Help Baby Asher's NICU Journey

Hi family and friends, this is hard for me to write due to me even having to write a GoFundMe page. As some of you know, I was pregnant with my second son, Asher Christopher. I was diagnosed high risk due to my own medical history. This was an extremely hard pregnancy on me. My son was originally due to be born November 28, then my OB doctor changed my date to November 17. The due dates can always be a few days off, so we didn't think anything of it. When October came, another high-risk doctor mentioned me being induced because they didn't want Asher to come naturally due to complications I could have during birth. My date then changed to October 28. My family and I were so excited to meet him. October 28 came, and at 10:35 am, baby Asher was born via c-section. That's when our lives went from joy to a drop in our hearts. Asher was born black and blue, and his lungs collapsed. All I could do was watch while laying on the surgery table. My husband and I knew immediately something was wrong, but no one would let us know anything. (I will not mention the hospital's name.) They worked on Asher for 12 minutes and immediately called the NICU doctor to take him immediately there for oxygen. My husband or I never got contact with him. We were left in our thoughts to imagine what was going on. Asher wasn't born early due to his health; my whole pregnancy, we were told he was a healthy boy with everything functioning. We later come to find out the NICU doctors believe they got my dates wrong, and instead of being born at his gestational age of 37 and 1 day old, they believed his gestational age was really around 34 weeks old. So that is why his lungs collapsed, and he wasn't fully developmentally his gestational age as we assumed. I still have so many questions on how my OB doctor could have gotten that far off, and I'm still looking for answers. Asher has been in the NICU since October 28, 2024. He is still fighting every day to be stronger and learn to eat from a bottle. He is currently now breathing on his own, but since he was younger at birth than we all thought, he has been struggling to eat on his own. He currently has an NG tube to assist in his feeds. This has been one of the hardest things in my life, watching my son, who is so pure and innocent, fight so hard to be in this world. The next step will be a G-tube surgery to be able to have him home with us. I have been struggling with this decision because there have been so many factors I believe have gone wrong in the NICU due to some nurses really trying to help and assist my son and some that just try to feed him, then quit after 10 minutes and insert the remaining feeds in the tube. Also, the unanswered questions we have requested and not being able to speak to a NICU doctor. We have not been able to speak to an actual doctor since my son has been in the NICU due to not being available. (Again, I won't mention the hospital for respect purposes.) This has been very emotionally and financially draining on my family. My husband took off 3 weeks from work, not paid, due to my birth and then extra time due to my mental status. I am really struggling. We have to continue being parents to our other 3 kids and still worry about our baby in the NICU. I don't like asking for help or assistance of any kind. My dad, Chris Gallagher, and my Aunt Mary have helped us a lot, but we are still covered in bills and financial burdens during this hard time. Family and loved ones, I am here to ask if you have anything, even a donation of a dollar, it would help us a lot with bills, hospital visits, and working very hard to get Asher home. With that comes surgery for a G-tube so we can assist in his feeds if he refuses to eat when home and a lot of appointments in the future. Please pray for baby Asher and his strength to build and health to improve. Also, please pray for me while I struggle with the burden of not questioning my OB doctor about being induced early and not going with my intuition of just letting Asher come on his own. Pray for our strength to be parents through the hurt, the anxiety, and stress we are dealing with. I can't imagine how NICU parents go through this daily. Thank you if you got this far, and anything is so appreciated.