Help Abri and Kate Become Moms

As many of you know, Abri and I have been trying to become moms for almost four years now. This journey has been physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially exhausting and beaten us down over and over again.

We saved every penny on our own throughout this journey, over $50k total and have spent it all trying. We had just enough to do IVF last year, after years of failed IUIs. Abri prepared physically and mentally for the IVF journey. She had multiple procedures to ensure her body was healthy. And it worked; we finally got our miracle baby, our Sonny boy. It was the happiest moment of our lives, really. At our 20-week appointment, we found out Sonny didn’t have a heartbeat. We went straight to the hospital for Abri to give birth to him. It was the worst day of our lives. Sonny was born into this world on December 3rd, the day before my birthday. It was a fluke; the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck. We still cannot fully understand why this happened to us and our baby after all the years we’ve tried nonstop. What happened to Sonny wasn’t fair, and there is nothing we could have done to prevent it. Abri was healthy, and so was Sonny, and that’s why this is so damn hard.

Abri’s dream has always been to be pregnant, and those 20 weeks of our lives were our happiest. The doctor told us what happened to Sonny was a complete accident and it had nothing to do with Abri, and he supports her trying again. We want to try for Abri to be pregnant again; we want Sonny to have a sibling related to him. We secured another vial of sperm from the donor we used to make Sonny, and that was a little silver lining that happened right before Christmas (our donor is retired, and somebody returned a vial, so it was a miracle we got one).

Our goal is to be moms, simple as that. But we’re out, financially. And we can’t waste more time; our goal is to try again this year. We are putting our egos down and asking for help. It’s not easy for us, but it’s time. We live a simple, modest life. Our jobs are selfless, but we love what we do. I love being a teacher and making kids happy; Abri loves doing hair and forming relationships with her clients. But all we really want is to be moms, and we’d be damn good moms. Please help us try again if you can. We gave it our all over the years but we’re out. We have to do IVF again, and it costs $30,000. It can work, and it will work. Thank you all.