned that we were 33 and time was ticking. She responded that we were young and I felt relief.
Five years later, countless IUIs, one miscarriage and too many injections to remember we're still trying to have a baby.
Because of some physiological complications (fibroid tumors, ovarian cysts and blocked fallopian tubes), it's looking more and more likely that in order to get and stay pregnant we'll have to turn to IVF and at this point, we frankly can't afford to do it alone.
So, we're turning to our friends and family and loved ones and friends of friends to help us on this long and twisted journey to parenthood.
A bit about us. We have been together for 9 years and married for 2. We live in the Pacific Northwest with an adorable and spoiled dog, two equally spoiled cats and 6 chickens. We are both professionals with jobs (yay!) and dwindling savings (boo!). We are both Jewish and can't wait to have a big Jewish family.
Some folks have said, I believe out of kindness, that we should just adopt. And while I believe this is meant out of love, I want to address right off the bat that we both passionately want to carry and birth children. We have every intention to foster children in the future.
We are collecting funds to help pay for IVF treatment; fertility drugs, egg retrieval transfer of embryos, all of which we will have to pay out of pocket. We are not asking for money to pay for donor sperm.
Making this ask has been hard, to say the least. For the most part, our infertility journey has been a private one. We've shared with close friends or anyone who will listen, but opening up and being vulnerable in this way feels pretty tender. Any amount you can donate helps. Any kind words mean the world. Any bit of sharing of our story helps us realize our dream.
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