Help a great daddy with legal fees please
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My brother is dad to a wonderful 6 year old little girl, who is his whole world. The mother is a former partner and my brother has had shared custody since his daughter D was a year old. My mom was able to pay legal fees at that time. The mother accused him of molestation when she was faced with him being awarded shared parenting time, which is probably the most heinous accusation a person can make against another individual, and of course he was cleared. The minute he was awarded time, she went and filed this accusation, which led to the trauma of my niece being examined at the hospital. My niece is behind developmentally and has been pretty severely neglected by her mother, so my brother navigated the court system on his own. Now that their day in court is near, she’s been served with a Notice to Appear for mid-September, and she is definitely looking at a reduction of her parenting time, she went to CPS and filed another false report against him. They won’t tell him the second accusation but he was not allowed to have his time with D this weekend. She went to them at 4:45pm, knowing everything closed at 5:00 until Tuesday. He is distraught and has been afraid to fight to amend parenting time because he knew this would happen again. The evidence against her is damming, and he should be able to take full custody of his daughter during this modification hearing but he has to make it through this CPS process now too, and it’s dangerous to go through that without representation. Both cases are in Jefferson County, CO. I have requested an emergency placement of my niece with me until these hearings are over and I am hoping and praying that they realize how bad this situation is. My brother should have made a CPS referral a long time ago but he thought that by including the abuse and neglect in his court filings, the court would have to refer. We do not know that the court has done so. We also don’t know if D’s school or doctor has referred.
So you get an idea of how bad this situation is, she:
- Did not take her daughter to 32 days of kindergarten and she took her for a partial day 17 other times. The educational portion of kindergarten was in the morning so she essentially missed most of her learning opportunities for the late arrivals too.
- The school recommended she repeat kindergarten because she was not ready to advance. She has been the target of bullying already because of her delays.
- The mother refused to hold her back and the court system works so slowly that school has started.
- The school and pediatricians have diagnosed the child with extreme depression and anxiety, and mother refuses to consent to counseling or treatment for her child.
- Mother bounces from place to place and refuses to tell the court or my brother where the child lives. She has been caught providing a false address to the court.
- Mother was forcing the child to call a boyfriend “daddy”. They broke up and he was as unstable as she is. He killed himself. She quickly found a new boyfriend, who the girls are living with (mother has since had another child who is 2 or 3). Mother told us that she was simply caring for this new child for a friend who had overdosed. We now believe this is the mother’s second child.
- Mother is part of the goth scene in Denver and the child has been forced, along with her toddler sister, to watch horror films such as the movie It. Mother refused to let the children leave the room or watch anything else. Mother then just told CPS that the father, my brother, is the person forcing D to watch these films. We recorded D crying about her mom forcing her to watch these scary movies in preparation for court.
- D can not practice basic hygiene at 6. She also can barely speak. She is in desperate need of more intervention than what is provided through her IEP at school.
- Mother has tried to restrict father’s
legal access to medical and school records. Both the school and doctors have been eager to work with my brother. In the medical records, the mother is labeled as argumentative and combative as well as suicidal. If I shared a picture of the mother, you would find it scary. I’m trying not to cross any lines by posting her name or
picture.
- Mother has made public Facebook posts about wanting to kill herself. Other posts are regarding BDSM and rape fantasies.
- D’s grandparent’s appear to be heavily involved. They have civil and criminal histories, and evictions and judgments dating back to the early 90s.
- Mother claimed she did not know she was pregnant and also went through extreme measures to convince my brother and our family that she was dying of Stage 4 cervical cancer. She told the hospital staff after a cesarean delivery that she was on chemo for this cancer. This was an attempt to get my brother to stay with her and to garner sympathy. To the best of our knowledge, she has never had any type of cancer. Her new claim is that her mother, D’s grandmother, is now dying.
I think that I’ve covered the issues pretty comprehensively here. My brother has owned his home for 11 years, he manages a warehouse, he has no criminal record whatsoever, and is engaged to a great woman who has been actively involved with D. D’s mom has hidden appointments and events from him but he has attended every school event he gets information about. In order to keep my brother from doctors appointments, the mother takes the child to urgent care instead of her pediatrician for all but annual check ups. For those, she claims to book last minute appointments. She has violated the court ordered Parenting Plan in every way thinkable and has told D that her dad wants to take her away forever. For what it’s worth, D gets physically ill when her dad’s parenting time is coming to an end on Sundays and she has to go back to her mother. She repeatedly asks to stay and she cries. The mother screams at D if she doesn’t act sad to go with her father.
So I’m posting this as far and wide as I can, but please help him. Especially if you are family, any amount helps. I trust my brother with my life and I have no doubt that he is nothing but an outstanding human being and the best father any child could ask for. I will do as much as I can to help him and D but I can’t do it alone! Thank you ❤️
So you get an idea of how bad this situation is, she:
- Did not take her daughter to 32 days of kindergarten and she took her for a partial day 17 other times. The educational portion of kindergarten was in the morning so she essentially missed most of her learning opportunities for the late arrivals too.
- The school recommended she repeat kindergarten because she was not ready to advance. She has been the target of bullying already because of her delays.
- The mother refused to hold her back and the court system works so slowly that school has started.
- The school and pediatricians have diagnosed the child with extreme depression and anxiety, and mother refuses to consent to counseling or treatment for her child.
- Mother bounces from place to place and refuses to tell the court or my brother where the child lives. She has been caught providing a false address to the court.
- Mother was forcing the child to call a boyfriend “daddy”. They broke up and he was as unstable as she is. He killed himself. She quickly found a new boyfriend, who the girls are living with (mother has since had another child who is 2 or 3). Mother told us that she was simply caring for this new child for a friend who had overdosed. We now believe this is the mother’s second child.
- Mother is part of the goth scene in Denver and the child has been forced, along with her toddler sister, to watch horror films such as the movie It. Mother refused to let the children leave the room or watch anything else. Mother then just told CPS that the father, my brother, is the person forcing D to watch these films. We recorded D crying about her mom forcing her to watch these scary movies in preparation for court.
- D can not practice basic hygiene at 6. She also can barely speak. She is in desperate need of more intervention than what is provided through her IEP at school.
- Mother has tried to restrict father’s
legal access to medical and school records. Both the school and doctors have been eager to work with my brother. In the medical records, the mother is labeled as argumentative and combative as well as suicidal. If I shared a picture of the mother, you would find it scary. I’m trying not to cross any lines by posting her name or
picture.
- Mother has made public Facebook posts about wanting to kill herself. Other posts are regarding BDSM and rape fantasies.
- D’s grandparent’s appear to be heavily involved. They have civil and criminal histories, and evictions and judgments dating back to the early 90s.
- Mother claimed she did not know she was pregnant and also went through extreme measures to convince my brother and our family that she was dying of Stage 4 cervical cancer. She told the hospital staff after a cesarean delivery that she was on chemo for this cancer. This was an attempt to get my brother to stay with her and to garner sympathy. To the best of our knowledge, she has never had any type of cancer. Her new claim is that her mother, D’s grandmother, is now dying.
I think that I’ve covered the issues pretty comprehensively here. My brother has owned his home for 11 years, he manages a warehouse, he has no criminal record whatsoever, and is engaged to a great woman who has been actively involved with D. D’s mom has hidden appointments and events from him but he has attended every school event he gets information about. In order to keep my brother from doctors appointments, the mother takes the child to urgent care instead of her pediatrician for all but annual check ups. For those, she claims to book last minute appointments. She has violated the court ordered Parenting Plan in every way thinkable and has told D that her dad wants to take her away forever. For what it’s worth, D gets physically ill when her dad’s parenting time is coming to an end on Sundays and she has to go back to her mother. She repeatedly asks to stay and she cries. The mother screams at D if she doesn’t act sad to go with her father.
So I’m posting this as far and wide as I can, but please help him. Especially if you are family, any amount helps. I trust my brother with my life and I have no doubt that he is nothing but an outstanding human being and the best father any child could ask for. I will do as much as I can to help him and D but I can’t do it alone! Thank you ❤️
Organizer and beneficiary
Meghan Anderson
Organizer
Thornton, CO
Alexander Dearman
Beneficiary